why?

It seems in today's world that it is okay to be out for number one and to take, take, take, without caring about the other person or even being thankful or gracious. I have been in the position of giving in the past many times and have learned from it. I am much more discreet with helping anyone anymore because I don't feel like being a welcome mat again.

I don't think that being "good" gets u taken 4 granted. Usually, people who try 2 be "good" all the time, are merely "people pleasers", and at the ROOT of a people pleaser is an angry person, and a manipulative person. People think that being "nice", or "good" all the time will make others reciprocate, but others can sense that a people pleaser isn't always doing things out of the kindness of their hearts. It APPEARS that way, on the SURFACE, but underneath, the people pleaser does these "nice" gestures 2 control the behavior of others. The thinking is, "If I do (fill in the blank), the other person will be nice in return...", etc. etc. Also, the overly "nice" person, usually doesn't have healthy BOUNDARIES, so they're usually "yes" people, and nobody respects that, because NOBODY means yes ALL THE TIME! People become suspicious of this, and they don't respect this person, because they sense that the person doesn't respect THEMSELVES, because they ALWAYS say yes 2 things, and are always "nice". Being "nice" and "good" ALL THE TIME isn't realistic! So, I say that u CAN be a "good" person, and NOT be walked all over, if your "goodness" ISN'T manipulative (underneath), and u stay true 2 YOURSELF, and ONLY say yes when u actually mean YES, and FIRMLY say NO when u feel NO! People will respect a firm NO over a "people pleasing" yes anyday!

They thought that you are very easy to bully so they take you for granted and walked all over you. You must be very firm and show that you are not a pushover. This is what i am. Got character heh???