Getting baby to sleep

@pacwmn (79)
United States
March 19, 2007 2:11pm CST
I have a 10 month old and naptime is such a struggle. I have tried many different methods. I have tried a consistant routine, letting him cry it out, trying before he's too tired, waiting til he's REALLY tired, and rocking him. But often, the only thing that will work is nursing him til he falls asleep. I am glad that I have a way to get him to sleep, but I would like him to be able to get to sleep better on his own by his first birthday. Any suggestions?
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18 responses
• United States
22 Mar 07
well i have an 8 month old and she is a NIGHTMARE to get to go to sleep.. she falls asleep just fine when you're holding her but as soon as you put her down, she wakes right back up!! its extremely frustrating!!! i talked to the pediatrician about the whole situation and she told me to get her into a routine before bed.. (ex. give her a bath, bottle, and then read a book or whatever order you prefer) gets her nice and sleepy... then put them down in the crib and rub or pat their back... just keep rubbing their back until they stop crying and settle down a bit.. and then gradually stop rubbing... she told me DO NOT PICK HER UP! she will fall asleep as long as she has everything she needs... try that.. tell me if it worked for you :)
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
It's weird how babies can know that your putting them down even after they are asleep! I tried not picking him up and rubbing his back tonight, and it worked! Hopefully it will continue to work. Good luck with your baby!
• United States
22 Mar 07
It is indeed very strange... they are very smart :) i am having issues following the whole doctor's orders... recently me and her father split up and he's still got her crib. So i am stuck using a playpen :( it's not easy rubbing her back for however long it takes in a playpen because it's so low! but hopefully i will be able to get her crib soon!!
@ElisMa (7)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I am in the same boat right now with my 11mo. I have to nurse him, or my husband has to rock him. I dont want him to rely on nursing to sleep.... so I have been trying to start a better routine in the evening and it helps a bit. We eat, bathe, brush teeth, read a book, sing a lullaby, and then lay down (he's a co-sleeper). We sing a bit more, and sometimes he drifts off...other times.... he needs a bit of help (patting, rocking etc). I wish I had more advice.... I guess I just want you to know that you are not alone :-)
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Thanks for the advice and especially for the support! I hope your little boy starts to sleep better for you!
@cungnv (12)
• Vietnam
20 Mar 07
Please try bringing him under the little sunshine,that way he will have to close his eyes and after 5 minutes I'm sure that he will sleep!:)
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
That's funny! But it makes sense, thanks!
@kaevielf (246)
• China
20 Mar 07
Try playing a mellow music. Better if you sing with the music as well. Get rid of distractions like toys and sometimes even the presence of the family members can be a distraction too,so make sure stay away from them while trying to put your baby to sleep. Too bright rooms can also keep your baby awake. Babies like to be touched/petted, they can possibly fall asleep by gently rubbing their back,their legs,stroking their hair with your fingers. Hope that help.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Thanks for your help! Rubbing his back seems to be helping.
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
i have three kids. the only technique i ever did all the time for each one of them is by sleeping along with them until they fell asleep. sometimes i would fall asleep even before they did, but just the same, they would fall asleep after i did..
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Thanks for your ideas!
@jean_rose (416)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
This brings back memories. When my eldest daughter was born, she wouldn't sleep soundly. It seemed as though she just feigned sleep and let out a squeak when she felt that she was being laid on the bed. As she was my first baby, there were times when I would cry in exasperation. I had a job in the daytime and the lack of sleep almost every night literally sapped my energy. My mother was with me and also my sister and we often take turns trying to get her sound asleep but nothing seemed to work. I thought, we would be suffering from unwanted insomnia for a year or so. Fortunately, she changed all her own. My other daughter is different. Since birth, she was such an angel. I wouldn't even know she was wet if I didn't try to find out because she'd just sleep like a log. Even when she's sick, she wouldn't make much of a fuss about it. No two children are alike so, what I can I say is, there is no other way to deal with it but to go on doing what you have found effective. And since no two babies are alike, maybe, like me, you'll be luckier the next time. Cheers.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I'm glad that you had help when you were having a hard time and that your younger daughter sleeps better. Thanks for the support!
• Canada
20 Mar 07
My nephew is 14 months and I have babysat him since he was a newborn. What always worked to get him to sleep was music, especially slow songs and if I sang along softly with them.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Singing is really helping, thanks!
• Malaysia
20 Mar 07
I do not have any experience with this. But this ite might be helpful.. 31 ways to get your baby to sleep. www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070300.asp. Hope this site will help u. :)
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Thanks for your help, I'll definetely check out the web site!
@langhua (501)
• China
20 Mar 07
Before sleeping ,you can sing some slow song.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I have a lullaby that I sing to him which seems to help, thanks!
