What should be the decision on this real love matter

India
March 19, 2007 1:21pm CST
If a boy and girl being in a real love with each other and being having relation with a girl from a long time approximate 6 yr and after long relation his parent refuse for approval for marriage of both, what boy should do whether he leave that girl or go for marriage against parent with that girl, i mean to know what real love should take the path for this situation whether girl should accept the boy leaving decision or she should blame ditcher to him and what he and she should do in this situation
4 responses
• Romania
19 Mar 07
the best thing to do is to follow your heart but not blindly. i mean, if you are aware of the fact that you can't be the head of a family and support a whole family for now, you'd better wait a little more. i would definitely a pity to destroy the happiness brought by your love by transforming it into routine or worse, into worries. it's true that when you love someone you can't stand the idea of not being with him/her completely as you can be when married. but you can wait a little more if you feel you're not so secure about the family life and the responsabilities it involves. be careful and don't take everything for granted, don't be so sure that you'll be able to cope with everything! i'm not saying you're childish or something,don't get me wrong. it's just that i'm telling you to think about all the risks a decision like this implies. so good luck!
• India
19 Mar 07
but the desicion is on way whether on this side or that side his family will never agree and have no more time to wait for their parrent decision to be change because it will not chANGE before taking haresh step, both try a lot but no sucess
• Romania
19 Mar 07
but why are they so determined anyway? do they have any resons after all?
• India
21 Mar 07
only problem is of caste and he cant appose his brother as he had do too much for him
@babynanan (133)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
Maybe the parents are not yet ready to let go of their child that is why they don't approve but i think sooner or later they will. For me, I think you should not leave the girl just for that reason. You can talk to the parents and tell them that you are responsible enough to your actions and that you will not leave their child no matter what happens. Just let them assure of that. You should not let this one trial affect your relationship. With this, the more you need each other. One alternative is, you can respect the parents decision and if you really love each other, i think you can wait for the right time. :)
• India
21 Mar 07
they r even not ready and now more yr we cant wait as i m 30 yrs and girl 28 she was forced to do marraige
• Romania
19 Mar 07
if the decision is to run and get married , than you have to consider the fact that after you get married you have to be the head of your family and to make money, it's not so easy to manage a family without any money on you. so is your decision.
• India
19 Mar 07
both r highly educated and can earn this much that they can live good life here noting anything of this problem with both of them the problem is with the boy on emotional background the girl family support the girl what ever her decision but boy had to take decision what he take decision whether he hurt his parent or his love in both the one had to leave by the boy,the boy parents have refusal only for the caste differnce. what he should take decision in his mind one side is going that whether he hurt his parent who had brought them up on other hand he cant live without the girl. both side have pain, want to know which pain he should accept
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
19 Mar 07
In my culture parents don't actally own children like slaves, especially if they are 18. Maybe in some very very very poor places you do what the parents say or starve. Its not like that here in the US.