Rumor started about me, spread throughout highschool

United States
March 16, 2007 7:50pm CST
Hello everyone. This week has been the worst in my highschool time. my 'friend' and his senior brother, along with another senior friend of his and another kid went against me. They began to spread this rumor on Monday (I think) or Tuesday of this week. I tried so hard to stop it from spreading, but it was unstoppable. Everyone beleived it, too. I lost about all of my friends, and even the girl that I was getting to like a lot won't even come near me or talk to me anymore. I wasn't popular to begin with, but now I've reached a new low. I feel like I've got absolutely nobody on my side anymore. The rumor was so nasty that I don't want to speak of it to you all. I feel like I'm hated or like I have a disease now and nobody wants to even talk to me just because they beleive the rumor. I've denied it so much, but nobody ever listens! This is horrible! I don't know what to do! Anyone have ANY advice? Please help me out! Thank you all so much -Joe
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11 responses
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
17 Mar 07
What a terrible thing to do. and some how it seems worse because you know it isn't true. it is hate full insightful, and down right nasty, is what it is, I wish there were words of wisdom I could pass along to comfort you, but I do not. I would imagine that sooner or later the truth will come out, but right now that is no help. I can only suggest that you walk down the hallways with your head up and know you did no wrong, they will soon pick on some one new, and you will no longer be a target, If it becomes really bad please talk to the school councilor, do not let this over whelm you,
• United States
17 Mar 07
I suppose I'm the fool. This hasn't been the first time they've pulled something on me. It's never been this bad though. I've known them since I was in like 2nd grade. They're some of the only friends I had. Earlier this year, they would occasionally turn on me, but it was never this insulting or hateful. I'm the fool for staying friends with them. Last night I called my father to talk about it and half way through the phone call after telling him that everything was still ok, I ended up breaking down and trying to hold back the tears, then I began telling him the truth. He said "You don't need them, you have other friends" but I tried to explain to him that they were just about the only friends I had but he just didn't listen. The worst thing is is that this has been going on constantly throughout the week, ever since it started, which makes me worry that it might still be alive on Monday. -Joe
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Iam sorry to hear this of you. some poeple can be so hurtful but if they are your true friends then they should know that the rumors are not true. I hope that everything works out for you.
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
17 Mar 07
Rumors sure suck, don't they? I've had a rumor spread about me when I was in 8th grade (junior high). The boy who spread it was a classmate of mine. The rumor about me was completely untrue. At first I didn't know what to do, but luckily I had worked in the school office (it was my elective), and even though I was hesitant at first to get help I ended up going to the school's counselor and he ended up helping me clear up the whole thing. The counselor told the boy that if he (the counselor) heard anymore about this the boy would be suspended from school. If you have a school counselor maybe he or she could help you out like mine did. I hope all this gets cleared up for you. Good luck!
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• United States
17 Mar 07
Speaking with a counselor is my last resort for this problem. I think that if I talk to the counselor about it, word will somehow get out and I'll have another problem on my hands. -Joe
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@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
17 Mar 07
Hi Joe,I'm really sorry to hear about this :( When I was your age people from my High School did exactly the same thing, they started a completely ridiculous rumor about me. It was entirely untrue, but it didn't stop them spreading it and other idiots believing it. I remember being incredibly upset about it, but there was nothing I could do about it except wish contantly for them to forget about it. The rumor about me wasn't exactly nasty, but it was embarrassing. They claimed I was madly in love with a boy even though I couldn't stand his guts and had only told a friend (who did like him) that I guess he had nice eyes. To have them warp that into something entirely not true (to the extent that the guy that I did like even believed it!) was just horrible for me back then, especially as I already was bullied and laughed at. As you can tell though, I didn't tell anyone, not a teacher or my parents. Teachers at my school were useless and would have laughed it off as just a kiddies prank. I do advise that you tell someone especially as you now feel so hated - I at least still had some friends left, as fake as they were. I can really understand how you're feeling right now, but you will get through this. There really is a light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how bleak things look now. If things get so bad at school then perhaps consider changing schools. But talking to someone (someone who WILL take it seriously) is the best advise I can give you, as suffering in silence only makes things worse. I wish you the best of luck and I'm sure you're strong enough to get through this. If I got through it then I'm utterly certain that you can too!
