how do you stop yourself from being late?

Philippines
March 21, 2007 3:46pm CST
adivice needed! i'm a late person. when it comes to meeting someone, at least. any advice? i usually leave the house on the hour we are supposed to meet and it usually takes an hour of travel time to get to the meeting place. my boyfriend and i often argue about this, and i know it's my fault. i just don't know what to do about it. help!! i work at night, thus i often lack sleep during the day.. and my excuse has always been oversleep, but sometime i do get up on time but still manage to be late! haaay.. help!
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51 responses
@Jellytang (698)
• China
24 Mar 07
The method that can help you stop being late is very easy. I suggest that you should turn faster your watch, about 10 minutes will be ok.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
You really have to do something about this. Because I don't really like people arriving late on different appointments and occasions. As if they don't have control over their time. You should be organized and plan beforehand. Like if you're travel time is an hour you have to be an hour and a half earlier so you'll have 30 minutes allowance for probable circumstances like traffic. Plus, you have to make use of your alarm clock in your cellphone. And please wake up when it starts beeping. Don't overdo your preparations remember that being on time is much more important with the person you're meeting than anything else. And keep this on mind, when you come late your wasting others time.
• United States
22 Mar 07
I used to be chronically late for everything in life and it used to make so many people angry in my life, when I decided to take control of this habitual problem I set all my clocks (including my watch and my car clock) 30 to 45 minutes ahead of time, in your mind you know that it is fast but you still have the need to meet the clock for the time you usually leave. It worked for me, you might try it for yourself.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
will try that! thanks!
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• United States
22 Mar 07
Sure it worked for me, and the funny thing was my children and husband would always refer to the clocks in the house as my time not the real time ...
@ganwn071 (1117)
• Singapore
24 Mar 07
For getting out of bed, I will use 2 alarm clock to help me if I have an important appointment, to make sure that i will not be late. As for the day, I will use a PDA to help me to trigger me 15min or more ahead of the meeting depending whether I need to travel to the venue.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
need to get another alarm clock! thanks for the response!
@vicky19810 (1601)
• China
24 Mar 07
lol...i do not know how to advise you something,but i will say that ,you should do everything earlier than others,if you feel you would be late .when going to work,when meeting,when appointment,and so on,you 'd better do them earlier,then you will have enough time to deal with some unexpected matters.then,i think,you will not be a late person.try to do it,believe me.lol...
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
hehehe! thanks for the response.. will try!
@ralf_jay (213)
• Sweden
22 Mar 07
keep you mind cool before you sleep and think about tomorrows program in your mind.set a time in your mind that you should get up at that moment then you can do it. or else drink excess of water in the night and then look for the morning .am sure that you will get up early by doing that.
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
the problem is, when i did that, i go to the bathroom even before i fall asleep! it makes me sleep late.. :( thanks for the advice though..
@hellboi (663)
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
Well it is pretty obvious that you need to discipline yourself. Set some time frame in everything you do to make it to your appointments at the set time. Like chart out how many hours you have to sleep, how many minutes you get to do things to prepare yourself to work or to meeting someone and most especially account for travel time. It is not enough reason that you left the exact same time you are supposed to meet. Just think of how long could a person wait for you. It is not really easy to wait, so respect to that person's time and effort to get there on time should be enough reason and motivation for you to do your part.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
yeah, the reason why i'm doing this.. i'm not sure though how many hours of sleep would mean enough.. hmmm.. thanks!
@lbbaby (489)
• China
22 Mar 07
I think you should strengthen your will and keep telling yourself that I cannot be late, and maybe it works.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
hmm.. will power.. mind over matter.. can be! thanks!
@cultoffury (1283)
• India
22 Mar 07
Though basically I am a lazy person by god's grace, I am very punctual, I set my deadline around 10-15 minutes before the actual deadline, so I never get late. Also, I don't mind skipping one of my tasks when getting to make up in time, like skipping my meal, or bathe.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
yeah.. most of the time i skip some things too!
• India
22 Mar 07
lateness has degrees and unless u hv reached the point of no return, there is no point to fret.in the olden days, tying a knot used to be the followed custom, but nowadays, there is a new method. try staying focused.at night, just before going to sleep, try making a map as to what u r supposed to do the next day. sleep naturally. and, then, the next day, try focusing on every job fully. that way u will forget lesser things and the laziness which u encounter now would vanish into thin air.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
concentration... hmm... thanks!
