Loss
By sammantha
@sammantha (278)
United States
8 responses
@chertsy (3798)
• United States
13 May 07
I have also lost a sibling. I lost my brother 8 years ago on Oct 14th of 1998. Someone decided that my brother's life wasn't worth it, so he took him away from my family. I'm very sorry to hear that you have lost your sister. You are more than welcome to email me at scsdr18@aol.com anytime you need to talk. I'm online almost all day, so I will reply back as fast as I can.
Also you can go to this site and look around,
http://www.groww.org/chat/gr.shtml
This site has open chat rooms for anyone that have lost someone. I went to three of them after I lost my brother. Loss of a sibling, Unexpected angels ( losing someone suddenly)Silenced Angels (losing someone to violence). I don't think the sibling chat is there but there is a 24 hour chat for everyone that has lost someone.
Again I'm here if you ever need a shoulder.
I have a poem, that I just changed brother to sister. That helped me a lot.
Loss of a sister
Please do not ask me if I am over it yet.
I will never be over it.
Please do not tell me she is in a better place.
She is not here with me.
Please do not say at least she is not suffering.
I have never figured out why she had to suffer at all.
Please do not tell me you know how I feel,
unless you have lost a sister or a brother.
Please do not ask me if I feel better.
This is not a condition that clears up.
Please do not tell me at least you had her for so many years.
What year would you choose for your sister to die?
Please do not tell me that God only gives us what we can handle.
Please just say that you are sorry.
Please just remember my sister, if you do.
Please just let me talk about my sister.
Please mention my sister's name.
Please just let me cry.
@sammantha (278)
• United States
13 May 07
I want to say that I have not been on for awhile and I was checking my mail I seen that I same responds to my stress post.I have to say that I can't ask for a better Mother's Day gift.I had to write this poem out this is how I feel so many time when people come up to and say I know how you feel and they never went through a loss of a slibling.I have to say thank you for this wonderful poem.
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@sammantha (278)
• United States
26 May 07
Sorry that I have not resopned back going through somethings
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
26 May 07
Hi sammantha,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Right now I am trying my hardest to be there for a friend, as she just lost her baby. Please know that if you need to talk I am just a pm away!
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@sammantha (278)
• United States
21 Jun 07
sorry it took some time to get back to you.Yes it is hard at times I still think about them.I can say this I know that they are in a better place.I wish your friend the best of luck and that she stay strong.
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@sammantha (278)
• United States
28 May 07
I have lossed a baby as well and know how it feels back in 2004 I had twins and I was supossed to have triplets I had a miscarriage and I also lossed on that lived to be 29 days old and they were peermes and there are no words to say but to just hold her hand and once in awile give her a hug but also give her time to grief.It took me some time I am thankful for the one that did make it when I look at her I can't help but to cry some time it do get easier in time.I am sorry for your friends loss.I do wish her the best of luck in her breif.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
11 Jun 07
Thanks so much for your kind words. I have been as supportive as I possibly can be and my friend has told me that has helped her more then anything and she really appreciates it. I am sorry to hear about you losing your babies. I can only imagine how horrible that would feel.
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@saphire539 (1639)
• United States
31 May 07
I am so sorry to hear about what happened to your sister.My prayers are with you and your family
@saphire539 (1639)
• United States
31 May 07
I will keep praying for you and i hope everything works out for you and your family.These children need to be able to stay together they have already lost there mom they don't need to lose each other too.
@sammantha (278)
• United States
1 Jun 07
I would like to thank you from the bottom of me heart.I do wished that we can keep the kids together they have had alot to deal with and if they lose each other I re3ally don't know how they well act if they have to live apart.
@sammantha (278)
• United States
31 May 07
I want to thak you too.I am thankful for all the prayers.It is the root of all things.I have to greif and be strong all at once.I have to be strong for my sister's kids they need me now than ever before.Keep me in your prayers because my sister has two small kids they have differant dads and the oldest is trying to get her and we are fighting to keep the kids together.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
30 Jun 07
I am so sorry to hear your news. I hope that you are feeling at least a little better now. It is hard to find words to say when something like this happens.
I have thought about having this surgery a lot, but I know what the odds are. I hope that you are able to somehow find comfort in your situation, even if it is just knowing that she is not suffering anymore. God bless you.
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@sammantha (278)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I was thinking about having the same surgery too.Now that this has happened to my sister my family are now telling me not to have this surgery anymore and to forget it.I am looking at the fact that I want to loss weight and that I have done all that I can to lose wieght on my own.nothing seem to work for me.This surgery works on some and it do have alot of risk to that cones with all surgerys.Good luck to you.My God you to make the choice that is right for you.Hey I should listen to my own words.
@sugarfloss (2139)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 07
i'm sorry about the loss of your sister.
my prayers are with you.
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@Darkwing (21583)
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13 Mar 07
Awwww, I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your sister, and I know it must be difficult to handle. I haven't lost any of my siblings yet, but I lost my grandson when he was just seven years old and it's a very painful process. However, I dealt with it my own way... I went out for quiet walks on my own, kicking two shades out of walls and gates, cried a little, then came back home feeling a little better.
Time does heal, but it's the initial part of the grieving you have to get over first. Let all your grief out... don't hold it in. Try to talk with others about your sister and remember the good times. Gradually, the crying will ease off and you'll be able to face the World again.
In the meantime, I will pray for you and your family and hope that all becomes easier for you soon.
Brightest Blessings and a big (((((HUG))))).
@sammantha (278)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Thank you it is very hard. I am trying to be strong for her kids. She leaves behind two little kids 4 and 6.They dont really understand whats going on.I am trying to be there for them my mom is going to be there for her too.The fathers are not in there lifes.
@daycarepal (1998)
• United States
13 Mar 07
Oh I am sooo sooo sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one is not an easy thing to go through. I am experiencing that right now. My mother has Alzheimers and is in the final stages.
@Darkwing (21583)
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13 Mar 07
Awwww, I'm sorry to hear that too, Daycarepal. Alzheimers is a relentless disease and difficult to know how to handle the person with it, in this case your mother.
I'm putting out a big (((((HUG))))) for you, too, but she will be in a better place and waiting for you to join her, when the time arrives. A prayer is in order for you too, my dear.
@sammantha (278)
• United States
31 May 07
I would like to thank you and I truely need prayer it is the root of all things.Payer do changes things.
