Would you stay in a loveless relationship just for the sake of your baby?

United States
March 13, 2007 11:16pm CST
I have a friend who has chosen to stay in a relationship just for the sake of her baby. She loves her baby so much that she has chosen to throw her happiness away. I think part of her is scared to raise her baby on her own and also her husband wont let her go, even though he does not show her any affection. What would you do?
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
14 Mar 07
oh HELL NO! My ex tried to pull that crap on me....tried to convince me to stay with him "for the sake of our kids..think about the kids Jess" and I have to tell you two things.... #1 - that is the biggest load of crap out there #2 - STAYING in a bad relationship, a loveless one and onen that just shouldnt be anymore will in fact cause MORE DAMAGE to the children on so many levels then if the couple were to seperate and be civil for the sake of the kids.... I'm sorry cause this WILL most likely sound harsh but I honestly think that parents who use that b.s excuse are a disgrace and should be ashamed of themselves...I also think that parents like are selfish and really dont have their priorities straight and i feel terribly sorry for the children involved...
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@raveena (1355)
• India
14 Mar 07
In my opinion I wouldn't stay in a loveless marriage for the sake of the child. I would leave for the sake of the child. I do not want my baby growing up in a loveless home. I also feel that it is very harmful to grow up in a home full of fighting and negativity. This is only my situation, every situation is different. If you have doubts about leaving then I would definetly give counselling a try before you make any final decisions.
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• United States
14 Mar 07
your friends needs to know that there are people and ways of raising a baby in a one parent home. besides if the parents are not happy together the baby can feel the emptiness and it may have a permenant affect on the baby's psychological growth. If she is happy then the baby can be happy, besides she may meet a man she can be happy with who wiil love her and the baby!
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
14 Mar 07
Everyone is different, I wouldn't stay with anyone I didn't love, love is a beautiful thing so once that is gone, me too....
@crystal8577 (1469)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I would leave. I did that with my oldest. I actually got a divorce while pregnant. I knew I would rather be a single parent & happy with my child, than married & all of us be miserable. Her being miserable is going to affect the baby. If she is that unhappy then I think she needs to go. I am sure it will be hard but she can make it on her own.
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@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
14 Mar 07
As Dr. Phil says, a child would rather be from a broken home than live in one.
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@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
16 Mar 07
no, i would never go into something just for the sake of a child as then things will be hard and the child will see the hurt. why put them through this. you can still be friends with there father but not live together. i have see people do this and it has worked out better for them.
• United States
14 Mar 07
No, I would leave. Children are a lot smarter than adults tend to give them credit for. That child will know that something is wrong in that family soon enough, and he/she will be affected by it. Also, does the mom want to teach her baby to sacrifice happiness. A parent's first job should be for the welfare and happiness of their child. Staying in an unhappy home is not setting a good example, in my opinion.