What is the approp. age?

@sunshine4 (8706)
United States
March 19, 2007 9:18am CST
What do you think is the appropriate age to stop sleepovers. I have a 13 yr old son who still wants to have friends sleep over every weekend. I think that they are getting a bit too old for this. Other parents haven't discouraged it. Is it just me?
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• United States
24 Mar 07
I slept over my friend's house all through high school. Trust me, 2 teens together all night long can be bad. My friend's parents were much less strict than my parents were. They would go out to the bar and leave us home and then we would do whatever we wanted. One time she told her parents she was sleeping over at my house, and I told my parents I was sleeping over at her house, and we stayed out all night!! At least if the kids are under your roof you can keep an eye on them. Personally, my kids are still too young for sleepovers but I am dreading it. I see no real benefit to it and, knowing the stuff I used to do, I may just say no.
• United States
20 Mar 07
I don't think there is an age to stop sleep overs but if they are females then yes but if they are just guy friends hell don't even worry bout it. I have a friend who is 15 and has her friends stay over sometimes.
@creematee (2810)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I don't see the harm in having sleep overs. I think every weekend is a bit excessive, but as other posters say, at least you know where the boys (I'm assuming that he's just inviting boys) are and that they are in a safe environment. My children are just getting to the age to start wanting sleepovers. Guess i Have a lot of years ahead of me. sigh. :) Good think I like their friends. LOL! My advice is do what YOU feel appropriate. If you aren't comfortable with it, maybe you could ween him off... maybe agree to one sleepover a month, then down to one every two months. Best of luck to you!!
• United States
19 Mar 07
hmm im 25 now and would still have sleep overs if i could! so i dont really think there is an age limit on it. if your not too fond of having the sleep overs at your house each weekend, id try letting your son go to a friends house instead, or you could do what my mom did.. i was only allowed a sleep over every few weeks.
• United States
19 Mar 07
My son is 15 and he still has the occassional buddy spend the night or weekend. I have no problem with it at all. At least if they are here, I KNOW where those kids are and its better that they are here than out somewhere else doing other things that they might otherwise be tempted to do.
@vialdana (69)
19 Mar 07
I personally don't think there is an age to stop having sleep overs to be honest. I mean I know people in their 20's who will have a girly night in with their mates, and the friends will crash over night - basically this is just an adult version of a sleep over isn't it? Personally I reckon as long as it's not doing anyone any harm, and as long as they're enjoying it and your not having to deal with any problems with boys and girls together etc. then I'd say let them continue. After all, if they are enjoying it, then surely it's better that they continue this it's harmless after all, and you know where they are, and that they're safe and not getting up to anything they shouldn't.
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I guess it depends on what your concerns are. I think having kids sleep over reduces the possibility of them being out somewhere that you can't supervise them. If the parents are at home and attuned to what the kids are doing, I see no harm in it. If my child were to sleep over at a friend's house I'd want to know the parents to be sure they have similar values as mine so I won't have to worry about what they might let the kids get away with. I wouldn't want my teens drinking, smoking, or having girls in their bedrooms.