@aissha (2036)
• India
20 Mar 07
i understand it is really dificult to get a bay sleep i think they hv their own way to adjust in this world ,my baby now 2had very serious sleep problem ,sheused to sleep by 11 or so and then wake up by 3 or 4 am and i was out of my mind ,but sudenly after 2 she started sleeping full night ,so, keep trying i wish ur baby doesn't take longer.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I'm so glad your little girl is finally sleeping better! Thanks for the support!
• India
20 Mar 07
u yourself have to behave like a baby forgetting your age & what othewrs think of u....u must try to speak baby's words...
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
That is interesting, thanks for sharing
@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
20 Mar 07
My daughter is 9 months & her nap times are pretty set - around 10am & another around 2pm - sometimes a 3rd near 6:30pm depending on how much she wears herself out! Then she's in bed by abround 8:30pm & up between 7 & 8:30am! With her general day-time naps, we have a fold out sofa bed in the lounge, she lays on that & naps when she's tired. Sometimes i give her a bottle & turn on one of her DVD's & once she's filled up with milk & just laying there, she usually doses off. I hope this helps!
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I'm glad your little girl is doing so well with sleeping, thanks for sharing!
• United States
20 Mar 07
i was in your shoes once, and i dont miss it. i feel bad for you, it does make us want to go crazy doesnt it? my son didnt go to sleep unless we held him in our arms, and then very very gently and slowly laid him down in his crib. we were lucky if he stayed asleep, but most of th time we had to stay to rub his back cuz he would wake up. when he turned 11 months, i had had enough. i was determined to make him learn to go to sleep on his own. it was tough! i dont agree with letting him have a bottle to go to sleep, so we give him a bottle right before we take him to his room. once he was done with the bottle, i layed him down while he was wide awake. of course he stayed up screaming his head off, but i never left the room. i had a pillow and a blanket ready, i layed on the floor next to his crib. i let him cry for what seemed like forever. i would let a while pass, get up, lay him down again (still crying) and then lay down on the floor. the first 2-3 nights i dont think i got much sleep. he would eventually stop crying after a loooong while. but the problem was that he would wake up in the middle of the night, and the battle began again. but after the 3rd night, the crying didnt last as long and the middle of the night wakings didnt occur as often. by the end of the week, when i layed him down for the first time, he would cry for about a minute, see that i was already laying on the floor, so then he would lay down and just mumble to himself. when he did wake up in the middle of the night, he would stand up, whimper and then lay back down when i looked at him and told him "nite nite". after about a week and a half, things got better. i would lay him down and leave the room now. he would cry for about 10 minutes, but then finally go to sleep. he doesnt wake up in the middle of the night anymore. putting him to bed is still torture for him. he is now 17 months old and cries for about 2 minutes before decideing to give up and just go to sleep. oh, i do have to mention, during that week when i stayed in his room, i NEVER picked him up or gave him a bottle. i would just lay him right back down once, even if he got right back up. i would let him cry for a looong time, and then lay him right back down. i wanted him to realize that he was going to get the same response over and over. good luck to you! its so difficult to hear them crying, but we need our sleep and they need to learn how to go to sleep on their own.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Wow, good for you for sticking to your plan! It's so hard not to pick up a crying baby, but then they learn to rely on that to put them to sleep. I finally got him to sleep tonight without picking him up. Thanks for your help!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
19 Mar 07
It's hard. I don't nurse, but my son is hard to get to sleep, unless he has his bottle with him. And he is 14 mos now and still needs a bottle. I give him water during nap though, so he doesn't drink to much milk. I am trying to wing him off bottles and on to cups, but he refuses to nap without a bottle. It's just something we have to work with. Does your son have a blanket? My son sometimes falls asleep with a silk blanket if he can't have a bottle. Good luck.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
He does have a blanket, but I have been thinking of getting him something else soft and cuddly like that. Thank you.
• United States
19 Mar 07
Have you tried laying him down in a dark room with one of the crib toys that hook on the side of the crib and play music and light up? A constant noise is also soothing. I use to run a small fan to make noise. Now I have an air cleaner that I use for noise. Some children just take longer to fall asleep on their own and will learn as they get older. I had one that never went to sleep on his own. I promise it will get better. Just hang in there.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
He does have one of those toys and it really works during the night. ( I can hear it over the monitor) But not so much for going to bed origionally. Thanks!
@k1tten (2320)
• United States
19 Mar 07
The only way my da could get my sis to sleep is to rub her back. He'd rest her on his chest and just rub her back and she'd fall asleep quickly.
@pacwmn (79)
• United States
22 Mar 07
I tried rubbing his back tonight and it worked! Thank you for sharing your idea!
• United States
26 Mar 07
My daughter will be 10 months in 4 days. I personally don't believe in crying it out. At this age they don't nap much though. They play hard and sleep hard. My daughter will have a few cat naps, being only maybe 10 minutes. But at night she sleeps ALL night. I only put her down for a nap when she's REALLY needing it. But she plays like a wild woman hah.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
26 Mar 07
what worked for me was a baby swing. i put him in and let him swing to sleep. if you have one, try it. i hope that it does.