Do you hate someone?

Hatred - Hating Hatred
@heatspine (1141)
Philippines
March 13, 2007 8:38pm CST
In our lifetime, there are several occasions that we have hatred in our hearts. Maybe because its a person or an action done against us. We tend to forgive but there are instances that it takes time for us to heal and thus delay the forgiving process. There are other instances though that forgiveness will no longer happen specially when tremendous physical or emotional abuse occurred.So. Do you hate someone right now? Why? Do you think forgiveness is still possible? How do you plan to handle this?
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@graham31 (487)
14 Mar 07
Hate is a very strong word and not to be taken lightly,but yeah i hate some person.A guy i work with.He thinks he's smart a bit of a street player tuff never tell on anyone thats not the done thing.So to my surprise i was dumb founded to find out he told a pack of lies to try get my brother the sack from work.He said he seen my brother take something from the stores.Then to try back track on his steps he spoke to my brother telling him it wasn't him who stuck him in,when others were saying differently. Lucky enough this guy is the biggest theif in my work and he already had a grudge against my brother so no one believed him but it could all have been so different. that was about a year agoa and not spoken to him since and have no intention of speaking to him either.You don't cross my family and get away with it
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
That was so mean. That guy should have been sacked. I find it incredible to see people say bad things on your back and have the guts to face you as if nothing happened. It's so sick!
@cabergren (1181)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I think that hate takes a lot of work on your part. It is very consuming and usually the only person it hurts is you. So I try not to get caught up in it. Of course there are a few people who have done bad things and I dislike them, but I try not to dwell on that. I just figure that they weren't really my friends and I move on.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
15 Mar 07
that's the goal -- to move on without being bothered by the people you hate or dislike.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
Yes, i hate someone and it is my xhusband.I was really thought i have already forgiven him.But lately, i realized i still hate him the same.I dont know when is the right time to truly forgive him.Its hard especially he abandoned us with my kids.
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
yes. the hurt lingers around specially when you see the kids. you'll be stronger at the end of the day.
@giregla (148)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
I would not call it HATE. It's just that at that moment I despised her/him because of the thing he/she may have done but after a while I tend to forgive even if that didn't ask for it.
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
as the song goes ... it takes some time ... God knows how long ..
@susieq223 (3742)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I work hard not to hate. Hatred is harmful only to the person carrying it. The object of the hatred is not bothered. Hatred produces illnesses and toxins in the body. Forgiveness is not just about getting along with others, it is a health issue! As a very flawed human, I couldn't forgive or give up resentment without Divine Help. When I pray, God gives me the strength to love the unloveable and forgive the unforgivable. That way I have peace of mind. I can honestly say I hate no one at present, but I didn't do it by myself!
@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
nice susique. as they say, when hatred occurs - the only one feeling ill is the one who do the hating.
• United States
14 Mar 07
I don't think that i hate anyone at this point in time but for a period of my life i did Hate my mother i know that seems harsh but i did i hated her she was very mean to me and expected things out of me that no mother should expect out of any child
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@heatspine (1141)
• Philippines
14 Mar 07
parents do have expectations ... but sometimes they tend to be unrealistic expectations. i assume that hatred is now extinguished.
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@luckly888 (175)
• China
14 Mar 07
Yes,i have something or somebody i don't like.generally speaking,i always keep a distant with those things or people.
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• Pakistan
14 Mar 07
Our whole life is a learning process. To err is human. We all commit mistakes, do wrong things etc. etc. So its not very unusual that someone might do something weired with us too. Well as far as forgiveness is concerned, I must say its really difficult for us sometimes. But if ,in a dark room when you are alone, you think about the person who has done something wrong to you and if you think with a cold mind, you will realize that whatvere he did was actually right for him. Lets put it this way, people do what they think right. Whatever someone does, he is doing that keeping in view his knowledge, perception and intellect. Now it might be possible that if you were at his place you might have done the same thing, provided you have his knowledge, perception etc. If people start thinking this way , forgiving people will become a lot easier.
@KissThis (3004)
• United States
12 Apr 07
There are people in this world that I dislike and don't care to be around. I just stay away from those people. I don't hate anyone because that is just giving them way to much effort. Why bother to give them that much emotion?
