When is the best time to put baby in his own bedroom ??

@ricknkae (1721)
United States
March 12, 2007 8:25pm CST
So I was wondering when you think would be the best time to put my baby in his own bedroom ? that is to make things as smooth as possible ... Is there any age more favorable for such transition ... or on the other side are there really bad ages when I should really NOT do it ? All ideas welcome ... thank you in advance PS: he is 4 1/2 months old
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• United States
13 Mar 07
Oh, gosh. My son's 19 mo. and he's STILL in our room. We co-sleep, though, so I guess that might be different? It seems like you may have him in the bassinet in your room. I'm not sure if there are any bad ages to do it. I think a lot of it depends more on when YOU are ready. Are you ready to have your baby in his own room? Or would you feel more comfortable if he stayed in your room a couple more months? You may want to make sure he can easily lift and support his head by himself and possibly make sure he can easily roll over on his own. I'm just mentioning this because of the SIDS risk.
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• United States
14 Mar 07
You may be overthinking a little. I personally would still wait till 6 months just because of the SIDS thing, but I bet it's crowded with the crib in there! Like someone below said, you might want to transition. Maybe let him fall asleep in your room and then move him. Or put him in his room and if he wakes up and seems frightened or too confused, maybe you could let him stay in your room the rest of the night?
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
14 Mar 07
well the thing is that we only have one crib and I cannot move it easily ...
@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I think I am ready for him to be in his room - I have a baby monitor already to feel reassured a little more and I am not too worried about SIDS since he can support his head and roll over back and forth pretty easily Right from the start he sleeps in his own bed - a small bassinet at first and now he sleeps in his crib - only the crib is just next to our bed and he can see me when he sleeps ... I am worried he might notice that he can no longer see me ... or am I just overthinking ??
@all4ucnc (861)
• United States
13 Mar 07
With my son, I placed him in his own crib in his room with a baby monitor at 3 weeks.....My daughter was in her own room the first night. Of coarse their rooms are right across from mine, So it didn't take long for me to be there in a flash when they needed me. If their rooms are farther away then I may have waited until they were sleeping at least 6hours during the night before moving them to their own with a baby monitor, so you can still hear them during the night.(as long as they aren't sleeping in the same bed as you. That is really hard to break a child of,
@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I already have a baby monitor - and yes the room is a little further away ... but he sleeps in his own crib already I am actually worried that I might end up spending the night walking back and forth between the 2 bedrooms ... or will he get used to it ?
@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
14 Mar 07
yes I understand what you mean ... so at what age did your daughter sleep in her own bedroom ?
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
If he is sleeping for more than 4 hours in a stretch at night, any time now would be good, since he will fuss if you keep him in yours for much longer. Just don't be like my daughter, and nurse all night so the baby sleeps right in bed with her. She took more than 2 months to get the baby to wean, and she is now nearly 16 months and still asking to nurse in the night.
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
13 Mar 07
yes he usually sleeps 4 hours in a stretch, sometimes even longer ... but he doesn't sleep in our bed, he sleeps in his own crib ... I think it will make it easier since he is already used to his bed ... don't you think ?
• United States
13 Mar 07
I don't really have an answer..I think it's just really how comfortable you are with the idea of your baby being in another room. My daughter is almost 3 and still shares our bedroom, but that is out of necessity. When we get moved, she will be in her own room. My son just recently--within the last 6 months or so--started sleeping in his own bed. We had a family bed from birth with him. Again, I just think it's when you feel comfy. Are you ready for him to go to another room? Would you be able to get a good night's rest or would it bother you a lot? Is he having problems sleeping in your room, like because of rolling over or snoring? These are the questions I would ask myself. I would have changed my daughter to her own room probably 2 years ago if we could have. That would have been when she was close to 1 yr old. But that is me.
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Well, I have a baby monitor, so I think I would feel comfortable for him to be in his room. I am more concerned about how HE would take things ... like if I end up spending the nigh tgoing back and forth between the 2 rooms, it's not worth it ... but maybe he would get used to it ... I don't know ... because yes, hubby is snoring, and caughs a lot too during the night and sometimes it wakes the baby up ... without mentioning the alarm clock ...
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
Hi :) Our daughter was in a bassinet in our room until she was 6 months, i would have moved her sooner but Nanna & Grandad were buying the cot etc & were working a LOT so she had to wait a little longer. Her first night in the new cot in her room was an all night sleep - it took about 15 - 20 minutes to get her off to sleep (she was excited by the amount of room she had to crawl around in) but once she was asleep she didn't wake up once. She also got in to a routine once she was in her own room & cot - in bed at 8:30pm & awake around 7:30 - 8am! I guess whenever you're comfortable having them in another room, is when you put them in there. Our daughter (at 3-4 months) was sleeping all night long anyway so we could have moved her any time! I went with a night light & she sleeps all night, every night & has only had the occasional mid-night wake up so 4 1/2 months is fine & if a night light helps, go with it, if a dummy helps go with that too! I'd say the only bad time to do it, is if they're MUCH older & don't like the idea of sleeping in a room alone but bubs don't know the difference so now is a good time!
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
15 Mar 07
He still wakes up around 3 for a middle night feeding though ... so shoudl I wait ? ...
