Cheapskates married to each other

@suspenseful (40312)
Canada
March 14, 2007 11:54am CST
Anyone here like my husband and I? We both come from families who have had to budget to stretch out our food dollar, mine a little better than his and both of us are tight wads. My husband comes from a family that feels people that struggle are morally better while mine just wished we had more. Now he's coming around to mine that it does not matter how much or how little you have. But sometimes his family's views over take him and he feels that those who have little are morally superior. For those who have had to struggle and are married to each other, how do you resolve this situation?
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• United States
18 Mar 07
My husband and I both are like minded when it comes to being frugal. His family struggled a little more growing up because he had 11 kids in his family but we both try to be on the frugal side. In fact we just strted our own frugal website http://www.frugalwiz.com to try to help others and to learn more ways to save money. I have to admit taht he does much better with the budgeting but I am great at finding a deal and cutting coupons. We seem to both have our own strong points but the same overall goals. I say good for anyone who tries to live life on the cheap. All cheapskates please rise! ;)
• United States
14 Mar 07
I don't think that being poor and having to struggle make you any better, morally, than anyone else. My husband and I came from very different backgrounds, but both of us from families where money was in short supply. We both learned to be frugal and passed that on to our kids as much as possible. But we never felt morally superior to anyone because of it.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
4 Apr 07
My husband had it easier in that he was not blamed by his parents for them having to do without, but whenever we were short of money, my father said it was because of me. I still get nervous when I put something on the credit card, that as soon as I do, I transfer the money from my checking account. And since my husband makes the most money and I still suffer from how I grew up, I hate to ask him if I need anything. He usually has to suggest that I might need --well the other day, we were talking about the cruise, and he brought up the subject of some new outfits.
• United States
15 Mar 07
I WISH my husband was like yours! I use coupons and match sales, and stick to a budget. Any tips on changing his ways?
@cher913 (25859)
• Canada
14 Mar 07
Being tight wads is not anything to be ashamed of...its a great way of life! You get debts paid down faster and will have more to retire on when you are older... Now this may sound odd, but I kinda agree with hubby...saving and being a tightwad takes much more creativity and work than being wealthy and getting fast food every day!