@greylady (153)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I've never really truly hated anyone. I wouldn't wish serious harm on anyone. No, I'm not goody two shoes. I just think it's a waste to expend all the energy it takes to hate someone on a person that means zilch to me. I've got better things to spend my time on. Move on.
@LittleMel (8754)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
Right now my mind is really preoccupied I don't even have time for my self. I forget many things so unfortunately I don't really remember who I hate but I do hate a few. Some are new some are just old wounds, but if you asked me about forgiveness I'm really not a forgiving person. although yes I forget now and then but that's just because I'm really tired some days
• India
14 Mar 07
i do not think anyone has hurt me enough to make me want to hurt them!! i am not bragging but i am the type of pperson who gets along with all types of people!! so people dont annoy me or make me angry much!! as a result, i dont hate anyone! but i do disagree with some behaviors of some people!! that doesnt make me want to hate them!!
@suspenseful (40201)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
Well I hate Satan, but he's a demon and the enemy of all Christians and God. As for people, it is not the people per say it is the actions and what they did to you. I'm not talking about what is conceived as some isolated incident that one would forget soon, but something that someone did that changed the course of their lives. For instance, if I happened to be going blind, and needed an operation, and the only way I could have it, was either to inherit from a great aunt or get a great job with a salary and a medical plan, and for some reason, the boss gave the job to his niece, I would feel hatred for that occurring especially if I were better qualified. There are also little incidents that are attached to each other, losing a job, not being able to get eyes fixed, falling down in a snow bank, having leg amputated, to give a fictitious example of incidents which might cause one to hate the person who started this ball rolling, the fictitious boyfirend. But it is the action one hates, not the person. Note none of these things happened to me, but I did have an incident that did start the ball rolling and I still hate what happened to me, but I have no idea whether the persons involved really held malevolent feelings or whether they were blind that they did not know the consequences of their interference.
@fpd1955 (2075)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I don't hate anyone. I can hate a behavior, an attitude or something someone has done. To hate a person for their actions is wrong. It is more likely that most people hate the action, not the person .
@healer (1779)
• India
14 Mar 07
Once i came across a saying "Too much of love leads to too much of hate". Once i loved somebody too much that i could not forgive him till today after he cheated on me. I verbally say that its ok or i'll be ok but deep in my heart i could not forget. These are very dangerous in life emotionally hurting some one is very very unwise as according to my experience it does heal but the mark of the wound remains very deep so unforgettable.
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
14 Mar 07
One thing for me growing up, my grandmother always taught me not to "hate" it's better to "dislike" people ways... I have had my share of some forgiving people. However, in time it mends...No, there is know one I hate or dislike....
@shrekk (561)
• Pakistan
14 Mar 07
What you say about a momnetary burst of hatred inside us for someone whom we later forgive is very correct. However, sometimes, incidents leave a lasting impact and that's why we dont forgive the person responsible for the mishap. In my life, there have been many instances when I thought:" I can never forgive this person for what he's done", however, I've ended up forgiving everyone of them, and so, right now, I dont have any hateful feelings towards anyone. Now, usually, when I'm angry at someone, I know at the back of my mind that these feelings will go away in a matter of time. So the way I handle such matters is, I act patient and wait for that time to come.
@MySpot (2602)
• United States
14 Mar 07
Hate is a very strong and negative emotion. I never harbour bad feelings for others. I believe that by doing so, you give them control over you. Forgiving someone is more helpful to yourself than the one who being forgiven. JMHO
• New Zealand
14 Mar 07
Yes I do hate my ex boss from New World. She is the only woman that I would consider running over if I saw her on the street. Realistically though, I would just pop her tyres. I know this is immoral and illegal, but that's just because I really, really dislike her. No scratch that I hate her. I've never hated anyone in my life but she trumps every limit or threshold of dislike a million times over.
• United States
14 Mar 07
I don't hate anyone. I may strongly dislike someone, but never hate. I believe in the power of forgiveness, and I think no matter what you should forgive those that have wronged you. I'm not saying forget, or even keep a relationship with them, just forgive. I feel that hatred is just another burden that causes bitternees, and I don't want to be a bitter person.