how can teach my daughter?

China
March 22, 2007 9:05am CST
i have a daughter ,she is eight years now . but one problem that i find these days she always lies to me .she always says that her classmates doesn't like her and won't play with her ,but the teacher tell me that it's her .she is too personal. and always asks others to obey her and play as she plays .how should i do ?
4 responses
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
22 Mar 07
I think your daughter has a gift of manageable nature; this is good from some point of view as she may become a leader when she grows up. But the thing is she is still very young that she hasn't known how to use relevant manageble tactics to lead and tell what others what to do. And I don't think she tries to lie to you as for her own understanding as long as her classmates don't play with her are counted they don't like her... This is also due to she is still young that she couldn't judge or find out what real reason why her classmates don't play with her. So my advice is try to guide her and let her know what is sharing and how to share. Encourage her to take part in the multi players' game. Meanwhile, occasionally invite her classmates to your house to play with her.
@Darkwing (21588)
22 Mar 07
How about organising some get togethers with her school friends, outside school. Maybe take a group on a picnic or to the park or something and monitor what goes on. See for yourself how your daughter reacts to these children. Most little girls like to be bossy and to control play to some extent, but if you interact with them, and teach them they should take turns, or give and take a bit, it might sink in. A little role play is required, I would think. Children can be funny in the way that they handle things, but they only learn from us, in the long run. If two the same come up against each other, and one annoys the other one, they will become angry and refuse to play. Remember the old days when you heard the cry, "Ok, I'm taking my ball home then."? lol. It's no different today and all a learning curve. I'm surprised the teachers in your daughter's school haven't introduced some sort of programme to teach the kids to share, but there you go. That's really down to them. Other than this, I'm not sure what to suggest. Good luck with it anyway... I'm sure things will change, the longer she's at school. Brightest Blessings.
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
22 Mar 07
My 9 year old is like that she is very controlling when it comes to other kids and if she doesn't get it her way she doesn't want to play. She is getting better now. I stopped the lieing by letting her know that every time I caught her there would be a consequence like being grounded or writting over and over again till she knew what she did wrong. Find something that will work for you and keep on it even if it is a little lie and eventually it will stop not forever but atleast for awhile and she will learn from it. Good luck. I think they are just trying to test their boundries.
@gkainth (279)
• India
22 Mar 07
just take care of her love her and spare some more time to play with her don't leave her along just watching TV as much as time u will spend with her she will starts saying true things to you be friends to her not only a mother i hope this will help you soon have best wishes from me