Can you justify spending a lot of money on a wedding?

Australia
March 23, 2007 5:57am CST
Ok ,I have been engaged for 3 years now and my partner says we cant get married til we can afford to have a big fancy wedding with all the bells and frills where as I would rather not be spending a fortune on something we cant afford and just have a small gathering and have it now?? is that being selfish?
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@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
24 Mar 07
You can have a lot of people at your wedding and still keep the costs down. All you gotta do is plan it right, and shop around! Like the hall for example, most will give you a discount for a Friday night or a saturday afternoon. As for DJs and Flowers and etc, see if you know anyone who knows anyone who can do these things for you for a cheap price. Other things, like favors, invites, etc, you can make yourself. This way you can still invite a lot of people without spending a fortune. This might be a good comprimise. Your wedding can LOOK big and fancy without you going broke :) It just takes some creativity.
• Australia
24 Mar 07
I like your way of thinking!Thanks Vivasuzi
@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
23 Mar 07
I think it does not matter if you have just simple or big for me what matters most is the two of you and wedding celebration is just a celebration and you just spend on how you can afford to celebrate it. What important is how you treasure your marriage inspite of how simple or big the celebration.
• Australia
23 Mar 07
My thoughts exactly,why are men so difficult?Thanks for your input.
• India
23 Mar 07
I cannot justify in spending lot of money on a marriage.There is no meaning in spending money lavishly on wedding.A marriage should be as simple as possible.
• Australia
23 Mar 07
Thanks,I definately agree!I feel a bit better.
• United States
27 Mar 07
I think you should maybe think about why your fiance wants to have a huge wedding and talk to them about it. Is it to truly celebrate your marriage or is it all for show? I don't think either of you are being selfish, but maybe you could both come to some sort of compromise. Maybe have a small gathering with all the trimings of a fancy wedding. Sounds to me like this is your first real challenge as a husband and wife... how do you want to spend the first few hours of the rest of your life?