I Don't Accept Friend Requests Willy Nilly

I guess my question is always, Why? Why has this person requested my friendship. I look over their profile and their responses and discussion and find that they haven't responded to anything that I've responded to and suspician sets in. Or a person who has been completely hostile toward my views requests me as a friend and I can't understand why. My thought comes back to the money factor. I think I requested you on my friends list because we respond to many of the same discussions, and I respect your view. But I do love a good debate and a person who has opposite views from mine are fun to befriend, like you said. THanks for your response.

*nods* That makes sense. I have had a few of the people I accepted right away send me spam messages, but I just deleted those people. I guess for me I don't mind deleting people later if they don't work out, so I just accept them right away unless they've already offended me in some way. I did have one person whose friend request really annoyed me. We had been in a discussion about something philosophical together, and that had gone okay, but we had both posted to a thread about GBLT matters, and he'd been really rude. And yet he sent me a friend request! I couldn't believe it. That one of course wound up declined. Maybe I should go your route instead and think about the person more before I accept them. It's just that usually when I come on each day I have several requests waiting, and so I just approve them and hope for the best. It's interesting to hear about how other people make those decisions, though. I think in the future I will at least check to make sure I've been in a discussion with someone first. It would probably cut down on my spam!

Yeah, I don't befriend anyone who is anti-glbt. If they are anti-glbt, they are anti-people I love and that angers me. I do have a friend who doesn't agree that gay people are born that way, but he has never disrespected gay people in any way. In fact, contrary to his stance on other matters, he bends to not disrespect gay people. When he says, I have gay friends, I actually believe him. I don't usually take that at it's word. although he is much more religious than I am, we are excellent sparring partners. And I do respect him. He respects me. That is the important part.

Exactly. If I find myself responding to the same discussions as someone else, it only makes sense to add them to my friends list. If not, then why do they seek me as a friend. I got a friend request from someone who had posted no discussions and had only responded to one, which I had not responded to. Why would this person request me as a friend. I had to decline.