Do you care what the others think about you?

@ucl800 (860)
Greece
March 25, 2007 2:38pm CST
Sometimes I wonder if I should care about what others think of me. I want to be sure that they like me and when sometimes realize that this is not the case I feel very bad. I feel I did something wrong and i do my best to prove them that they are wrong about me. But I am not sure if this is correct. I mean, if I feel good with myself and I know that I did the right think why should I feel bad when the other don't approve it? What about you?
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86 responses
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
we all care for watever other pipol would say about us but we dont have to focus on that things but instead....just always think if wat u are doing will affect pipol, will hurt others or something else but as long as u didnt do something wrong to other pipol and ur not comiting sin just enjoy wat u are doing
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• Canada
26 Mar 07
I don't care what people think of me.
@ratburn (939)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i would say i don't care about what others say. i do what i want with my life. but when i think about it, don't we all care about what others say at some point in our lives? why do we wear nice clothes and wear make-up? we say we want to feel good about ourselves. that only happens when others compliment us. at some point, we care about what others think. we even crave for their approval.
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@ratburn (939)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
thank you for rating my response as the best :) at some point, we all want the approval of others. thank you for yours :)
@pillusch (1148)
• Mexico
26 Mar 07
Isn't it funny that we always tend to think about people who don't approve of us or who don't like us? I think it's got to do with the addiction to pain we all suffer from.
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@racheld (840)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I am constantly seeking approval from all the people I meet and that became a real problem for me. I was staying in a relatinoship that I didn't want to be in because I didn't want to make his family members hate me. My whole life I've been so concerned with wanting people to like me that I never really focussed on myself and what makes me happy. It took 22 years of my life to realize that not everyone is going to like me and that's okay. I finally ended it with my guy and I am focusing on what I want out of life. I know his family and friends don't care for me right now, but that's how it is and there isn't a darn thing I can do about it. And I'm okay with that! :)
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@echoshwj (58)
• China
26 Mar 07
I have same situation like you. I should say I care what others think about me. But these OTHERS are only people I know, not including strangers. If I hear of someone dislike me or talk about what they think I've done wrong, I would be upset, especially if they are my friends. I admire those who never care what others think about them. They are so confident for themselves and they always persist their own ways. I think you're right. If we feel good with ourselves and we know that we've done right, we have no need to feel bad just because others don't see it. I back you! Let's believe in ourselves!
• Canada
26 Mar 07
I used to care what other people thought to me. It wasn't that I was looking for approval though. If people liked me it meant I was doing a good job of being a good person. Nowadays I'm no longer like that. If people have issues with me or don't like me, tough Sh!t. I am who I am and I'm not going to change. Life's too short to sit around worrying about who likes you and who doesn't. If people don't like me, I'm sure they'll get over it. After all, there's nothing that makes them any better than me anyway. We're all equal.
• Canada
26 Mar 07
I never feel bad if someone doesn't like me. I am the person that I am and I cannot and will not ever change that to satisfy anyother human being, pert, or the like. There is nothing that you can do that can "make" someone like you, no matter how hard you would try. The most important thing is that you like the person that you are, and that you are not intentionally hurting another human being. I think that as long as you carry a smile, and are a kind person, well screw'em if they don't think you are nice or good or whatever. Because how much do they really mean to you in your life anyway? We are all blessed with people that do love us for who we are as people, and we don't have to try, we just simply have to be. That should be good enough as you can't please everyone.
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@clod0327 (817)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Before I’m a worrier. I always worry about what others will think of what I will do. Before I act or decide on something, I have to put into consideration what others will think of me after doing it. But then I realize, that this is my life and I will do whatever I want with it. And if anything goes wrong, then I have nothing to blame except myself. I don’t really care now what others will think as long as I know what I’m doing is correct.
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• United States
26 Mar 07
stories of ony those people are written who dont care about the world and their thought patterns.it is the fearless who dominate and not the dormants ones.other persons expectations and views mostly bogs u down u hate to try it even fearing the failure.y should ur actions b guided by other persons mind.his environment ,his upbringing should not put down ur parents efforts. thats y i say life jiyo bindaas , khush raho na yaar(live the life to the fullest and be happy )
@mindrich (183)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
Basically I've been long time experiencing that in my life and most often as yours I found to be bad at all. Because it lowers my self-esteem and be so much dependent of others with regards to your perpective of happiness. But things went well when I let myself exposed of reading personal development books such the Seven Habits of Effective People by Stephen Covey and others. To sum up everything I learned is that - "YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR HAPPINESS AND EVERYONE IS A UNIQUE INDIVIDUAL THAT ARE NOT SUPPOSEDLY COMPARED TO OTHERS" - others happiness may not your happiness and the opposite as well. Just be yourself....
