Should I be hurt?

@stacyv81 (5904)
United States
March 24, 2007 10:47am CST
my bf went to see that movie 300 after work and just didn't tell me he went with his male coworker, but didnt tell me until three days later when we were going to see a movie, and suggested it because I knew he wanted to see it. Then he told me he already saw it and said he didnt tell me because it didnt seem necessary, but I was hurt because he used to tell me everything.. I know it isnt necessarily a lie, because he told me but he omitted telling me before. How should I feel? Should I be hurt?
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7 responses
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Feeling hurt would only make you feel more bad. The issue is so simple and you don't want to make it worst? Do you? Its not a big deal after all. But if your do it again, then something is fishy this time. But at the moment, be happy!!!
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Yeah it is a small issue, but I believe in stopping something before it starts. I explained to him how I felt about it and he told me he already felt guilty. I dont really care about the situation, I just wanted him to share his joy with me as he used to.
@Anakata2007 (1787)
• Canada
24 Mar 07
don't worry about it yet, but if you start noticing him forgetting to tell you thinks a lot down the road than you might want to ask him if youre as important as you think you should be in his life.
@ydnac22 (804)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
ohhh dear its a very simple problem. Not a big deal so better forget it and be happy ok? trust your bf and have confidence in yourself.:)
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
27 Mar 07
It isnt that I dont have confidence in my self or trust him, I was just hurt that he didnt want to share this moment with me, that he got to see a movie he had really wanted to see. I thought he'd be happy, and tell me about it. But he felt guilty for not telling me. It is really not that big of a deal, but I was just a little hurt by it.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
26 Mar 07
My hubby does the same and I get annoyed at him too but I don't let it get to me. Life is too short to worry about little things like this ..well thats what I keep telling myself LOL
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I agree, chose your battles, that is what my mom used to always tell me. Thanks!
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
25 Mar 07
I'd be pretty hurt too. While I don't necessarily expect my husband to clear every action he makes through me first, I do expect to hear about things after, especially if it was a movie I might want to see too. If it had just slipped his mind, then I guess it's not a big deal, but I'd think over the course of three days it would have come up. I suppose you shouldn't make too big a deal of it, since you already told him how you feel. Hopefully it will cause him to think things over better in the future, and realize what things are important to you to know.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Right, that is what bothered me, because he used to tell me everything, and I didnt even want to see the movie, so he knew I wouldnt care. I just wanted to hear about it. But he did apologize so hopefully he gets it.
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@nicolec (2673)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I would be hurt. You've been with him for 6 years and if after 6 years he doesn't have the need, desire, or respect to share with you that he went to a movie, I would be hurt. I mean it's not like he had to ask for permission or that you are upset he went with a male friend, it's that he didn't tell you. A movie is something meant to discuss. Hey honey I saw this movie today and it was great/bad/stupid (whatever). And it's not something you do everyday. so he should have that desire to share with you. Know what I mean?
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
don't worry about it.. you'll only ruin each and everyday that you take.. let the pain pass but if it happens again then you better do something about it.. but for now.. stay happy.. enjoy life!!!