Chinese female mysteries...
March 19, 2007 7:21am CST
Interesting topic, ain't it? So since you are here, give me a hand, will you? Or some input, advice and observations. I have a lovely young Chinese girlfriend and we are seriously discussing marriage. It would be my second (I divorced a girl that was an absolute disaster for me). She has only had one boyfriend before me. I am willing to bequeath to her all my possessions that I have (including a condominium) and to take her abroad for a while although I am not the most well off. Don't think I am doing this out of foolishness - I am in love with this woman and I am a bit older than she is; I am thinking of HER security and future once I am no longer around. I don't want anything tragic to happen to her so long as it is humanely preventable. Of course, I will take my precautions: she will get my property at a later stage (in a couple or ro years when I am satisfied that our relationship is remaining in good shape). Now my oribkenL She is a little unstable emotionally; I ascribe this to her low level of self-confidence. She has every asset you can imagine in a beautiful and educated woman - but they don't afford her enough self-confidence because her employer often shakes her down in public. She hates her work and her abusive boss, which I can understand. There is, of course, the not minor aspect of money: she keeps her job because she cannot afford to quit. And I do not want her to be my housewife (she is a degreed and experienced English teacher, and by gosh, her competence in the English language is second to no one's at least here). Sadly, her job just pays her around 1000 kuai (plus 2 monthly salaries in bonus); she has to pay for her accommodation and food. So here is the question: She has begun dropping hints about how poor she is. She went to the extreme of asking me for money too and I am willing to oblige. You see, she spends up to 300 kuai a month on telephone charges (because she calls me every day, and those are long conversations!). Recently, she had to spend 200 kuai on hospitalisations of her students, money she had to withdraw with her creditcard to pay for those students whose parents will repay her later. She was then penniless, literally! Not a single kuai in her purse! So, would you say I should give her a monthly stipend to add to her salary? I was thinking of 300 to 500 kuai. In her moodiness she can be a little scathing (which I can forgive her); she would say "my former boyfriend allowed me to take his purse and help myself to his money...he never asked for that money to be returned!" I found this a little hard to swallow but under her circumstances... What is your opinion?