Do you thing being pregnant in 'd age of 20 is too early?

@sachie (16)
United States
March 24, 2007 5:23pm CST
Im preggo and im 20 yrs. old they always tell me im too young to be a mother... but im married though
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
theres nothing wrong if you're preggy @20 since you're already married. question is, are you ready for motherhood? if you're ready for the responsibility, then theres nothing wrong with that. just a little fyi: i read somewhere that the youngest female that gave birth was 6yrs old, in africa. (please don't ask how, i don't know either. hehe... c',))
@sachie (16)
• United States
24 Mar 07
woah... 6 yrs old??? that's so early!!! im so ready to be a mom... but it's my 1st baby though so im so nervous and aswell as excited about it... thankz..
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@repzkoopz (1895)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
well, thats what i read. i think in guiness or ripley's. goodluck to your first child, hope all goes well. c',)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
The youngest was 5 :( There's actually a post about it on this site somewhere!
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@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
6 Apr 07
Every person have different point of views, while we should respect theirs, they should respect yours too. I got pregnant 3 years ago, I'm not yet married then, I was not ready for motherhood but I did everything I can to be ready. I educated myself, I researched over the internet on what to expect during pregnancy and after childbirth. I registered to be a member of two message boards like babycenter.com and ivillage.com to interact with fellow mothers and they give excellent tips too. It is right to say that motherhood is not easy but it will depend on how you look at it. Yes there are times when I'm too tired to explain things to my son but during those times I try so hard to think about how happy he makes me feel with a simple smile and/or a kiss then suddenly I feel calm. Good luck to you and Congratulations on your baby.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
29 Mar 07
i had my first at 17, and my third at 23, honestly my first help me grow up. My boyfriend was outta control, i was too, it just taught us to be more responsible. Just think of it like this, u're growing up with ur baby!
• Philippines
3 Apr 07
Don't think of what others have to say. Age is not what matters in bringing a child into this world. The important thing is that you are ready for the responsibilities that having a child entails. There are women who are in their 30s or 40s but still are not ready to be mothers while there are those who became mothers during their teens and turned out to be good parents.
• United States
3 Apr 07
I think 20 is a good age. If your mature then your ready to have a baby at any age. Just think back in the old days they had babys at 13. You would be considered a spinser then. lol Dont worry about what people say.
• Canada
3 Apr 07
Age and marriage really have little to do with it, it is more about maturity. Do you want this baby? Do you vow to do WHATEVER it takes to give that child the best of everything (not materialistically either) even if it means that there are years on end when you are wearing the same closet of clothing? It is ok for you to be pregnant, it is okay for you to be excited and scared, most of all it is okay for you to LOVE this baby. Other people in this world will always have an opinion, so let their words wash over you like water and proceed with your life and what makes you happy, they DO NOT have to live your life, you do, and if this is something that you are ready to do then CONGRADULATIONS to you, a baby is always a gift from the heaven's, not one is ever a mistake. God Bless and Good Luck!
• United States
25 Mar 07
no its not to young cause i found out i was pregnant and i gave birth when i was 20. i found out Jan. 21st that i was 6 weeks 6 days already, and i gave birth Sept. 22nd. i had a very busy 2006 lol. and i turned 21 Nov. 9th. i think and we are hopeing that i am pregnant again. im to scared to test though lol.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
25 Mar 07
20 is a fine age to be a mom. You will have the energy to keep up with your kids, something that is very difficult later in life. My friend who is 35 has a 1 1/2 year old and she finds herself worn out by noon! Also, the other advantage of being so young is that you will only by 40 when your child is 20, so you will easily be able to do everything you dream of, you won´t be too old!
@mummymo (23706)
25 Mar 07
Hey sachie - everyone matures differently and the main thing isn't your age in nos but the age you are inside! It is all about whether you are ready for your life to be taken over by this little bundle that takes up so much time and love or not! I am glad that you have support as this makes life a bit easier with not quite so much pressure! I had a friend at high school who got pregnant at 16 - everyone tutted and said wasn't it awful, her and her then boyfriend (now husband) were far too young etc 20 years later they are still happily married , have 5 children and one grandchild! So you see whatever others think doesn't matter - it is all about how you think, try to be positive and I am sure you will be a great mum! Let us know how things are going! Good Luck x
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Ignore what people say - if you think you can handle Motherhood then there's no reason not to have kids at that age. I have 2 sister in laws - both of which are 21 & expecting again - the 3rd for 1 & the 4th for the other! 20 is fine!
@dlkuku (1935)
• United States
29 Mar 07
I had two children by the time I was your age. It all depends on your maturity level, even at 19 my kids were the most important thing in my life. If you feel you are ready, then no, you are not too young. As for me, I am glad I had my children young. My two older ones are grown, married and have kids of their own, I am young enough to still get down on the floor and play my grandkids. And I won't be raising kids into my 50's and 60's. Have your baby and just be the best Mommy you can be, and prove 'them' wrong.
@chain19 (13)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
i think being pregnant by the age of 20 is just fine. i think your matured enough to handle that kind of situation good luck to you! and i wish you'll have a healthy pregnancy. : )
@mykzone (14)
• Philippines
29 Mar 07
It's not a matter of age... There's no problem of being pregnant at 20..
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
Being a mother @ 20 is really hard most of all if you still lack experience or you did not enjoy your single life. Having a baby is the best thing that ever happen in your life. Don't be bothered on what other people say or think about being pregnant at an early age.Just think about your child's future.You're also lucky because you have your husband to help you in taking care and support your child.Motherhood is fun and also full of hardships that will make you a better person.It's also a fulfillment if you can give your child a good future.Prove those guys that you will be a good mother even at an early age.After all, being a mother is also a career that really pays a lot when your child to be becomes successful in the future.
• United States
25 Mar 07
Don't worry about what other people say. I had my daughter at 18 (married). I'm 19 now. And I like to think I'm a wonderful mother. I get looks from people and rude comments. But a good friend once told me not to worry about that because in the end you'll get to share your life longer with your child.
24 Mar 07
I don't think twenty is too young at all. Iwas only eighteen when I had my first child. If you are ready for a baby and in a loving relationship why should it matter that you are only twenty. To be honest even if you are not in a relationship, it doesn't matter too much. Women youngerthan you have had babies and coped extremely well. As long as you are happy and feel ready then that is all that matters! Good luck to you and congratulations on your wonderful news.
@netski_15 (423)
• Philippines
24 Mar 07
Getting pregnant at 20 for me is an ideal age. You get to see you kids grow while you are still young. There's nothing wrong with it as long as you are ready to become a mother and you know the responsibilities of being a mother by heart.