arrange marriage?

@merlblue (275)
United Arab Emirates
March 24, 2007 2:15am CST
do you agree on arrange marriage by the parents? does it work?
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9 responses
• India
24 Mar 07
i'll see the lady 1st..lol i never agree on arrange marriage if i have a gf.
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25 Mar 07
u are right my friend!!
25 Mar 07
yes you are right!!dear
@VotreAmie (3037)
• United States
24 Mar 07
I don't agree with arranged marriage by parents but I do think that sometimes it works because of the experience of my own parents. My parents have been married that way and they have been very happy. They married very young and now they are both in their eighties.
• India
24 Mar 07
I come from India and arranged marriages are a norm here. But with india,the divorce rate being so low...one may think that arranged marriages are a better choice but then again it is also very low incase of love marriages in countries like australia where ppl settle down like in their late 30s and are happy... Coming back to if i agree or not with the idea...i can only say am not cut out for an arranged marriage!
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Mar 07
thanks for your response. i know that in india arrange marriage are just normal but still they keep their marriage strong.
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• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Arrange marriage is a no-no for me.Let your children choose their own partner.In my opinion, the child becomes the payment of his/her parents' debt to the other family that's why arranged marriage exist.
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Mar 07
correct. go for it!. Thanks for posting!
24 Mar 07
yes they do work. I think the most important thing in marrying someone is not even love but respect and then love and then anything else . if you can respect the person who you are going to marry with , then it does not matter that how you chose the person its like that if you understand ;the people whon had arranged married also separated.And I think the thing is more with love marriages. one of the example of sduccessful arranged marriage is mine and my parents. my cousin's was a love marriage and he cudnt keep up wuth it although he admitted he loved his wife & his wife loved himas she told me!! so the point is that there is no point which is good but one should see all aspects before getting married! a good lover may not be a good spouse!!by the way thank you for raising this good issue!! regards.
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
27 Mar 07
i dont think so, love should still be there. one relationship will not work if there is no love.. its the very important thing...
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
24 Mar 07
I don't agree on arranged marriages. I think the idea of marriage is the unison of two people who are in love, and want to spend the rest of their lives together. I feel sorry for the couples that are married because it was arranged.
@merlblue (275)
• United Arab Emirates
24 Mar 07
i agree with you.
• United States
26 Mar 07
I personally would not want an arranged marriage but I know lots of other cultures do it. I don't think it is wrong if you decide to do it. Some times the marriage will last longer than one based totally on emotions.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
26 Mar 07
Yes i do a lot. We indians do respect arranged marriages. Thats out tradition and custom. I dont mean to say that we dont agree for love marriages. Arranged marriages we do appreiate cause in india most of the families they do know what their children need, so most of the families will prefer to arrange marriages. Now a days love and then arrange .. its prevailing well
@ackars (1942)
• India
26 Mar 07
Yes I do agree on that...most of the love marriages are failures because of the fact that they love each other so much...Once they were not married,they had their own time to spent for each other..to go out for movie,dinner,coffe etc...But once they are married they bring in lots of responsibilities along with it...So after marriage things doesnt get fullfilled as before that...So eachone will think he/she is not loving me like those olden days...so everything goes wrong...But in the other system,its not there...so I would suggest for an arranged marriage.But If u are sure that you guys going to be understanding after marriage,then don look back,go ahead...
@Naren4u (22)
• India
24 Mar 07
not at allll i believe in Love marriage coz in arrange we dont kno the person so much but in love we kno each other and we can understand and plan how to stay forever with tht person...............