how to deal with waiting for a husband who is incarcerated?

Many jailbirds try this trick on a woman who may be vulnerable to their words and "emotions". I am not saying he is insincere, because I do not know him. However, given that I do not know him, the probability of him just using you is very high. If you want, you can give him a chance, but always be suspicious, and don't ruin your life for him.

I completely think he is only looking out for his own best interests. He wasn't trying to get back with you before he went away, right? He just wants to make sure he has someone on the outside. Someone to write him, send him money, visit him and also something to focus on while he is in there. You will be pretty much the only thing he will have to look forward to. I mean if you really love him and want to be with him then be prepared for a very long 15 years. He will have nothing to give this relationship, only take. I'm sure you will be accused of cheating on him many times. If you think all the stress and loneliness you will go through is worth having a relationship with him then go for it. If it were me, I wouldn't get "back together" with him. I would write and visit but I would also go on with my life just as I would have if we were still separated and he didn't go to jail. When he gets out if I wanted to give it another try and he still did, then would be the time to try to make our broken relationship work

I agree with the above comment that you should wait a few months. I mean, you've got 15 years, you may aswell wait a couple months to see how you feel and to sus him out. He could be genuine or he could be playing you. If you choose to wait for him I highly recommend some counselling to help you deal with a possible 15 year wait. It might be in your best interests to just move on and stay his friend.