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
I used to be like that, ucl. Those were the days when I'm still immature and easily let a few bad words affect me deeply. I learned to toughen up my interior strength and just shrug off any comments that are not really true. I realized that we can't please everyone. We only need to know what's really in our head and heart. If our conscience is telling us that we're doing the right thing and we're not hurting anyone, then there's nothing to worry about. Either they accept us or not, it is their prerogative to do so. All the best. :)
@kakaqiqi (21)
• China
26 Mar 07
I aways told myself that I don't care the others think about me!but,in fact,I do!And I sense so pain for that felling,I hate that,even I will hate myself sometime!I don't want to care what others think about me ,just to live in my own way!! And it's easy said than done!
@KenYan (19)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I dont feel bad about what people think of me. Im a leader and what I say goes you know you have to stand on what you say. The only person I Care about who thinks of me is my son and the lord everybody else ha ha dont mean nothing
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@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
I do not care how other people think about me,I do something based on my personal preference, as long as I do not harm people, I will go for it even someone do not like it.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
25 Mar 07
Also someone will also against you no matter how good you have done, they just like to challenge you, you should not be affected by them, just be confident on your own decision.
• China
26 Mar 07
people have the need of being recognized. however, even the most perfect one can't be recognized by everyone else around us. on my part, i only feel depressed when the majority of my friends think i did something wrong;otherwise, i won't care much of that.
• United States
26 Mar 07
When I was younger I wanted everyone's approval but as I got older I realized that the only approval I really needed was God's and mine but it took alot of years to get there. My motto is also respect yourself and others and let God do the rest
@aso322 (75)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I think it's natural to be concerned with what others think of you. It's fine to want people to like you; it's only when you start monitoring your actions so other people will like you that I think it's going too far. I guess that would make me a hypocrite, though, because my life revolves around my anxiety. I'm so concerned with what people think of me that it seriously handicaps my actions. I've skipped meals because I had no one to eat with and I was too afraid to eat alone because I was so sure everyone would look at me and think, "Wow, what a loser." I hate shopping, because I refuse to go into my favorite stores. I'm convinced that the people that work there or other customers look me up and down and think about how I'm too fat or ugly or poor to be shopping there. These are just a few examples. It's been pretty detrimental, especially socially, but I'm working on it.
@ucl800 (860)
• Greece
25 Mar 07
This is really bad I think. Ok, i understand that you care, but don't care so much, You cannot enjoy your life like this.
@aso322 (75)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I completely agree, it's not healthy. Luckily I recently decided to get help, so I'm hoping things will get better soon.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
25 Mar 07
I used to care what people think about me but lately I don't care because this is who I am. I feel great about myself I don't feel bad unless I done something wrong.
@ucl800 (860)
• Greece
25 Mar 07
That's also what I think. thanks fro your response
• India
26 Mar 07
Sometimes i feel what people are wispering backside it may be i did correct thing or wrong but i like people who ever think about me infront me am not bother about it but people think something backside of me i don't like
@ayesha25 (91)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
i really dont care what the people say or think about me.. i just care about the opinions of my loved ones.. people are really so judgemental.. sometimes they just say something about you in order to pull you down.. i've got a life of my own to live and i dont give a damn about them..
@ucl800 (860)
• Greece
26 Mar 07
It seems you are a very lucky person.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
I used to be a person who has a fear of rejection.. What Others think about me is a big deal to me..I always see to it that my actions conform to their standards..My personality depends on who I am with. But I realized that if I keep on doing that, I am showing my very self. And I am not happy about it..So now, I am trying very hard to be just myself regardless of how others may actually feel about me..and it feel so good to be out of my shell and just be true..
@ucl800 (860)
• Greece
26 Mar 07
How did you manage to change and don't care any more? I am working on it, but it is hard
@smints8985 (1594)
• United States
25 Mar 07
Unfortunately I do, especially of how my family will think if I do a certain thing. Actually I basically care about what my family will say, if they approve of it, I don't really care as much for other peoples opinion, as long as I am doing nothing wrong and my family isn't against it. Honestly there are things that I am hindered from because I want approval from people around me, it is not the aim to please them but not to disappoint them that is. I still am waiting for the day when I can say "I used to care a lot on how people think, but I wasn't happy, now I do what makes me happy, and I am glad they are happy for me too."
@ucl800 (860)
• Greece
25 Mar 07
Don't feel bad, you are not the only one. Everyone says (including me) that he doesn't care but at the end we realize that this is not true. Especially when has to do with our familly...
• United States
25 Mar 07
It's a good think to be liked and loved. over all I don't tend to worry about this. If someone has not care in the world for me. Why would it bother me? because ,I am human,and have feelings. I don't go out of my way to be liked or even loved. I just try to be myself. You can go into a deep sadness worrying what people think of you. If your young this will soon be a thing of the past. Don't worry about what people think. I say, if you don't put food on my table who cares what you think.
@ucl800 (860)
• Greece
25 Mar 07
Thank you for your answer. It seems that very few really care about the opinion of the others. And that's good because this way we feel better.