shoud i tell my dark secret to someone i am getting married to?

If you trust them enough to get married to them, then it stands to reason you should be able to trust them enough to tell them your secrets..from stupid things you did as a kid, to something horrible. If they truly love you, then it won't matter. If they care about some dumb ol' secret and want to leave it just shows they don't deserve you. Real love can endure anything. Be prepared though..no matter what from one or both of you, it's probably, gonna be rough.

no as long as you have paid for it ...dont stress yourself and don't let the past ruin your present and future.

Personally I think that you should. If you love someone enough to marry them then you should be able to trust them with everything.. the good and the bad.. if they truly love you back they will accept you the way you are. And if there is any chance that someone else will tell them, it'd probably be much better for them to hear it from you first.

As we know the fact that a life partner is partner, with whom we share everything of our life, thus it is obvious that we should not cover any secret before the person. It is important that there are no unknown facts between the two of you. But then again, we don't want to hurt our loved ones unneccessarily. If you think that the secret if disclosed will be a reason of immense discomfort for you spouse, and may create problems between you two, then may be you should not share it. Sometimes we need to keep some dark secrets covered through life, to save our loved ones and ourselves from discomfort and pain.

If you want to,but i think you should tell her/him,if the person realy loves you he/she will accept what you've done in the past because you already paid for ypur mistake.

yup , tell him are you a mass murderer? did you swear at somebody's mom? what did you do? I wanna know.

If it truly bothers you and it seems like it do, then tell him...do not go into this marriage with this secret hanging over your head, what if he/she finds out after you guys are married, then what??It do depend on what the secret is to, because some secrets are more harsh, and more hurtful if they don't know...like for example, I had a relationship with a fellow before I met my husband...It was probably about three years before I met him...no big deal, then one day this guy told my husband that he use to date me...and my husband didn't know, he was a little ticked off that I didn't tell him, but understood that it was long before I met him, and I didn't even consider that a secret of sorts, he just thought that I had kept it from him on purpose for some reason... If this bothers you, and you believe its something that will come back and bite you in the a$$ if they ever find out, if its something that will cause you problems either in your relationship, or just in your own mind, be honest and confess...good luck...

I most likely would as he might hear it from someone else and then have a hard time trusting you. If he really loves you he will be understanding. Why don't you give him a chance to be?

No way, it's one of the worst things you can do!