Cheating women....
By Marie2473
@Marie2473 (8512)
Sweden
March 20, 2007 1:44pm CST
I have read alot of discussions here lately about cheating and they are all about men that are cheating and if it is in their nature or not.
What about the women who cheats - I belive that there are just as many there as there is men.
I have a friend that has been cheated on by his girlsfriend - not once but twice - before he finally dumped her.
A girl at my work is messing around with a co-worker - although we all know that she is engaged.
My female neighbour is also having an affair - atleast I think she is!
I belive that us woman - me included are so fast at calling this a man behaviuor but really - it is something that both sexes do... Although I think it is more taboo for a woman to admit to it than it is for a man!
I totally belive that cheating is WRONG... I have been cheated on myself, and the feeling is nothing but pain and afterwards it is really hard to ever trust someone again.
Is it really this way or is it just me who see that always when we are talking about cheating it is always about men??
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42 responses
@emisle (3822)
• Ireland
20 Mar 07
When it comes to cheating, I think women are just as bad as men. People say that women mostly cheat for emotional reasons but I think that some people are just plain selfish and don't care how their partners would feel. I would never cheat on my partner because I would hate to be cheated on.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
I can also say 100% I will never cheat. i have been the one beeing cheated on and those feelings is something i do not wish upon anyone!
@mschiqui (1284)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
I guess you are right..whoever it is that cheats, wether the man or woman, when it is cheating it is bad..Me neither i will never cheat on my partner, its my choice of having him in my life, then whatever ups and down in life we will experinced, we will both experienced it and we will solve the problems whatever it is...
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
well, maybe cheating had always been connected to men since before, usually, men are the ones doing it. but everyone changes after sometime. even women now do want to do everything what men can do. women want to prove something these days... and sad to say, even to prove the wrong things.
i know friends who do it. lie to their boyfriends and cheat on them. most are those who are in long distance relationships. i don't know what makes them happy about it, but some of them are even proud of their capacity to cheat and talented as they are in lying and cheating, their boyfriends/husbands never even caught them.
sad, but it's true. not only men can cheat but even women do. in some cases, even worst that what can men do.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
22 Mar 07
I guess some can be proud of it but i also think that they deep down are ashamed of their behaviour, regardless of them beeing men or women.
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Marie, This is a very good topic, and I have rated you a + rating for it. It is wrong to cheat female or male. And sadly, both are at fault and equaly guilty. It shows no character and no respect of others. It is selfish as well to cheat. If someone wants a change, then they should break up first. And yes, it seems that men are accused more then women, but both do it.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
Thanx for the + =) I thought it was a necessary thing to write coz I have seen so many discussions about the horrible men lately *lol*
I also agree with that cheating is selfish and wrong!
@lauriefnp (5111)
• United States
20 Mar 07
You're so right. So many people are heard saying that men cheat and that "men are dogs". They have to remember that every man who cheats is with another person, and that person may very well be cheating on her partner. I would say that from what I have seen in life, just as many women cheat as men. Women tend to be stigmatized more for it, for some reason. I believe that cheating is wrong, no matter what gender you are. If you are in a committed relationship, you should honor that committment or else end the relationship.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
I agree. If u are in a relation u should respect the person that u are with enough not to cheat. If u wanna cheat it is probably a sign that you are with the wrong persona nd should break it off
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@jenalyn (675)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I think both sexes are equally guilty of cheating. I think men are less likely to tell many people. I had a male friend that was cheated on and didn't volunteer to tell that information when the subject came up around our group of friends. I think he felt a big hit on his esteem and ego. Maybe that could be common with other men. Women are ready to call you out of you have wronged them. Some men rely on their ego to measure up. A woman going else where or betraying them hurts their ego just like it hurts ours, but it looks weak for them to admit it. I don't feel that way, I mean that it makes them look weak, it is just the explaination I got when I asked why didn't he want other people to know. I personally don't like to air out my personal problems either, so I understood his point of view.
I haven't ever been tempted to cheat on anyone I have ever been with, so I do not understand the reason that happens in a relationship. To me being betrayed in any way is awful, and I really can't relate to that behavior.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
Think you might be on to something. the male ego could be a factor to why we never hear about woman cheating - they are just not likely to tell about it!
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@12051976 (231)
• Ghana
20 Mar 07
i think i agree with you in the sense that bout sexes do cheat but as you said, normally its a taboo for the ladies especially the marriage ones. Because of the taboo aspect of it in the case of the women people don't want to talk on that.
But the truth is, women also cheat a lot. I have examples of both married and unmarried woman who have been caught cheating.
