I Haven't Heard even a Single word SORRY....Is it easy to forgive?
By ydnac22
@ydnac22 (802)
Philippines
March 16, 2007 9:19am CST
Well, here i am again sharing my past...(lol)
As few of you here knows ive been in a four year relationship before...a serious one.And yes it hurts me badly bad but i will be happy to announce that i have totally moved on now after 1 year of grief.(lol)...
I havent heard latest news about my x.The last things i heard is he married that girl he made pregnant.Yes admit our relationship ends very badly.We dont even talk formally during our breakup.I just break him up after knowing that he got a new girl in his life.I remember the time i confronted him about this he just said "well im just a man who easily fall inlove to someone else" ahhhh sounds very sarcastic.Thats the last words i heard from him.NO apologies, NO sorries ....Now, i met his friend two weeks ago.Hes nice and we exchanged stories and many things.
I was just surprised when he asked,"have you forgiven him"(refering to his friend) and i answered right away..."how can i forgive a person who dont even utter a single word sorry?" he just smiled and say "You havent move on yet."Do you think he's right?Im confused of what i feel, yes i thought i have already moved on cause im happy now with my bf but the thing is i havent forgiven him yet. Is it easy to forgive?
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3 responses
@jojopuff (520)
• United States
16 Mar 07
No, it is not easy to forgive, especially in a situation like that. I am so sorry you had to go through that. However, if you want to truly move on and feel better, you should forgive him even though it isn't easy. That is when you will find peace in the situation.
There have been a few times when my husband and I have had arguments, and until we forgive each other, it just doesn't seem right between us. Forgiveness is very important.
Your ex was definitely in the wrong, and seems like he didn't treat you all that well. It is very difficult to recover from a situation like this, but you will. Don't worry!
@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
16 Mar 07
yes i admit its not that easy. I even thingking what if we will met today i dont even know what to do and how to react.Yes I believe that forgiveness is very important and thats what i keep on praying to teach me how to forgive him.:) thanks so much jo. :)I really appreciate ur thought.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
16 Mar 07
This is a tough situation for you. I guess it's what you feel in your heart if you are ready to move on. You said that it has been a year, and it's time to move on. Time does heal all wounds, so maybe you can forgive and forget and not worry at all about the past.
If you are ready, to forgive, send him a letter, phone call or whatever, and just say "I forgive you." That may be all it will take for your heart to mend.
Just my humble opinion.
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
No it's not easy to forgive and don't be so hard on yourself. What happenned to you was TERRIBLE! You were in love and he broke your heart in the worst possible way. Don't let his friend make you think that you haven't moved on. Youve moved on from HIM, you don't love him anymore, but you are still very hurt, and that is normal. It will probably take you YEARS to get over the fact that someone you loved betrayed and deceived you like that. I'm sorry.
