Do you feel good that you were beaten by your parents in your chilhood.....

India
March 20, 2007 9:32am CST
Well childhood is the most important part of everyone's life and the most relaxing and tension free life. Sleep till late mornings, getup and mom is ready with some good breakfast and all, friends are ready to play, play all day, then in the evening go out with your parents and what a lovely time that was! Really the best part indeed has to be childhood. At the same time ,parents even inculcate some good values in us, as they have some expectations with us and if we go wrong somewhere bang comes a slap and we cry atleast for an hour lol. At that time we just hate our parents but today when I think of those moments and their impact in my life ,I feel that what my parents did was indeed proper, and I thank them for all that. I remember that once I returned from my tutions and was gettin late to my school. At that time I was in 3rd standard and I had my afternoon school, so i sat down to have my lunch with my father and my mom just asked "What did you learn today?" and I don't know how did I replied that, "what do you have to do, thats not your business!" and bang ,I got a cracking slap from my father ,who was sitting next to me. I cried a lot and my father said that "she is your mom ,elder to you and dare you ever back answer her in that tone again." From then on I've never back answered my mom or any elder. When I think of that today I feel that indeed my father did for my improvement and I've gained from that and I always thank for all such incidents I faced. So come on guys, tell me if you have something to share, or tell me if you are doing such things with your children or not??
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@onlyu2008 (172)
• China
21 Mar 07
May parents never beat me in my childhood.I think I'm lucky.
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@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think there is a big difference in disipline and child abuse. I was not disiplined as a child like you, I was beat. I do not think that was right. I do not disagree with a good spanking every now and then or a stand in the corner. I think that teaches that some respect and proper attitude. But when it comes to bruises and welps, that is crossing the line.
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• Pakistan
20 Mar 07
YEah, i think it was good i was beaten up in my childhood for doing bad things, or using bad language... as that's the phase of improving I avoided doing those very things at which i was beaten up and uptil now... I'm safe from them.... So Beatings in childhood, if done in with the good thought are very helful for the children when they grow up and enter the practicality of Life!
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@Marie2473 (8517)
• Sweden
20 Mar 07
Here in sweden all kind of hitting and even spanking is forbidden and against the law. my parents never laid a hand on me so I really wouldn´t know what that is like. However my parents tought me alot without that, They taught me respect and good values. they also taught me to treat others the way I would want them to treat me back! Not to lie and cheat and also to follow the law and help others!
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@ehdzzie (331)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
when i was young...my mother would wipped me anything she saw at my butt if i did very wrong or if i answer back her so much...i hate her at that time but as of now i understand her that she just did that because she loves me...my father usually don't lay his hands at me but if he is so mad, i am more scared to him than my mom... =)
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@susan50 (110)
• United States
20 Mar 07
When I was growing up there were six of us kids. I can't ever remember getting a swat from my parents. We respected my parents. We were far from being good kids, my parents just didn't believe in spanking, they would ground us, which was worse than any spanking. I can remember one time my older brother got into it with my mom and it got really heated and the first time in my life my older brother raised his hand to our mother, it really shook her up to the point she started crying. My brother later apologized to her and they talked about it. It was never brought up again and my father never knew what happened. I am grown and have 4 children of my own now. While raising them I tried never to hit them. One day when my middle daughter was about 15 she was going through this snobby stage, we got into an argument and I had told her one more time she snubs her nose at me and she will get smacked. No more said that and up went her nose, I back handed her right in the nose and mouth, it gave her a bloody nose, that was the last time I ever raised a hand to any of my kids.
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@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
20 Mar 07
It willnever feel good when your parents beat you up. I never was got beaten up by my parents,i did some prank on on them but i receive only a clap on my back. The reason why i love them very much and is a good guy now is because they never beat me up.Beating up you child create hate towards parents.
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20 Mar 07
I think that I am pleased that my parents taught me respect. I learned how to behave nicely and I am trying to do the same with my children. I don't beat them, but I do give them the occasional smack if they are really naughty. Most of the time I just guide them using words and minor punishments and they behave really well. I think it is important to bring up your children knowing how to behave as they can then grow up to be happier adults as they will be used to conforming to what society demands of them.
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• United States
20 Mar 07
No I do not feel good that my mother beat on me when i was young. Why? Because the last time she did it I whispered "I hope you die and go to hell", two months later I lost not only my mother but my fatehr and grandma too, at the same time. Now, even though I'm older (was 13 at the time) I still blame myself and to be honest I don't even remember ever telling her that I love her. I was beat everyday, sometimes I may have needed it but not always and not with a fist. And now that I have a teenager of my own I don't touch her when I am mad because I am afraid I will do the same thing to her that was done to me.
• United States
20 Mar 07
To clear it up, she used a board, extension cords, her fist, or anything else that was handy. Have had busted lips, brusies, welts, and knots on my head. So yeah, I would say I was BEAT.
