difference of age between partners

Romania
March 15, 2007 9:09am CST
Each of us look for a good partner for more points of view.Sometimes when we met that person evereything looks beautifull, but there are many problems, like: one of them is oldster or on of them is too young. That is really a problem? Or a obsacle for a perfect couple? The difference of age became significant when pass 10 years.In this case partners belong diferent generation.The older partener consider that he can't keep up the meter of youth or he tryes to ideate the other and to guide in life.Also in this cases can appear the diferences of preoccupation or interests. Why "she" accept a younger partner?Maybe because he is more inocent and it's more enthuziast, full of abnegation and devoid of meanness of this life. When the women is younger is more acceptable and this maybe because the man become mature emotional later.Many times "the younger" has the abilty to make the women feel loved, apreciated,and respected. What it's your opinion?Why is an obstacle this diference of age?And why the man's rodomontade because they have a younger women?and why the women they hide the fact that they love a younger man?
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24 responses
15 Mar 07
I am 55 years young and my partner is 29 years old. That is a big age difference to some but it makes no difference to us at all. If two people love each other, there should be no barriers on account of age. My partner is quite mature for his age, while I have always got along better with younger people. We are ideally suited really
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I don't see a problem with that at all.If you are both happy than I think thats great
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15 Mar 07
yeah when it come's to love it age doesn't matter well as long as your both much inlove with eachother and your both happy then i don't see a problem with that.To think of it age is just a number.
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• India
16 Mar 07
Still me is just 20 year youngster... but i think its may b matter its d age differnce is more dan 4-5 ... coz d mentality of d person is not same 4 d long time.. so its may depend on ur mentality...
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• India
15 Mar 07
I think that age difference between partners doesn't matters if there is a gud understanding n rapport between them. We can see ppl marrying regardless of their castes or relogion then why this age becomes d barrier. Ya men like to marry younger woman coz they want that their wives to b more beautiful then they are.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Mar 07
yes men tend to do that because it makes them feel younger,its that ego at work...But i feel men are making a big mistake in doing that..
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I really don't think love has any age limit.I think people fall in love and never should be so concerned about age,unless of course the gap is just way big between ages..Everyone is different ....a man at 50 for example can act like they are 80,where another man at 50 may have the attitude of a 30 year old..It really depends on the person...Women like older men sometimes because that man has learned how to treat a woman where the young guy is insensitive...Personally,now that i am a little older,I sometimes feel its best for the woman to be the older one and I will tell you why....I see all these women that have lost their husbands and are alone in there later years,and to me they are lonely and sad..I see this a lot because I work in a beauty salon...Im not sure why but men seem to die yonger than women,it could be their jobs or it could be that they do not take care of themselves like women do(healthwise)But women usually run the house and take care of a lot,and if they marry a younger man they tend to have a longer marriage and don't lose their husbands as often as women who are younger...That is not the way it alwys id but it happens a lot....I think you should go by how you feel..My daughter married a guy and she is 14 years older,she is healthy and viberant and hes the one that is wearing down faster than her..So thats just a few suggestions on my part for whatever its worth...
@wishangel (225)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 07
i think this is the social problem,because from time to time,man have the great power to ruled the worldso they no respect the woman and the woman didnt have the voice to speak what they think since this have going many year so people will feel if woman love the younger man then it bring shame on them,now have little better already but if we want to change this kind of mind we need wait more years
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@jean_rose (416)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
It isn't much of a problem, really if you both don't make it a problem. My husband is 8 years older than I am and the relationship is great. Males mature later than women generally so I consider having found an older husband an added blessing by God. I haven't also felt any attraction towards someone younger or nearer my age group because I did not like the happy go lucky stance. I wanted security in a relationship and luckily, I found it in the older man I married.
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• Romania
16 Mar 07
my girlfriend is 8 years younger too and we are togheter almost three years and the relationship is like yours and i'm happy i have found somebody like us.i'm glad to know that.i wish you good luck.love is the best thing
@elisa812 (3032)
• United States
16 Mar 07
I don't think that age really matters if two people are truly in love. Even though the two might be from different generations and in different points in their lives, that can make the relationship more exciting, because they can learn from each other's different experiences and enrich each other's lives that way. My husband is ten years older than me, which I know isn't a terribly huge difference, but many people were still a little surprised when we started dating because of the age difference. However, I have found that most of the time, I forget that there is any age difference at all, because it's just not important. The relationship I have with my husband is SO much better than any relationship that I've ever had with a man who is my own age, and in fact, there is no comparison! I couldn't be happier, and I know that he feels the same way.
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• Romania
16 Mar 07
i agree with you, the partners complete each other, everything that one of them doesn't have, the other has, it's in my case and i can say that with all my heart
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@racheld (840)
• United States
15 Mar 07
I am a young girl who was living with a guy that was seven years older than i was. I met him when I was 19 and we dated for 3 years but as I started to get older and concentrate more on my future career goals and life goals, he stayed the same. He still has the same job and before we moved in together, he had no plans of moving out. The age might not have been a problem if he would have just had the same drive and determination as me. Or if we were at least on the same level.