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@healer (1783)
• India
17 Mar 07
Such things happens in life at your stage that is high school time, you learn a lot in life at this stage. Be strong and never feel down whatever people say about you, move on with your normal life one day the truth will come out. Many times we feel frustrated and stay idle for long which only blocks us to move forward in life. Try to play fire with fire with those who deserve, one day life will return to normal. Rumors are very frustrating But remember friend one day your friends will tell you that it was a rumor. Take it easy and hope you catch on with your life, and happy earning here in mylot
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@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I am so sorry, just try and stay strong and focus on your school work. Keep your grades up and focus on that! Kids can be really mean but hopefully it will blow over soon and people will forget about it. Keep your head up and don't let them get you down, especially over someting that isn't true. Look positive and happy and others wills ee that in you and hopefully believe that you are telling the truth and the other guys lied about you!
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@cf1016 (227)
• China
17 Mar 07
please bleave yourself ,i think it is not very bad that nobody ever listens.but you can get youself out of the horrible! and ,then ereything will be goog again ! best wishes for you !
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• United States
17 Mar 07
i am sorry you have to go through this, highschoolers can be really nasty! Just know that highschool will soon be over and nobody is going to care what the rumor is, you won't even see many of these people the rest of your life if at all. It may seem like the end of the world right now, but it's not. Pretty soon everyone will be stuck on a new rumor.
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• India
17 Mar 07
Hey Dude. Why the hell are you so upset. It is only a rumour. People do that out of jealousy. You might be better than your friends and they are jealous enough to spread rumours like sissys. This is the point in life where you can show your mettle, what you are made of. Don't cry and be weak instead be more strong. If the girl you liked doesn't come close to you avoid her completely and find someone else. She's not the last girl you are going to meet. I have gone thru this mess myself but i didn't give up. My girlfriend broke off with me and i decided to be even better than before and i never looked back. Now i am married to a beautiful girl and working in a multinational company in good position. I proved to myself that i can stand alone and so can you. There will be more around to befriend leave those loosers to spread some more rumours.
• United States
18 Mar 07
Wow you don't know how much better your post makes me feel. Thank you so much for all the pep talk there. You're right, if I stand up to this and get through this good I could possibly look better as the end result of this rumor passing. I think it'd be a good thing for me to show that I can stand alone and against everyone else. Yeah what the hell, after highschool I'll probably never see those snots again. Your post really helped make me feel better and stronger about this whole thing. Thanks! -Joe
• India
18 Mar 07
Sure Dude, anytime. High school is the time to build character and you have more character than those fellows who you call friends. Live life and enjoy.
• United States
20 Mar 07
Ok, I was wrong when I said last week was horrible. I figured word already got out last week, but it hadn't fully gotten spread. NOW everyone knows the rumor, and I can't get through a class period without someone asking about it to me. I deny it 100% of the time, but people just ignore me. This hurts so bad and to think that Seniors are the main ones who started it hurts even more because everyone believes the seniors. That girl I liked and all of her friejnds think I'm a perverted creep now. I'm so sad and depressed at school now that I barely talk to anyone and I feel ashamed even of something I didn't do. This is an all time low for me and it's just plain hell. But I still try to keep my head high and ignore people. I'm begging to lose hope for denying it anymore to turn this thing around, so now I don't even fight it. I know how sick this sounds but sometimes I feel like killing myself. My question is still: "What did I ever do to diserve this?"
• United States
17 Mar 07
As a high school teacher, I will tell you what I tell my students. High school is the toughest time in your life. However, if you just hold on and get through it the best way you can, you will see in a few years how little some of this stuff matters. It hurts when friends turn on you, but it is their loss and they have to live with what they have done. Hang in there and remember that by Monday, someone new will be the news and you won't...Take Care !
• United States
17 Mar 07
Oh..I love adulthood and loved college...However, high school could go either way from moment to moment...either it was on a high...or a low...rarely anything in between !!
• United States
17 Mar 07
I agree with the comment that said High school is the toughest time of your life. Its very true.. because when you will face stuff like this in the future you will know how to deal with it, and you'll be able to do it with ease. I wish you strength my friend, in getting through this. Plug away at it, we have faith in you here. Keep your chin up!
• India
17 Mar 07
dear i dont know about wht type of rummor is spread on your behalf, but if i was on your behalf then i would be doingh on thing that i would be spreading the rummors for the people who did for you or give some money to some thiefs and let them kill my friends so wht u think its upto u may god help u dude.................................