how much does your spouse know about you?

United States
March 20, 2007 11:53pm CST
does your spouse know you inside and out? or are there still things that you havent talked about or feel that there is any reason to talk about? for instance, if you have ever cheated, not on your spouse, but on an ex, do you think that is something your spouse "needs" to know about, or would you keep that information to yourself? would you want to know if your spouse had been a cheater in past relationships? as for me, there are still some things that my husband still doesnt know about me. its not that i am trying to keep secrets from him, but if he were to ask, i would tell. or if the subject came up, i would tell my experience about it. it just leaves more to talk about. i think it would be boring if we didnt learn a little something new about eachother every once in a while. as far as wanting to know everything about my husbands past, i wouldnt want to know any negative things. maybe this makes me naive, but i really wouldnt want to know if he was a cheater in the past. it would only make me feel insecure about our relationship. so far, he has given me no reason to doubt him, and this is how i would like it to stay. only, and only if, i started to suspect that he might be up to no good, would i ask him if he cheated in his past. it doesnt mean that he would tell me the truth though. so what are your thoughts??
4 responses
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
my husband knows everything about me...from my past to the present things...same goes with him...we are very honest to eachother,because we treat eachother as bestfriends. doesnt matter if its from work or he likes someone he tells me about it...there are no limitations...from my moods to the things that make me happy or mad he knows everything, my favorite food..things i long to have, my heartaches and my struggles. my life is an open book to him and i am proud that my husband is a very understanding and open minded kind of person
@minty3 (592)
• Nigeria
21 Mar 07
your spouce may never know all about you, whether good or bad howver, it is important to ensure you let him/her know any detail of your past that could have an impact on the relationship if she/he finds out elsewhere.
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
21 Mar 07
he knows every thing about me. and i off him, but i dont think one can know your loved one 100%. there is always one small detail that might of been left out. harmful or not.
• United States
21 Mar 07
I think those things are very very important to know before you even get married. Poeple who have cheated on past relationships are far more likely to cheat in others. Choosing not to know is only giving yourself a false sense of security. My fiance and I know just about everything about one another. There some experiences or small details of our childhoods or whatnot that we may not have discussed yet, but that's just happenstance. We know pretty much everything. I think life is entertaining enough that you don't have to add to it by not knowing everything about your spouse.