How will you know if a person is really your friend?

@Greyh22 (110)
Philippines
March 25, 2007 7:33am CST
I know many people, but how will i know if they're my real friends? Help..
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13 responses
@wentao (3)
• United States
26 Mar 07
You need to spend a lot of time with your friends then you can find who is your real friends.
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• China
27 Mar 07
yes,you are right.it is difficult to find a real friend,so you must to cost your time.of course,if you enjoy lonely,it is unnecessary to do it.
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@Zo0mZo0m (1357)
• United States
25 Mar 07
A wise man is always cautious in friendship. Just because a person appears to be friendly doesn't mean that they are a friend. Your enemy can smile and cheese in your face and behind your back destroy you. True friendship takes time to develop it usually doesn't happen over night. Take your time choose wisely. If they are truly a friend they will be around for a lifetime. Then there are people in your life for only a season. If you have to ask questions you usually already know the answer. Pondering questions in our minds are usually warnings or tell tale signs of something not being right about this person. Just pay attention to that voice within, your conscience, when it comes to friendship. Will this be worth my time or is it something I should steer clear from? Will it be a waste of my time seeking a frienship with this person or these people?
@Greyh22 (110)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Aww... that's really deep. I've learned a lot of realities about friendship from your response. Thanks.
• Malaysia
26 Mar 07
the most important thing in friendship is NEVER EXPECT anything from your friends. If u can, never trust them 100%. u never know the real them. all the best in making more friends.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
26 Mar 07
identifying real friends - friendship
Real friends are identified easily in times of our distress.They are the one who come forward to convince, console & provide valuable suggestions to get rid of trouble.the one who are just will not step in with us at that moment. Friendship is actually a pure relationship without any expectation.I have faced some situations where i have got to know who my friends and who are not.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
real friends are those who accept you for who you are, imperfections and all...they go along with your moody days and share your life's sentiments
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@chepay (12)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
One way to know if a person is a real friend is that if he accepts you as who you are. I mean, we all have flaws and negativities. If that particular person you know accepts you as who you are, then he is a real friend. Another thing is that if he understands you. It is easy for someone to say he accepts you, but it is another thing if he shows his understanding. Understanding in a way that he respects your decisions in life and trusts you in everything that you do. Finding a real friend is really a hard thing. I suggest you get a pen and paper and list down the people you know whom you think is a friend material. Then opposite their names, write down their qualities and characteristics both positive and negative. After that, count their positive traits. Who ever has the most number of traits in which you think you're looking for in a friend, then that person might be a real friend. =)
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@simran1430 (1790)
• India
5 Apr 07
Here's how I see it, if you have so many friends that you don't have the time to get close to any of them, and you get into a situation where you need someone to talk to and someone to help you, none of them are really going to be there for you...so to me, it's more important to have a few close friends, not 20 "friends"The best way to make a friend is to simply be yourself. It's only the people who accept you flaws and all, that make the best of friends. You will meet many people in your life time, but you will only make a few true friends. They are the ones that tell you when you mess up, and support you the most when you realize it yourself.
@Mickie30 (2626)
26 Mar 07
A real friend is someone who sticks by you through thick and thin when things are tough they do not walk away. The saying "A friend in need is a friend indeed" is very true. A person can be all words, but when you really need them they let you down. If you cannot trust your friend or they betray you in some way they were never a friend. True friends stick by you.
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@bluewings (3857)
25 Mar 07
The best way to know if a person is a true friend or a good weather friend is crisis.The good thing about crisis is that it shows you all your true friends.Most of them will fly away ,but very few will stick around and help you through it. If you badly want to verify if a person is a true friend then put yourself in a critical situation :).Try not to fake it though ,otherwise you might end up hurting the sentiments of the person if he or she really believes you to be a friend.
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@elairz (260)
• Malaysia
25 Mar 07
try consider this point : will they help when you in trouble without expecting anything back? if they your true friend they will help witout expecting anything.
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@Greyh22 (110)
• Philippines
25 Mar 07
That's really a good point. If they are my real friends, They'll help me no matter what. Hehe. LOL. Thanks.
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27 Mar 07
How will you know a person , that is your true friend or not, you should see the realtiy of that person, see that he is understand you or not.
@joanna08 (394)
• Philippines
4 Apr 07
if they'll tell you the truth even though it will hurt your feelings. That for me is a true friend. true friends stick with you even though you look jorrible. stand up for you in though times. Dont expect anthing from you, they just accept. They dont pressure you to be someone that you're not. :)
• China
26 Mar 07
it is easy to prove
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