Family
By makemerich
@makemerich (101)
India
4 responses
@devika2204 (21)
• India
17 Mar 07
Living in a joint family has both advntages and disadvantages.When you live in a joint family,there are many obvious adjustments.You enter a family which is run already by somebody.They have a set of rules,which has been accepted by the family over the period of time.So you too have to accept them ,which is a difficult thing,as you are from a different set.So if you are ready for that or can concentrate on the positive factors like somebody is always there to support ,to take care of you and your children.Mother in laws are a good support too who can inculcate good values in your children and if you accept you too.
@makemerich (101)
• India
17 Mar 07
Absolutely true there is always advantages and disadvantages for everything and it is up to the couple or individual to choose what is best for everyone..Of course there are adjustments that u have to make in both the cases
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
I have gone through this gruelling experience for about a year. My husband was raised by his grandparents along with all the siblings plus a married aunt and their kids. The problem involved the married sister and a younger brother.
The sister, with the brother for a cohort, will go around making up stories about how bad I am. Tells this to the neighbors and the relatives around. It made my life felt like hell. What made it more terrible, was my husband sided with her all the time.
I decided to leave my irresponsible husband from then on. Now, we are living separate lives but he will never give in to a legal separation. Now, that we have gone older, the situation has mellowed but, the relationship is beyond repair.
@makemerich (101)
• India
17 Mar 07
Think that this is the major problem where husbands are not ready to let go of their parents and kins and live a new life with their wife and kids..
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
17 Mar 07
I know there are some cultures where it is customary for a bride to go live with the husbands family and get bossed around by the MIL, SIL, BIL, and everyone else in his family. I couldn't live like that. I didn't even lte my mother come help me when my twins were born years ago.
I believe that a woman should rule her home. To that end, a nuclear family works out best as there is really only one other adult in the house. I think it is terribly important for kids to see their mother as the main parent because women give birth. I think home run better when a woman doesn't allow her power to be diluted.
@makemerich (101)
• India
17 Mar 07
Agree to u, but only for homemaker Moms..If u are working and there's no one to look after the kids it becomes verry difficult to handle the situation.. in such conditions the joint family comes to the rescue since there's always someone to take care of the kids..The ideal thing would be that u stay close to your Mum or MIL's house so that u can drop the kids there at least till they are old enough to take care of them selves..
@welcome2 (2)
• Philippines
17 Mar 07
Once a couple has decided to live together, it is best and it is for their own good, that they do not live with either of their nuclear families. In this way, the couple will have a better chance to know each other well and can start their own lives in freedom. Most in-laws are well-meaning. However, whether we like it or not, unreasonable expectations can stress out relationships.