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• Romania
15 Mar 07
all people changes or one of partner may not have the same drive.but you can still love each other for that.do you think it's a obstacle?or you can learn him some of your intersts.try to make him become intrested of what you are
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@mnflower (1301)
• United States
15 Mar 07
ali I use to think that age was a big thing also, back in the day it really was a big thing they always wanted you to make sure that you were with someone younger if you were female.But in this day and age I do not agree with the age problem to me if two people get along and can keep a healthy relationship age should not factor into that at all..My boyfriend is 6 years younger than me, I only dated one man older and that just didn't work, why well won't go there..lol Athough I do not think someone under 18 should be some date someone 18 or older without her parents consent cause of all the trouble the 18 year old could get into now a days...It is too easy to ruin someones life that way...Follow your heart is the best advice I can give.
• India
15 Mar 07
satya here, i think age is not a big issue in relation between partners,but some times it may cause probs in understanding each other..a teen attitude is completely different when compared with older one's ..so in my opinion understanding each other is important between two hearts..
@mlotboy (293)
• India
15 Mar 07
Having a boyfriend or girlfriend who is 10 or more years elder or younger shouldn't be practised. It is like making love to one's parent.
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• Romania
15 Mar 07
"making love to one's parent" not really...this is something else.it's about understading each other no matter what.if we think like that it would mean that the all people should live separated by age.but it's your opinion and i respect your response
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@askguru (96)
• India
16 Mar 07
According to me i would choose my partner to be two or three years elder than me. The reason behind is that as elder people came through different things, they know what is good and what is bad, so they can lead us to a right way. As many people are facing marital affairs and again it is due to age difference. So, again always my choice would be two or three years elder than me.
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@Sir_bobby88 (8242)
• Singapore
16 Mar 07
I think true love wont matter age limit yea ... the most important thing is that both party love each other and don't mind how others look at them yea ...
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• Canada
16 Mar 07
I don't believe age makes a difference. I've dated someone 22 years older than myself, my mom is with a guy who's 13 years older than her, and my sister has just broken up a 7 year relationship with her partner who was 12 years older than her. My mother is very happy in her relationship, they complement each other perfectly. My sister only broke off her relationship because her partner has a drink problem and she didn't want her kids exposed to that, and I broke off my relationship with the man 22 years older than me because of intense pressure from others that what we were doing "wasn't right." It got so bad we were having people shouting insults at us in the street and I got scared to even go out the door. We sat down and agreed it would be best for us to split, although we'd remain firm friends. Of course, once the news broke that we'd split, everyone was saying how they always knew it wouldn't last and so on. There was more than one gossip monger who had me knocking on their door and telling them to keep their f**king noses out of my business.
@aissha (2036)
• India
16 Mar 07
i believe that marriages are arranged in heaven and we just find them on earth so it doesn't matter whether girl is younger or boy ,they are from same community ,country ,or race or not and there are millions of examples to prove it.
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@onlyu2008 (172)
• China
16 Mar 07
Age and looks are both important.
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@candygurl24 (1880)
• Canada
15 Mar 07
As far as I know, us women don't hide that fact...I haven't seen anyone hiding it yet. As for age, there are no proven obstacles. The only obstacles that can happen are the ones that you allow to happen. This can happen with any relationship regardless of the ages of the people involved in it. If you do not allow yourself to drift apart, then you won't. Age is a number, it does not tell you how mature people are etc.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
I have been both the younger woman with a man 22 yrs my senior and I was also the older woman with a man 14 yrs my junior, When I was with the older man it was like he was a comfort zone security and maturity all rolled up in one, I think it thrilled him because a good looking woman was paying attention to him and he had been stuck in a rut with his wife he was seperated from. Either way we stayed together for 5 yrs.. Now the younger one, I was dumb, should have stayed away from that one, nothing but trouble, and I guess it made me feel younger and sexier. But never the less still a mistake. Hope this helps.
@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
15 Mar 07
Age is but a number anymore. I don't think it is as big of an issue as it is made out to be. My wife and I are 5 years apart. Many people commented on this but we were both fine with it. I think this is something for the couple to decide what is best.
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• United States
15 Mar 07
If 2 people are dating and have a big difference in age, and they are HIDING it, then they obviously aren't right for each other, because they don't find it okay themselves. If people are open about it and truly are suited and care for each other, sure! But I mean, it's all about love, like with anyone, regardless of age. Unless it's an illegal issue, and an older person is dating a minor, then it really is not right at all to me.
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@tamaco_uk (481)
• Cyprus
15 Mar 07
It all depends on the partners and not on society in general.But letss say there is a difference of 20 years what will happen in another 30 years, when for example you are 50 and he is 80?? Won't that affect in any way?
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@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
15 Mar 07
Age is just a number,if you don't mind being with a younger man,then age doesn't matter. Many woman falls in love with younger man without even knowing their age,but as soon they find out about their age they hide their feelings and dont want accept that their in love with a younger man because they are afraid that there'll be an obstacle.The obstacle can be the family of the younger person.Many are against it. As long you both love each other and can communicate with each other ,there wont be a problem.
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