Does he feel safer with his father?

United States
March 22, 2007 8:53pm CST
My husband lives in Florida right now and me and the kids are still in Texas for the next month or so. Well, my hubby came home for a visit this past week and I wonder if my son (5 yrs) feels safer with his daddy home. This is why...my son just started sleeping in his own bed about 5 months ago. But, he always gets up in the middle of the night and gets in bed with me. Well, when my husband came home for a week, he slept in his bed all night every night and he slept so much better. He was in a better mood all day and much less hyper. It seemed he got a good rest. Well, my husband left Tuesday and Tuesday night and last night, my son was again in my bed inthe middle of the night. I don't complain...I really don't mind if he is in my bed for a couple of hours a night. But, I can't help but think that he felt safer and more secure with his daddy here and that helped him sleep all night. Do you think I am reaching for an explanation? Or do you think that this could be the explanation?
3 responses
• United States
23 Mar 07
Maybe he woke up, and remembered YOU were alone, and went to comfort you.
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• United States
23 Mar 07
I definitely think there is an aspect of feeling safer, or feeling that the family is complete. My husband is a trucker, so is gone 2-3 weeks at a time, occasionally longer. My almost 4 year old does the same thing. He stays in his bed until 1 or 2 in the morning and then comes in my bed with me. But even with coming in bed with me I don't feel that he sleeps well. He's almost always groggy and falling asleep in the car and such. When my hubby is home, he is completely different. He's bright and cheery, not grumpy, and a very pleasant child. He sleeps through the night, even longer than he normally did. The only thing we have found to help some, is if my son talks to his father right before going to bed. It seems to remind him that Daddy is still there and still cares. I know at least for my son sometimes he asked where Daddy moved to, and why he doesn't live with us anymore. I think they're just reaching for security.
@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
23 Mar 07
I would say that he probably felt that his family hasn't fallen apart. I am sure it has been a big adjustment for him, that his dad is gone. Glad he slept good for a change.
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