what are your major insecurities in your relationship?

i have these insecurities esp w/ his ex who turned out to be his best friend. tho he always make it a sure that he's only mine, i still can't help it why i get so jealous w/ the girl. paranoia really kills!lol i do fear of losing him, because we have two kids and i love him so much.but the problem is, we are still not married because i think he can't still leave his bachelor life. he enjoys going out with friends, even without my consent. anyhow, i know that i'm not in the position to rule his life, but what i want is, to stop seeing that girl.

Well, my boyfriend and I would fight over his friends. I get jealous because he sometimes spends more time with them than me. We do settle these petty stuffs and since we talked about it, we haven't fought anymore. I told him how I felt and he understood. Communication is obviously the solution to these insecurities. He was able to make me feel confident that he really loves me and that I am important to him.

it is perfectly normal to be insecure especially in a relationship. you know, when my husband and i were still in the stage of bf-gf thing, we also had our misunderstandings and have lead also to break-up. maybe because we were immature then and don't know how to handle those kind of situations. he was insecure because i am smarter than him. i was insecure because girls swoon before him. but eventually, we learned to develop this kind of understanding and we gradually became mature. right now, we have been together for 9 years and still going strong.

There are two things that make me insecure. One is exactly like what you said. I have been unable to work due to illness for the last 11 years. I have been unable to contribute financially to the household and it has been a burden on my husband. He is frustrated because he can't see my illness therefore he thinks I should be able to work outside the home, especially since I spend so much time on the computer every day. Hopefully I will get my book published and can wave a big fat cheque in his face. The other is the fact that his family is in Prince Edward Island and we live in Ontario. He wants to go back every summer and we cannot afford it. The girls and I hate the long drive so if we go we want to fly, but he says we can't afford to fly all four of us. The other day he said he would retire down there. I don't want to live down there so that scares me. There are problems in every relationship. We just have to stop worrying about the what ifs and live life to the fullest in the present.

My girlfriend feels the same way. You cant control certain things like that though. I sacrifice more because, I really have to, and she is not in the position to give as much.

My major insecurities is I worry losing my job as we always settle the bills on a half half basics after marriage. For my personal necessaries like clothes, shoes, jewels and so on are bought by myself. So I cannot imagine my habby would pay for me if I lost a my job.

Yes...I have felt that way several times. I know my boyfriend also does a lot for our family...However..I think I do my share too..and do my best. I have had a lot of hardships to endure...and I really don't think he understands how I feel? I know he loves me..but lately things between us have not been too good. I know I need to try harder...but he could do more too...I guess it takes two...

To me this comes across as a very odd statement, Did he make the sacrifices on his own or did you ask hi to do this for you. Because if he has done this on his own and you didn't ask him why would you feel that you owed him or even needed to repay him If what he has done is appreciated than say so, but you do not owe anything to him he choose to do this. And if he is making you feel inadequate this is a control issue. and perhaps he is doing this so that you will feel obligated to stay with him. or do something that you would not normally do. Please think about where this is leading, what you have described is not right, and you need to take a real close look at his motives,

well it has to be give and take relationship so your boyfriend can feel that he is special for you and your doing those things for him..thats very important.. right now i dont have any insecurities i a relationship..

My girlfriend and I have been together for more than six years now and what I've learn from all those years of being together is that there can be no place for insecurities. The both of you should develop a sense of trust with each other that no matter what... you neither she will give up on what you have built together and help each other preserve the love. Hope everything works out with your BF. Cheers!

just be yourself I think presumably thats why he likes you for who you really are don't worry about it, be real, be honest with yourself and him maybe he was bored or something, maybe he loves you anyway, just try to be happy, keep expectations there yet in check one step at a time, I guessing you get at least a VERY close friend, maybe a whole lot more

Insecurities like being jealous when were having talk with someone that may lead to a bad conversation even you're explaning your side... Its really bad to know that your partner dont appreciate what you've done for him/her.. I hope you guys can work things out well.. Have a nice day ahead.

when we think our relation as insecure....!!! so never think that our relation is insecure...if you had some quarrel it is the part of come to closer...and make relation more healthy..think like so...!!

My best friend is going through the same situation. Your boyfriend may be a little confused (if not more insecure than you are). He has to understand that everything he does for you should be coming from his own will without having any big expectations in return. There's always that problem with "giving" and finding it's equivalent in return, which I find horribly wrong. Don't, at any point, think you have to "reciprocate" everything he does for you because for one, it might be forced and two, it's not being yourself. The biggest thing you can do for him is "appreciate" things he does for you, occassionaly you should also be a giver but not to the point of overwhelming the gaps you failed to do for him. Things should come from you, be yourself.

I'm sure you have done this before, but tell him you really appreciate whatever it is he has done for you. Then do whatever you can in return. Beyond that... A relationship built on a "power differential" (you give him power over you because he made this sacrifice for you) is bound to fail. He either accepts you for who you are or he does not. Be yourself and let that be enough. Good luck.

its too bad that you feel this way. is he the one that is making you feel this way, or is it just you? the reason i ask is becuase if he is one making you feel guilty, this isnt good. this means that he is always going to use it against you, and no matter what you do, he will continue to use it against you. that isnt the way relationships work. now, if its just the way YOU feel, dont worry, the longer the relationship continues, and the more you do for him, the more you are going to reason with yourself that you have made up for how he has helped you. speaking from experience here. my husband (boyfriend of only 1 year at the time) payed my college tuition when my dad decided to get up and leave one day. i was already into my 3rd(?) year, i didnt want to quit now. i didnt even ask my bf to pay for it, he just did. he never ever brought it up or used it against me. we moved in together, and i started giving him the best i could...by having dinner made, house clean, good grades (lol), clothes done, his freedom to be with the guys.... anything that i thought he would appreciate. i then started working, and we combined our money together. i never questioned when he wanted to buy new shoes, jerseys, video systems, and he didnt question my purchases, but i kept mine to a minimum for a while. this in MY mind, was the way he was getting paid back. 8 years later, we are married and i am giving him "the best gifts he has ever received" (his words)...his babies. so yes, i think we are even now. btw. my insecurities in the relationship right now... that i am huge and unattractive -im 9 months preggo with #2. and that he sees me as lazy and slow right now :( i hope to be a MILF once baby is out. LOLOLOLOL.