How many kids is ENOUGH?

Philippines
March 15, 2007 6:53am CST
I come from a big family, although it's a happy one but it's also hard when we were growing up. Nowadays, my other siblings will have only 1-3 children. But how many is ideal these days?
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@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
My parents reared and sired 6 children. That was a lot easier on their time to raise a family of 6 or more because during those time, prices of goods and commodities are still low, gasoline is not as high as today , cost to send kids for education is not that much as compared today. I have only 2 kids and for me that is enough. At this time, when all things, prices of goods are soaring up so high, it not ideal to have a big family for couples who are striving to get meager income. Of course the size of family depends on how much you can provide for a decent living. But its unfortunate that in a third world country, those who have little or meager income or poor tend to have more children than those couples who can afford to have a bigger family of their own.
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
very true. :)
@joyce959 (1561)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
I appreciate the 'best response'. Happy Posting!
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Hi, Joyce. I like your views on this matter, too. It is the duty of the people in population control and health department to educate everyone about the need to regulate the number of kids per family. For those who are vehemently against artificial ways of doing it for religious reasons, they should better find ways in order for them to have the number of kids they can adequately provide for. Couples must be made to understand that 2 kids to a family must be considered the maximum considering prevailing conditions.
• China
20 Mar 07
I also come from a big family. We are very happy, although poor. Like your family! I want to have two children. One boy and one girl. They can play with each other, then they are not lone. I like babies!
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• Philippines
20 Mar 07
what if you have 2 boys or 2 girls, will you stop at two? or will you try for 1 more hoping if you had 2 boys, the 3rd will be a girl and vice versa? :)
• China
22 Mar 07
Sorry, I don't know. Having one boy and one girl is my ideal. If I have two boys or two girls, it's also ok.I'm aslo happy. I don't want to have the third baby. Two is enough. However, now,in our country, one couple should only have one baby. Maybe, I can't realize my ideal.
• India
19 Mar 07
in nows a days there are maximum one or two kids ore enough,it cannot deoend only for your income that if you are rich then you are able to have more kids and if you are poor then you have to be a less kid ,it"s all depends that you have a enough time to care your kid .you can give full attention to your kid for making his future bright so in now a days people are have mostly busy schedule so they have no more time to given more attention in a home. so i think in now a days one or two kids are enough . i hope you can agree to my opinion . bye
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
for most people, yes. i sure wouldn't want to neglect my would-be children. i would definitely personally give time for their upbringing. i want to be a hand-on parent whe the time comes. thanks modernindia! :)
• Ireland
15 Mar 07
I come from a large family and I also would have like to have a large family myself. However, I wanted to give my children the best in life, so I decided to just have two children. After a while and things were going very well, I decided to have a third child. I think it is up to the individuals and there circumstances as to how many children they should have.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 07
i like the pacing. thanks! it's like having a goal but also knowing your capacities too. :)
@magikrose (5431)
• United States
15 Mar 07
The number of childre really depends on you and your spouce. No answer is going t be wrong or right. For my husband and I 4 kids is enough not to mentone 2 birds and 2 cats. That is adecission that only you and your souce can decie.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 07
thank you magikrose. my boyfriend would like to have six. he came from a broken family and a solo kid of the separated parents, so i know why he wanted to have a big family. however, i came from a big one, with 3 brothers and 4 other sisters. and i want to keep the number to a minimum if possible. :)
@kaplya (1578)
• India
15 Mar 07
i think today it's ideal to have 1-3 children! i too come from a big family and it was quite fun when we were growing up as we get along well:) as far as i see a big family helps in shaping one's personality and also teaches one many positive things than one can learn in a small family, but it's sometime hard for the economy factor in big families!so my opinion is that if one can aford then he should have more than 4 children;) otherwise keep it small(1 or 2):)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
yes, we have to think about the practical side too. thanks!
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• Philippines
15 Mar 07
I guess having two to three children is enough. EVeryone should have a chance at better life.
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• Philippines
15 Mar 07
i'm for a better life, too. thanks jackie_mmm! :)
@babynanan (133)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
For me, it depends on the family if they can raise their family well with a lot of children or not. If they can be a good provider or not. If they can support their family with a lot of children then y not?! Children are gifts and it can make the family very happy. When they have a family gathering, it's so much fun coz you are so many. :) hehehe :) So, it really depends on the status of your life, if you can give good and quality life to your children.
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
yes, as long as a good quality life can be provided that's better. :) thanks!
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
because my family is big and most of my siblings ae married with their own kids, i remember some people commenting that whenever the whole family is having a meal together... it's like a fiesta (feast) already. :)
@brckoba (795)
• United States
22 Mar 07
In a perfect world, I would love to have up to 6 children. But I have to think about their future and how good of a life I can provide for them, so I would have to settle for 2. This way I can send them to college and give them a good childhood.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
initially, my boyfriend would like to have 6, just like you. and my concern is being able to provide well enough for them too. so i guess, 2 is practical. thanks! :)
@miches (81)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
Its a case to case basis. The financial status of the family should always be taken into consideration in deciding for the ideal number of children.
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
yes, especially if you have experienced how financially hard it could be. thanks miches! :)
15 Mar 07
Surely this has to depend upon individual circumstances, you have to balance, time, money, personal desire. I lork with a boy whose father is pround to have sired at least 23 children and is still actively trying for more. He does not work, is illiterate, claims thousands in state benifits and is not in the lives of many of his children, to my mind that is immoral. However if he had the money to support his children and the skills to parent them adequately then it has to be his right to choose. With the decreases in infant mortality etc there really is no longer the biological need for us to continue reproducing at the rates of 100 years ago I guess it will have to continue being an individual choice because I imagine if the government tried to limit it as in China it would be a human rights violation.
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
yes, i think it's not in the number but in the quality, how you raise your kids well and be able to provide well for them. thanks tigger_pooh!
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Truthfully speaking, one or two kids in a family is enough. There are so many people in this world already, and even if we say that we can afford to have more financially, and we are capable of watching over them grow up, the world will not get any bigger to accommodate the high growth rate the world is now coping with. This is one reality of life everyone into having their families will have to consider. Besides, the world is no longer as friendly as it used to be. We will only be subjecting our kids to this harsh reality. Would you believe that my children are now telling me that it is really difficult to raise their own families considering the kind of environment we are now in? They are already well within marriageable ages but they have qualms into getting into it. I am encouraging them to consider marriage already since my eldest will be turning 29 and her brother is 27 years old. The trend of the times now though is for people to pursue their careers first and marry when they reach their 40's. I can see and understand these people's point in life. It is better to build the family on a stable foundation. May you have a healthy and happy family, too.