• United States
13 Mar 07
I have 3 children and I think it just depends on the baby and the situation. My son for example suffered from severe colic. Some nights it seemed as though he never slept. It was a lot easier for me to sit up and pick him up from his crib next to my bed rather than run down the hall. He was about 6 or 7 months before he went to his own room. My girls on the other hand was in their own room by 3 or 4 months. They seemed to be happier having their own space. At any age it may not be a smooth transition so to speak. My pediatricians always told me to lay them down and let them cry a little. Although my two youngest liked their own space it still took a little convincing for them to want to stay there all night:) Go back every few minutes and reassure them that they are ok and that you love them. Little by little spread out your response time. They told me not to pick them up but leave them in their crib and just reassure them. Unless there is an obvious problem like they are sick, have a dirty diaper,ect. Eventually they will learn that they are ok and that it is time for bed. I felt awful at first letting my girls cry but you know what? After a few weeks they were on a schedule. You should check with your pediatrician though on what age to implement this. It has been a while since my children were 4 months. But I think it was around that time I was told to do this. I hope this helps!
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
26 Mar 07
Thank you for your detailed answer ... His room is almost ready so I will try as few pieces of advice mylotters gave me, such as yours
@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I have a 9 month old. She has her own room now because we moved into a 2 bedroom apt. She slept in our room until 8 months. The transition was pretty smooth. She didn't give us any problems. I don't see why you couldn't give him his own room now.
@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
I would say that I would start to put him down in his own room anytime now. Start with his naps maybe than gradually move on up to bed time too. My son slept in our room until he was about 5-6 months in the cradle then I put him in his crib in his own room. That was smooth sailing and there was never a problem with it. I think if you do it when they are younger it is easier. If you wait until an older age they sense it more making bedtime in their own bed much harder. Give it a try, get a baby moniter even if you are in the next room beside him and see how it goes. If it is really upsetting him and it is not working...I suggest just waiting a bit longer..and trying it in a few months. But The Younger The Better!
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• Italy
13 Mar 07
my daugther is 16 months old but she still sleep in my bedroom. I will put her in her room when she will talk
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
13 Mar 07
My son always slept in his crib in hos own room andthis was before the days of baby monitors. I think the long you wait, the harder it will be. I understand that people sometimes have the baby sleep in their room initially because it is easier for them but then it seems like more pain in the long run. I have heard of kids sleeping in the parents room until the kids are 5 or 6 years old then.
@cjthedog64 (1552)
• United States
26 Mar 07
DH was working nights when DS was born, so I just kept him in a bassinet in our room. When he was about 4 months old, DH switched back to days, so we transitioned DS at the same time. I still spent a few months with him getting up for night feedings, but he did fine. He's 15 months now, and there have been a couple of times he's woken up and not felt good, and I've tried to bring him in my room to lay down. He won't do it. He wants to explore. He's most comfortable sleeping in his own crib. I guess that's good though. :)
@jaf3454 (11)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I have two girls of my own. I think you should put him in his own room as soon as possible. If you don't he will get to used to being in your room with you. You don't want that because you will never have your room to yourself again.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Well i think, letting a baby in his crib when he is 6months old is pretty ok. Like letting him there with a good supervision is advisable. Dont ever let him there without focusing your attention is not good. Specially when he's in the age where he can do more things, and he's having some motor skills, it would be better if you put your attention to him always. Have a nice day ahead.
@MamaRain (18)
• Canada
13 Mar 07
Well hey there, My baby is nearly 2 now but at first we kept him in our room in a co-sleeper which made it so handy... But when he got to big for it he went to his own crib in his own room just 5 steps away. It was nerve racking at first but totally fine. I think he was probably about 6 months or so at the time. I know people put babies in their own crib in their own room fromt he start sometimes and I really think it depends on how you feel with it. Are you ready to run room to room?... Good luck with whatever you do!
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@MySpot (2600)
• United States
13 Mar 07
The sooner, the better. I think the transition is easier this way. Once my babies were sleeping through the night, they were in their own rooms (with a monitor, of course). This will differ from child to child but both of mine were in their own room by 3 months old.
@Iamh4b1t (121)
• United States
13 Mar 07
My wife is pregnant, when looking for a pediatrician we asked him the same question. He told us he recently had a baby and they only had the baby in their bedroom for about a week or 2. He said they're so noisy when they're sleeping, gurgling etc... That they couldn't get a good nights sleep. He also said it's a personal preference. I'll probably keep our baby in our room longer if I can sleep.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
Well the time varies really it all depends on you and the baby but I think a good time for a baby to go in their own room is normally around the age of 6 months as they seem to notice more things then and you the mother really requires a solid sleep so that you are fit and healthy to keep up to your baby.
@SilPhil (267)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
The SIDS recommendation is 6 - 12 months before the baby is put into their own room. That said though, we did the transition at 3 months. It took about another month for it become a permanent thing. So really, its whenever you're ready.
@sunshine4 (8703)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I think you have to feel comfortable putting him in his own room first. I always put my kids in at 3 months. They were generally sleeping all night and with a monitor I could hear every movement. I would suggest that you don't wait too long. The longer they are in your room, the harder it is for them.
• United States
13 Mar 07
I think that the longer you wait the more difficult it will be. If you wait till the baby is 12 mos. old, there is going to be a much bigger transition. Do you go to bed at the same time as your baby? Maybe that would be a good start. Leave the crib in your room, but put him down and leave the room. When he is comfortable falling asleep without you there, you can move him to his own room. Good luck.