single parent, have you felt tired of taking care of you baby?

@fianne (1059)
United States
March 13, 2007 2:33am CST
i know a lot of friends who are single parent. they all complain of being tired for taking care of their baby. one of my friend said, i t was better if i aborted him before, perhaps i will not be having problems like this. i cannot sleep better, i cannot tend to my needs anymore, all my money goes to my baby... well, i really took pity to her baby. i explained to her the essence of being a mother, but of course, she did not listen. do you know anyone who is tired of taking care of her baby too?
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@sutan74 (1112)
• Philippines
13 Mar 07
A baby is a blessing. Being a single mom can be hard because you don't have anyone to take care and help you while rearing a child. It's good if your family is there to help and support you. Sometimes we cannot understand how single mom feels, especially if they have to ork hard to support their baby. Being a friend and listening to her complains can help because friends are their to lend a helping hand.
@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Yes I do, single and not single. I find it a bit selfish that they would think like this, and then say they should have aborted the child. I sure hope the child never, ever hears this. Every child is a gift from God, no matter the circumstances. I have had it pretty bad, and had to be a single mom for a while, but I never thought that I was tired of dealing with him. I love him way too much and would give my life for him.
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@CatEyes (2449)
• United States
13 Mar 07
I just thought of something; maybe she is depressed? Perhaps she needs to see a doctor about this, because what you are telling me sounds like it could be depression. Why should she suffer this when she can be on medication to help it and make her feel better and enjoy her child more and cope with life better?
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• Philippines
13 Mar 07
Hi, fianne! Im not a single mom but I almost am! Lol! I think that parents who can say this things may have a bigger problem other than taking care of the child. Probably, the parents are so young, or they are really poor, or they may have emotional problems. These parents should seek professional help from a mentor, a pastor or priest, a psychologist, friends and family.
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@fianne (1059)
• United States
13 Mar 07
yes, i agree with you... my friend was only 18 so she is not on the proper age still. emotional and psychological problems.
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@pinklilly (3445)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
The single parents I know most are all young and have thier parents to look after there child or some who's baby's father is still in the picture will have the child on weekends... So actually they don't have it hard and rearly complain... There are parants out there that are not single and still find it hard to look after their child. It is a big responsibility to raise a child and I don't think it matters if your single or not it is still your responsibility to raise your child that you have brought into this world and don't punish them for your mistakes. It is sad that your friend feels this way I think she may need a little outside surpport and help she maybe a little unbalanced. It is hard work raising a child and that can take a strain on anybody but it is a choice you make when you fall pregnant and choose to have that baby.
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@shaz6611 (951)
• Australia
13 Mar 07
It sounds like your friend is crying out for help. Are you able to help her out? Perhaps you could babysit for a night or an afternoon and let her get out of the house and feel like a normal person again. I have been there and I know what it's like.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
23 Apr 07
I am not single parent but my hubby is in the army so often I hjave to stay alone for years and so. Infact my first born started living with his father when he was three year old. Now fopr past two years we are staying together but I feel I had much more freedom to raise my kid when I was single. I feel under pressure to perform better nad feel I am being jusdged and compared as a mother to his mother. I swould still prefer to live alone and raise my kids alone though physiaclly its lot less exhausting.
@sunup13 (420)
• Canada
20 Mar 07
It is extremely difficult to take care of a baby all alone, to be the only one to make the decisions, but everytime I pity myself for these reasons I look at my beautiful little girl and suck it up. I could never ever say that abortion would be better and I agree that maybe your friend needs to speak with a professional. She does sound depressed or maybe she just needs a few hours alone to recharge. That is how I keep myself sane, just time to take a bath or go shopping with having to take care of anyone else.
@perugu (5281)
• India
16 Mar 07
hi,friend,really difficult,but when we look back that baby is your own blood,then again we will forget all hardness.
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
Hi fianne, i'm a single parent of a 2yrs. old baby girl.. And i dont feel tired of taking care of my baby. I surely not get tired because i love my daughter so dearly. She is my strenght, my life, my happiness, my hope and all the good things that happening into my life is because of her.. I really feel sad to those mothers who engaged in abortion because they dont wanted to grow their babies, because of depression. I can feel depression sometimes, but i see to it that it could not affect my child..
@toolfan (305)
• United States
14 Mar 07
You know, sometimes I get tired...but not tired of being a parent. I've met people who felt that way. I had a very good career, good social life, and then I had a kid. Not to say that you can't have those and be a parent...But, I found a way to work from home, in order to be with my daughter more, and it was the best move I ever made. Bottom line, just when I start to feel tired, and maybe in a rut, she does something else to surprise me...like stand up, say a word, walk, or just fall asleep in my arms. Then I feel energized again...Does anyone else get this feeling too?
@shellyrios (1215)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Yes, it can take it's toll on you, but if you can find a great babysitter for just a day, it'll make a difference to make you feel better to get out alone for some free time for yourself. It's hard but in the end it's worth the little one you have. I had frustrations when my kids were babies, but now I look at them grown and wish I could have the baby years back sometimes....