how do you tell your husband that its over?

Is there a way you can have a month-long vacation where you can think things over? Parents breaking up will be hard on the kids. However, it will be harder still if the parents will not be living in harmony and quarrelling in front of them will be taking place from to time. Think deeply about this one before ever taking that big step which will spell a very big difference in your life. Whatever decision you might have reached at the end of it all, good luck. May you make the right decision. I understand how it is because, I have been subjected into one of it a long time ago. My husband and I lead separate lives now but, he never gave in to giving me that legal separation thing. Nonetheless, it is better this way, than us living together and fighting always.

Maybe you could sit down with him and try to work it out so that you did feel like you still wanted him in your life? At some point you loved him enough to marry him and have children with him. What is it that first drew you to him? You might also try marriage counseling. Those 2 boys could use a happily married set of parents.

I do not think that u should use that phrase; Out off our lifes... You have 2 kids with him and he has the right to atleast be in their lives. even if you don´t love him anymore. I think that u should just sit down and talk with him about how you feel and about what yo u want.