Do you believe, that real love can come into your life only once?
By jazgottt
@jazgottt (1180)
Poland
March 18, 2007 8:53am CST
Some people believe, that if you fall in love really hard it's your destiny to spend rest of your life with this person. And there can't be second true love in your live.
I was feeling that my first love is my big love, but it ended few years ago.
I met warm-hearted, cute boy lately and I think I'm falling in love now. Do you think that it's a chance that it would be true, deep, big love this time? Or that kind of feelnig accompany only the first relationship.
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5 responses
@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
27 Oct 07
I do believe that we can fall in deep love many times in our live. But usually the first love will be the most unforgetable one because our brain works in a way that new exposure (1st time event) become more dominant than the 2nd onwards occurance. Recently I had read a theory of man's love where the man give his genuine love to the first woman he fall in love in. He will still love the second or third woman that he will meet later in his life, but the love is no longer pure and significant to him compared to the first love. I am a guy myself and I do agree with that theory to certain extend. For me, it's yet to be proven because I haven't found my second soul mate. My ex dumped me about 1 year back and I still care about her very much and I feel less motivated to find a new one. May be my behaviour conform to the forthsaid theory. Who knows?
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@cheongyc (5072)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 07
Wow, that's quite a long time. My first relationship last for 5 years. And it's been almost 1 year since then. In fact my ex did come approaching me and pleading to be together again, but I refuse to do so. Everytime I meet her, I feel sad and it remind me of the good old days. It's also very hurt to reject her when she come pleading me in tears. Finally I decided to give her a chance to start from friend 2 to 3 weeks ago. But I was so frustrated when I saw the tattoo on her back which is another guys' name, and tell her that I won't see her from now on, for the time being.
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@jazgottt (1180)
• Poland
27 Oct 07
hi cheongyc. I have started this discussion 8 months ago and I have to admit, that I am in love now. I don't think about my previous boyfriend much. Maybe it's because it was long time ago when we were together. So I guess it needs time to forget about someone who we loved.
I had many doubts about falling in love again. I think it would be hard. But it was not so hard hehe. The boy I love now is really good person, I like the way he looks and the way he treats me. The most weird thing is that I met him online.
When it comes to your situation - well, I think it is good to be single for a while. It means more free time;). I really liked it. Now I like beeing in relationship, of course. But one year is not so long - it's ok to wait for really right person. My first relationship lasts 4 years. And than I was alone for about 6 years.
take care.
jazgottt
@jazgottt (1180)
• Poland
29 Oct 07
I'm not sure if it is good idea to stay in close friendly relationship with your ex. It may remaind you those good things, as you said. It can make you week;). I was also in quite close relationship after broke up with my first boyfriend. But I realized, that it can't be called real, pure friendship, and he is still thinking that we will be together in the future. I tried to not contact him, and it was good solution of this weird situation.
In my opinion, if someone hurt you once, he/she could do it second time. But sometimes it is good to give somebody the second chance. It all depends on our feelings:). But, of course, only second chance, not the third chance and next, and next;).
take care
jazgottt
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
1 Apr 07
I believe that your first love could not be called a real love as it could not last forever. Loves that come later are independent events. In this way I believe that real love has yet to come so why not to give the warm-hearted cute boy a chance!
@mummyofthree (2715)
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18 Mar 07
I think if you are in the right place and the right frame of mind love can come around more than once. I think when we love someone we shut our eyes to all the other options out there and we are blind to other matches.
You go for it and see were it takes you. I wish you all the best.
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@joanna08 (394)
• Philippines
18 Mar 07
no... i believe that it can come many times, the perfect one will arrive at the right time in the right situation. think about it, if you let go the only person that you consider as true love, does that make your life life end just because he/she s gone.