But more importantly,cheating is very bad practices,it can brake a happy home, bring divorce, manslaughter, and can break heart. Lets be discipline and be careful in our marriage and relationships.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
21 Mar 07
I agree - cheating should never happen, in any of the sexes coz it really brings nothing but heartache!
@aprilsue00 (1991)
• United States
20 Mar 07
i agree that women are definately just as likely to cheat as men. it just seems that it is more acceptable for a man to cheat than it is for a woman to cheat.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
20 Mar 07
I agree - it seems as though it is more acceptable for men.
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@smurfettewv (359)
• United States
21 Mar 07
we forget that women are dogs like men sometimes I mean we are the maniuplative species.
Kelly
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
22 Mar 07
I guess we can be dogs as well, and like so many said, women might be better at hiding it!
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
22 Mar 07
Yes women cheat, trust me I know, my exwife cheated on me repeatedly and in fact is now moving in with her new boyfriend who I always thought she was having an affair with during our marriage but she denies it.
As for your more taboo for a woman to admit it, I have a different point of view on this. I think that in most cases a man cheating on a woman is called a dog, but a woman cheating on a man people tend to assume that the husband treated her badly or couldn't satisfy her. Generally speaking people tend to give cheating women a free pass making up excuses for the behavior. I have actually been asked what I did to make my wife cheat on me, would anyone ask that of a woman?
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
28 Mar 07
Actually never though about it that way - but you are actually right!
@Zmugzy (773)
•
21 Mar 07
I think you're right to say that women also cheat but I would not say that they cheat as much as men. I think there is definitely a built in urge that make men seek more partners than women - part of our evolutionary make up. But it's also true to say that most cultures punish or shame women who do cheat. As a man I know quite a few women who have cheated but I think on the whole there are more men out there playing than women.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
22 Mar 07
U might be right, but we almost never hear of women who are dogs =)
@mformukul (24)
• India
21 Mar 07
Men and women both cheat but we mostly hear about men cheating. A simple reason is women are more voluble. A girl who has been cheated on would talk her heart out (synonymous to writing in forums) while a cheated man would rather go get drunk or hangout with his buddies till he gets over it. Even among their guy friends, men usually don't like discussing how they have been cheated and now that they are, how they feel about it.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
22 Mar 07
This opinion seems to be common, so I am guessing that u might be on to something =)
@chengbeb (285)
• Philippines
21 Mar 07
In this year and age...men and women are created equal...we can do what men can do...now, don't get me wrong I'm not saying that cheating is right...it's just that men aren't the only one who's cheating even women do it...but it's common presumption that when we're talking about cheating it's men who do it often...so it's not you it's a major presumtption that men are the most common cheaters...
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@stacyv81 (5903)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Well, as a woman, I can say that I have cheated before, but just in little high school relationships. And it all depends on how you define cheating. Emotional affairs, are more prevelant with women. But women cheat usually because their emotional needs aren't met and men usually cheat because they think they can get away with it. I think that more women talk about things more than men, that is why I think there are more discussions about men cheating. It is more common, statistically for men to cheat, but women do cheat. I have had a 6 year relationship with a man, and havent cheated. But some do. I think ever since it has become more accepted for women to sleep around, there has been more cases of this happening. I believe cheating is wrong too. No matter who does it or why. Emotional affairs are just as bad as physical affairs.
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@kakemafarm (492)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I can honestly say that I have never cheated before in my life. I do know of many women who think it is nothing to cheat on thier partner and I think it is totally wrong. A lot of them think they are entitled to cheat if their partner has cheated on them; I disagree, two wrongs don't make a right!
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@gkainth (279)
• India
21 Mar 07
my dear friends this is true that mens are counted as cheaters but this is the another truth of the other of life's
coin that womens can also cheat but every time men is counted as cheater why it is by nature dont worry i have many frnds who have been cheated by their loves
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@ladycatherine82 (29)
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think the topic of men cheating comes up more often because men are more likely to get caught. Women are just as guilty of cheating but we are, and I say this honestly and as a woman, a little more sneaky.
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@gleznov (391)
• United States
21 Mar 07
The problems with cheating:
1) It hurts the person you care about
2) Relationships are strongly based on trust - it destroys all trust instantly.
I would not cheat on my wife, because I can imagine how it would hurt me if she cheated on me. As for women cheating being a taboo subject, I defer to Eddie Murphy in Raw... Men are stupid and get caught. Women almost never do...
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
22 Mar 07
good that u will not cheat. You are right when u say that it hurts - it REALLY does!
@posabogdan (67)
• Romania
21 Mar 07
Yes I thing women are just as likely to cheat as men women are not above that
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