Would you tell your best friend a secret about her husband?

Australia
March 24, 2007 10:33pm CST
I have a secret that I have kept from my best friend about her husband and me for years now. I feel really guilty. Should I tell her or not?
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9 responses
@superchook (1786)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
I would have thought the husband would be man enough to have told his wife. If you want to be happy with this man, then I think you should tell her. I think she has a right to know. Do you really want a man that will cheat on his wife? The same thing might happen to you?
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Oh my gosh!! We havent been cheating with each other. Whatever gave you that idea?? Its more serious than that.
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• Australia
25 Mar 07
Oh sorry! I must have misunderstood. Well I hope you work it out, then I think you should do what you think is right, good luck!
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Im sure it will work out. Its been a secret for many years now so I know that we will get away with it if its been this long.
@rainbow (6763)
25 Mar 07
Why bother after all this time? You could loose your best friend. Digging up the distant past only ever causes bad feelings, maybe he told her years ago and she chose not to mention it to you. Bringing it back up could cause a bad reaction. Let sleeping dogs lie, unless this is something that is still going on in which case you need to speak to him first.
• Australia
25 Mar 07
I think I will just keep quiet. It has been a secret for many years now, so I guess that I will leave it that way.
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@rainbow (6763)
28 Mar 07
probably for the best, bless you try to stop worrying about it now. Hugs!
@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Yes! The guilt will eat you alive. Get it off your chest, don't go to your grave with a secret like that. If she is truly your friend clue her in by telling her the truth. Feeling really guilty is evidence enough that you need to tell your friend this dark secret that you can no longer hide. Guilt is probably written all over your face. When you tell her the burden of guilt and shame will be lifted from you.
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Im not ashamed thats for sure. Which part of my face would the guilt be on becuase I looked in the mirror and there is nothing there.
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I'm cool on you. You're taking me through loops now. You say one thing in your initial discussion now it's another. Are you in complete denial?
@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
25 Mar 07
It depends on the secret. Sometimes it is better to leave well enough alone. If he cheated and still is then yes you should tell her. Anything else that might hurt her if they are now in a good marriage should be kept and forgotten. No good can come of it.
• Australia
25 Mar 07
We havent been cheating with each other, thats for sure. Its more serious than that.
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• United States
25 Mar 07
What could be worse than cheating. I didn't mean with you just that you might have caught him. If it is soemthing that could really hurt her in the end if you don't tell her than yes tell her.
@lightningMD (5932)
• United States
28 Mar 07
no i wouldnt tell her..you will only hurt her...i wont change anything except you will have ruined a friendship and possibly a marriage..learn to deal with youir guilt in another way...
• United States
28 Mar 07
Okay, you say you haven't cheated with your best friends husband " it more serious than that". I'm not sure what would be more serious than that unless you A) used to date him and still like him, B) You used to be married to him, or C) You have a child together. If she is your best friend you should tell her, unless you don't think it will ever come back to haunt you. Everyone is wondering though what could be more serious than cheating with your best friends husband...
@melody1011 (1664)
• India
28 Mar 07
Its best you let sleeping dogs lie. Dont stir up the past cause it could come right back and bite you in the butt. Since nothing has happened for so many years, maybe its better to let it go. If you keep feeling guilty, you need to swollow it as you have no choice. If it is the kind of secret that could destroy lives, please keep it. Make you peace by perhaps going for confession (if you are a catholic) and then just forget about it. Its for the best.
@stormygrl (763)
• United States
28 Mar 07
Alot depends on what type of secret. It may be best to let it go but if she finds out would it be the end of your friendship. If my best friend kept something secret concerning my husband I would be upset.
@BunGirl (2639)
• United States
26 Mar 07
It would depend on the secret I suppose. If it were something harmless that wouldn't matter that much either way, I'd probably just do my best to forget about it. If it's something that she has a right to know though, as a friend I would consider it my duty to inform her. Out of respect for the marriage though, I would probably talk to the husband first and give him the chance to come clean about it.