I am jealous...
March 19, 2007 9:28pm CST
My husband is a teacher just like me, everytime I saw his students especially girls looking at him with desires (huh!) I felt something bad inside my heart. Perhaps I am jealous. My husband just ignore those students but still I felt so bad with it. What can yousay bout my situation?
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22 Mar 07
Have you thought about why you are jealous? Is it just a natural response that you can work at channeling in a positive way? Is it fear that your husband will have an affair? Do you just not trust other women (especially girls who are younger than you?) Are you not happy with your own looks and feel threatened? Does your husband give you a reason to worry? I think you have to understand what caused the feeling before you can let go of it. After you understand why you feel that way then you should talk to yours husband. It's always good to be honest. Just make sure you're not nagging or accusing him. You want it to be a constructive conversation. In the end, I personally thing jealousy is silly. If your husband ignores these other girls, then you could just take it as a compliment. YOUR husband, the man that loves YOU, is attractive. If your husband is trying to lead these girls on, then you know he might not be right for you. I think jealousy (unless it's fueled by someone trying to make you jealous) is usually more of an internal issue that has to do with self esteem. We ALL feel it at one time or another, but if you have good self confidence it's easier to put it into context.
22 Mar 07
I suggest you talk with your husband and tell him about your worries. Students now are much more aggressive in their age and times now. And when you see a student looking at your husband in an intimate way, maybe you can approach your husbandto let that student kno you are aware of what's going on. Just remind your husband not to fall into a trap of those manipulative students who wants their grade to go high but don't take effort in doing so.
20 Mar 07
Firstly, how you can tell students looking at your husband with desires. Of couse this is we call jealous. Secondly you can't just looking at the students and make conclusion that their has disire on your husband, some student is has diffrence identity some like to smile and joking to all people he/she know, most of the student that close to the teacher is proactive. It's hard to find student that quiet and passive but very close to teacher. So just see how this student comunicate with other serround them.
20 Mar 07
These are some of the hazards of being a teacher. Students most often than not do tend to have a crush on their teachers especially if they are good looking. I think what you are feeling is only natural. Just don't get mad at your husband especially if he does not encourage such attentions. Learn to deal with it. It happens not only to your husband but to other teachers as well.