• United States
20 Mar 07
no you did not upset me I feel the same way about children as you do. I wouldn't hurt my daughter for all the gold in the world.
• India
21 Mar 07
i competely agree with u...whatever they do its just that they want us to be happy in life...i think they deserve to be respected in every sense..parents wants their children to be a successful,for which they bestow their morals and values on us...i myself have a 18mnths old son...though he's too small to understand anything..i would firstly teach him to respect others,their feelings...anybody his relatives or any stranger..whatever good values my parents taught me..i follow them,so i would wish my son to do the same...indians have always succeeded in doing so i believe..
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I thinked no one of us want to get beaten,we still prepare if our parents talk to us and let them explain our mistake.But kids are kids sometimes even they already said dont do this or dont do that.But we still doing that so thats the time we get beaten by our parent if we dont listen for what they said.For sure they also dont want to beat us it hurts there feeling to but as there parent they had the obligation to guide us in right direction of our life.
• India
21 Mar 07
as ithink parents should be tough for the young child,because they don't know what should be done and what should not be. We shoul obey them because they have experience and reasons. But a child don't have these.
@neglitex (347)
• Latvia
21 Mar 07
As I'm still a teenager my parents still have control over me, but they didn't usually beat me although some more discipline is very important so you don't get spoiled God I have spoiled people....When I was smaller, I get punished my every single mischief and I guess I deserved it! So get your children to discipline! :D
• India
21 Mar 07
each of us would have got beating from our parents atleast once...during that time in our childhood we would have felt angry ....but as we grow up we think that it was just for our own well-being....
@lovesu (142)
• China
21 Mar 07
i sometimes are also shout to my mother while i am young ,but now i won't do that again,i know that it is not so easy for my mother to nurture me .
@Shebang (244)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
For me, the feeling of being beaten up is not good. But I am proud that my parents did it to me because it has taught me discipline and respect. Though more people would recommend that the best way to discipline a child is throught talking, yet I still believe that spanking a child has a different effect. Come the day when I become a parent, I don't know but I guess I would also employ spanking and talking.
@jean_rose (416)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I wouldn't say I was beaten. I was spanked. Way back then, I didn't look at it as love wearing the disciplinary gear and carrying the rod. I looked at it as abuse and an intrusion into my privacy. But now, I am thankful that I was not spared the rod because if it so happened that my mother was lenient, I would have ended up like my peers who got pregnant out of wedlock, didn't finish college and have been living miserable lives.
21 Mar 07
Well I don't think that anybody should beat his/her children. I still remember when I was beaten by parents and teachers and I can say that this has adverse effects. Expectations are ok but one should not try to force a child by beating him/her. We should try to explain to our children what is good and what is bad and why. We should'nt force them by beating or punishing too much.
@lynninky (491)
• United States
21 Mar 07
some people just kill me .... getting a spanking, back handed, slapped is not being beaten...big difference between them. i know some people today that was never spanked or hit in any way by their parents. they like to hit and are rough to hang out with. others that was not spanked are very claim and well behaved. for those of us who was spanked while growing up as a child. some of us are more than very behave even when we have to make a point.i know i said when i was little i would never spank my kids.had to take care of little brother, our mom was sick but he still have to behave. well after grounding for the 15th for acting up in public places. i spanked my kid and it never happened again. then the teenage years, the know it all came home everyday,would not do homework, would not help with the chours. just started telling everyone off. one spanking and that stopped. started smoking i beat him over that, he did not stop smoking.. i guess ten smacks across the butt with a belt did not work... i talked til i was sick.. i made him eat a pack of cigs.nothing worked ..our mother hated smoking.... then he wanted to quit school and i said no way.. he said you can not stop me, i said you watch me..if he stayed home i would not let him sit down all day we worked doing something until 4:00 for a week. after that he could not go out anywhere as long as he lived with me. (i would not have let him go anywhere either) after a week of that (like hard work) he went back to school. but i would have got the belt back out if i had too.. i don't agree hitting a child just anywhere,if a belt the butt, if they are back talking and all else fells smack them just hard enough to hurt so they know your mean business, nose in the air i guess i would just have slapped her cheek but thats me. i always hated to see people smack kids in the back of their head, i do not know why that bugs me but it does.when my baby was very young and start to touch something hot or something that would hurt him. i just tapped his hand a little and told him no no, that will hurt you, no no thats hot...he would cry because it hurt his feels but he never got burned like i did when i was little..
@NatureBoy (493)
• Singapore
21 Mar 07
Well, one thing that it told me, beating to teach lessons were not always correct. But seriously, being beaten by parents when young, made me stand up to them. I remember that by the age of 10, i never took any more beatings. I learned to stand up to the thoughts and reasons of my parents, making sure that we could all communicate on the same wave length. I could never understand why parents like to beat up children. But I think if the children can grow up and think faster, its worth it. But please, do it with reasons and kind thoughts in mind, not just for the sake of beating.