Solitude is Happiness

I think its true you can CHOOSE to not be depressed. But at the same time, those who are pretty much told by the doc they are depressed well I think then its a disease. There are two types in my view: 1. The disease, you need med's not your fault 2. The kind you get when you are feeling down, and well it can be prevented or stopped when we choose to not be. Our old pastor (I'm at a new church now) used to say that people who are depressed are so because they choose to keep dwelling on the same promblem/issue and wont let it go. When you stop dwelling, you shouldnt be depressed anymore. Is it NORMAL to get depressed sometimes? Yes! But what is NOT normal is getting depressed ALL the time or more often then not. So those people need help. The others need to stop dwelling. I should talk about this too cause I was feeling depressed a lot before I got hired when my sister had a job. Its easy to keep dwelling, but dont. When your problems get you dont look down, look up to God and trust Him!

Solitude and spending time alone is not the same as being depressed and lonely. They are very different, one is a choice and one is an illness. However you are right in that people can become attatched to feeling bad, it's like a comfort as it is something familiar. It can be changed but you have to change your mind set. However choosing solitude sometimes is necessary if only so you can hear yourself think.

gee ... your statement took my eyes pop, What? depression? dude, depression is a kind of sickness, well someties people wants to be sick then well... Its outside the norm but it happens, For me I choose to be happy, alone sometimes but not lonely, it's to give you some time for yourself, think, self-pysic, and plan, reasses and regenerate yourself from inside.

i partly agree with you about a choice. when i am depressed, i am really depress about something and if it bothers me a lot then i go to my favorite nook but not to brood nor indulge in self-pity, i meditate and apply what i learned from the silva method of centering exercise. also, i tend to be a loner and im happy about that mood but im not lonely literally speaking, i read books and daydream a lot...books are your best companions in your time of solitude... good day my friend

I think that loneliness and solitude are different for each of us, most times I like my solitude and me just doing what I want to, but other times I feel the loneliness in the solitude and get quite down in the dumps. I suppose it is your choice to be happy or unhappy in your solitude as long as it doesn't lead into depression, I think perhaps a balance is what is needed to prevent that happening.

I am not happy being depressed.. But I love solitude and loneliness. It is the moments that really make me connect with myself.

I don't like to feel miserable but I really do not need people around me to be happy. My favourite time of day is walking my newty-dog on the beach alone, I love it when my friend and her dog join us but it is not neccessary to me. I love to be alone in the garden planting things or reading a book, it would never occur to me to be lonely. Ihave 2 little boys to look after, a boyfriend, cat and dog and see my dad and his girlfriend when I do the school run in a morning. I have a couple of friends I se regularly and others I see now and then and I'm quite happy with that. I do not like to feel depressed but I'm quite happy alone. I canhave other friends on my terms when I need them online and find these people easier to deal with too, lol.

I like to stay happy but there are times when I admit I do get depressed so I try to stay busy to keep from getting to depressed

I don't mind quiet time and a little solitude. I don't think I would care to be depressed. I think it's difficult for some people to snap out of depression. My best friend was depressed for a very long time. I couldn't understand the reason behind the depression because it seemed like things were going well for her. She didn't like her depressed state of mind and was sucidal for awhile.

Depression is most often NOT a choice. There are usually chemicals in the brain not functioning properly. It's dangerous to categorize depression as a choice. Having said that, people can voluntarily brood, which could lead to a depression of their own making. I do not like to be depressed because I never want to be bogged down in it. You live in a depression too long and you can barely get back out.

i wont agree with you as it has been proved that man is a social animal and with out his social life... he needs to b with others n by this he will get happiness and saeness .... both as both are esential for living ... :)

Its fascinating that you have found something positive in depression... If it works for you, then you must be well in touched with your spiritual self like monks in pursuit of nirvana. I would prefer to be happy coz depression really has a negative effect on me. I hate being alone and lonely.

"Happiness Is A Choice" is a bunch of crap. I suffer from Bi-Polar Disorder but most of the time, I am in a depressive state. Do I choose to be in this state? Hell no, but I don't have choice. You have to adjust your med's until your mood can become "normal".

Solitude is good, my friend. As you have said, it makes keep in touch with ourselves. And we should not equate solitude with depression because they are two different things. Depression is a medical case while solitude is a matter of choice. When we feel clinical depression, we can't help but want to be alone...to the extent of wanting to cut our existence short because we feel we are not worth anything and that the world doesn't need us. I seek solitude not because I am depressed but because it helps me become more productive. By being alone, I can make peace with myself and with that being done, I derive a renewed strength to move on with my life.

I dont like to be in a bad mood. Im always in a happy mood unless something has me upset. Then I get real quite.

I need solitude because I actually find comfort in solitude. Solitude doesnt mean that I am lonely. Loneliness means being emotionally shut out from the things that we want in life such as love and affection. Solitude means being alone. Being in solitude but not lonely, requires self-assurance, inner joy & deep spirituality. Solitude allows me to have time to let things be and delve into my inner self

i want to start my respond with a definition of clinical depression: "a state of intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive to an individual's social functioning and/or activities of daily living.." this is very hard to control but is possible..and it is not a choice it is a body disorder..whaen there is an unbalance in the serotanin levels in your brain..so this is not people choice maybe you are talking depression mood..yes this all depends on the person how he see's life and how he acts in life.. i do not know one person that is happy being depressed i do know people that get used to being depresed and they do not know how to "get rid of" that moody habit. i myself do not enjoy it. i also just like you like my time by myself..but this is not depression and it is carfully monitored by me..