• United States
22 Mar 07
I know what you mean. If I dont over sleep I just go slow. Something ALWAYS slows me down. I've even tried to set my watch ahead of time and still I know its a few minutes fast so still I get late. *L* I am always late but its okay. One day I wont be... or I hope so.
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
wow! someone who really gets me! thanks! yeah, i sure hope one day we won't be! thanks!
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
22 Mar 07
just leave enough time if you have to be somewhere, get up earlier best if you can just stay in bed though get a nice husband, make him happy in the morning, then send him to work, have him make a nice dinner when he gets home, make him happy again, then do whatever you want , sleep or whatever could be a good life maybe, for everybody
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
hahaha! thanks!
@gleznov (391)
• United States
22 Mar 07
My wife and I are both horrible at being punctual. Something inside us subconsciously resists and resents a schedule. So here are the tricks I use: I set my clock early in the morning, in case I have to snooze it... I also set multiple clocks - sometimes I manage to turn one off without waking up (even across the room). I set my clocks - including my car clock - 15 minutes ahead. That way I'm always rushing to get there only a little late, and I usually get there 2-3 minutes early. You have to set it and forget it, and even when you're aware, you have to force yourself to treat it as though it were the real time. It's hard to be on time! This world is so demanding...
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
haha! same things happen to me too..! i find it sweet and cute that you found the right person that share the same thing.. should i change boyfriends then? heheh! just kidding! well, thanks for the response and will try out your advise!
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
for example your meeting will be on 8 in the morning put in your mind that it will be @ 7 am...
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
i'm really not that good in fooling myself when it comes to time.. heheh! thanks for the response!
@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
21 Mar 07
I have the reverse problem I just can't help being early, it is like a sickness with me, some say a good way to be but I actually feel sick at the thought of being late, I am always at least half an hour early not matter where I am going...
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
cool! and you don't mind waiting?!? or waiting makes you mad too?
@kyran_12 (645)
• India
21 Mar 07
i dont like to be late , and dont like late comers also, i belive late comers are not best leaders , they may be leaders but not best leaders..time is money , and you cannot control the time , one thing can be done is to manage it at the best...... as i like to respect every ones times , i never be late and for that i follow somethings they are, 1. try to calculate the maximum time needed for the hazzels in the way eg. traffic or something like that, 2. use appropriate use of cellphone talk as it consumes most of the time . 3. be a master of multitasking...sometimes its good to handle 10 people at avarage responsibility rather than 2 people at the best resposibility 4. try to do mass communication( tell to 10 persons at single time rather than twice to 5-5 ) , never repeat what you said it consumes time. 5. do respect time always ....whether yours or others ...........and you will find one fine world to come to you ..................cheers
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
thanks for the reply.. something to think about..
@NDVDNYK1 (53)
• United States
21 Mar 07
Hello.I have the same problem.I think you cant change it.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
hahahahhah! i hope not.. or at least i hope my friends would be able to live with it!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
21 Mar 07
We have someone in our family who is always late so we always tell her to be here 1 or 2 hours before the actually time and it always works out and they she arrives right on time and she doesnt know we do that.heheheheh
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
cool! i hope my friends and my boyfriend would be able to think about that.. but i don't want it to be an hour or two.. maybe 30 minutes would be enough.. heheh! thanks for the reply!
@blueyes (56)
• Canada
21 Mar 07
hi, well you can do what i do. That is that i set all my clocks in my house 10mins ahead. After awhile you can't even noticed that they are ahead. Now if you have to stop for gas, u should lot ur time on things you have to do to get there. this might help organize your time.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
it would take a very long long long while before i forget something like that.. i even tried asking my housemate to adjust it for me without telling me exactly how many minutes it was advanced. but it made me more late than ever.. :( thanks for posting, though!
• India
21 Mar 07
Apparently you have the answer to your problem yourself. You are right, your problems are related to sleep. I myself used to be a 'late' person. I used to keep weird hours and wake up feeling like the canary the cat brought it, not wanting to get up from my bed. I still work late into the nights, as i need to, but I try and catch on my sleep a bit in the afternoons. I also joined some meditation classes that taugt me how to get quality sleep. One can do with lesser sleep, you know, as long as it is quality sleep. Thats the problem with most of us though. The quality of sleep that we get is so low that we don't feel rested even after sleeping for several hours. Try meditation and breathing exercises. Before long, you will be sleeping like a baby and you will find that most of your problems would have disappeared.
• Philippines
22 Mar 07
hmm.. let me give this one a try. i really think this will help a lot! thanks!!