Some of you out there!!!!!1

@sarah22 (3979)
United States
March 22, 2007 1:29pm CST
Have you ever felt that you are not good enough to marry or even have a lover? Tought that you do not look good enought to be loved? Never had a lover or a boyfriend? My step sister was like this and she then married the first man that came along. She is very unhappy and her thought was that she did not want to be left on the shelf. Would you do this just to have the marrige and lover all your friends have. even if its not like these but just to say, hey, im marride too. for me its sad and i feel sorry for her.
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mzbubblie
@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
23 Mar 07
Actually, I have never felt negative about myself, one thing my grandmother instilled in me was before you can "love" anyone, you have to love yourself first and foremost. I'm sorry to hear your step sister is unhappy, and I never honestly knew what drives one to feel so negative about self. I can't judge anyone but if anything I would be a friend or sister or whatever the case may be in hopes she feel good about self... Hopefully one day she will look in the mirror and see her own true inner beauty and want more for herself and realize loving self is the best feeling in the world everything else just falls in place
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sarah22
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
23 Mar 07
yes, i too was tought that, to be loved is to love ones self first.
Poison_Girl
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I don't think I'd MARRY someone just to have someone and to be able to say I'm married. However, I might be with someone I don't really love just to have someone. I know it's still sad and perhaps just as bad, but I really HATE being alone. I guess I'm kinda like your step-sister. I've always thought I was doomed to be alone for eternity.
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sarah22
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
23 Mar 07
im sorry to hear you feel that way, yes, been alone is not a great thing. i hope that you some day find Mr right and your not alone any more, we all disurve a great life and have someone to share it with. best wishes
Willowlady
@Willowlady (10657)
• United States
22 Mar 07
Somewhere along the way your parents did not do a good job at giving you chances at self esteem. There is someone for everyone in this world and patience is important. So are the skills to put yourself in the situation where the type of guy normally hangs out. I wish I could have been there for you. Myself, I have never been at lack for companionship and the key must be that I never cared. I have a full life without a guy in it. I do love men though and that must have shown through. I wish your sister all the luck in fixing her situation and becoming everything that she is meant to be with or without a man in it. Good luck with her terrific sister.
sarah22
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
23 Mar 07
she is my step sister, and yes, i agree that her parents did not give her that.thanks for your great responce, she would like that if there was someone around to have helped her. we did some but changing someone and helping them can only be accomplished if the believe they can.
Willowlady
@Willowlady (10657)
• United States
23 Mar 07
So true. We can only start now and go on. I hope that with your positive influence you will be able to lead her as she bcomes more ready. We will hope that is soon. Take care!!
bluewings
@bluewings (3857)
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22 Mar 07
I wouldn't get married to conform to a social ritual.The only reason I will get married is when I am in love with that person and if it's mutual.I am sorry that it isn't going well for her.Perhaps she should openly try talking to him and if she knows for sure that she made a mistake ,then there is always a scope to better things.I hope things improve in her life.
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