big fight

This is how life is.I always fight with my husband.But i don't remember a time he said sorry.Maybe it is because i go and tell him sorry fast.(When it is his fault , after i say sorry , he does agree that it was his fault)But anyways,now , after 5 yrs of marriage, he is sure that i'll go to him. I am not sure if i can change anything now. But anyways , its fine with me.Because I love him just so much. And i like to see his face with a smile when i say sorry.After all , this is what i think is love.

try still talking it out this to your husband..communication plays a great importanced here..

On your birthday, now that's just not cool. On any other day I would have said "so what he didn't call, you're not his keeper, let him be" but on your birthday it would have been nice if he was more kind.

that must be hard for you. it really makes me upset specially on my birthday.

You both got into the fight, be the better person an appologize first. Many people walk away to cool down, some take more time than others -- for "the biggest fight ever" I think 6 hours to cool down was appropriate. Then when he got home you were just jumping down his throat more ----- give the man a break. . .this is not healthy. Yes you were worried but he made it home safe-- conversation should have waited for the next day birthday or not. Best of luck

I would be really mad too. Was it really your b-day? Has he said where he was yet? I can see that he would be really defensive and mad if you got really mad at him as soon as he came home, but still, you have a reason.

Sometimes it isn't saying "sorry" so much as just letting go of the resentments. I am sure that you are both sorry that you fought and wished it had not happened. I found that just saying I was sorry that we fought and not about what the argument was about was enough to get us back on track. For you husband to take off all day and leave you alone with the chores on your birthday is shallow on his part. Good luck and I hope you get everything worked out. Happy Birthday!

Say sory and get it over with. I don't mean to harm your ego but still you must say sorry if you love him and give him another chance and may be then he will feel free enough to explain what went wrong. Saying sorry won't make you low or tell you that the whole mistake was yours. Things can't be solved with a fight, you have to take it slow and calmly. Ask for forgivness and then lovingly ask him where he was and tell him how worried you were and that you missed him and am sure he will bend. Remember its always the big people who bend cause they are big. People who are small have no chance of bending cause they are already too small. And also that do to others what you want others to do to you. So take care. I will pray for you. MAy GOD Bless YOU

did i mention, that he sounds like a big baby, and would put up a tantrum if something didnt go his way. thanx for reminding me why i am single!

i think you have no mistake, because it is natural that you are worried of your husband because six hours is long enough to be got lost.and you have nothing to be sorry of because its not your mistake. and its happy to know that there is somebody cares for you then you must be thankful in that.

Happy birthday dear. Well at times there is this stuff in our mind that only we are right and the whole world is wrong, that's pretty normal. Like you had your reason to get angry ,he might be having his, so at this moment just go to him and have a talk, forget about the past because this life is too short to be angry. It's not wrong if you tell him "sorry" ,for no reasons although, that will make him realize his mistake and even he will be sorry for what he did. Try that out, it will surely work.All the best.

I might have to consider telling him where to go, not something to do on your bday what so ever. I would demand an answer because men have to much of a tendency to cheat or just do some dumb stuff. I pray you have the strenght to stay strong with this because this is one of those situations women always back down because of a mans manipulative ways. Good luck, screen the situation and follow your heart!! HAPPY BIRTHDAY by the way and IM SORRY someone could do that to you!!! BE STRONG!

Hey don't get too excited. It could be worse. I was once 24 hours late and a friend of mine went out for milk and didn't get back for 3 months. Give the guy a break, arm, leg anything you like. No seriously, better to put it all behind you and get on with your lives, both say sorry, it's not that hard.

He left you for 6 hours ..no word.. on your birthday.. and he has the nerve to be upset with you because you were worried about him? OMG..what a butthead! Men suck! well..maybe I'm biased cuz I'm kinda fresh from a breakup from the biggest a** in the world..but still.. LOL I dont think you have anything to be sorry for and he over reacted and should have understood that you were upset and worried about him. Its not like you sent out the police search teams after him..sheesh! I wouldnt say I'm sorry..but if he doesnt say he's sorry you still have to get past it and put it behind you. That's what happens in marriage sometimes. Really, if you think about it, its not important. It was just a misunderstanding and you got your feelings hurt. But, then again, did he ever say where he was those 6 hours and what took so long? seems to me he overreacted and was upset that you sent your friend looking for him..maybe he was up to no good and feeling guilty, that's what made him get mad. He probably wasn't, but you just never know.

Wow men can be such awful brats. Men like to do a thing I like to call the twist. You were upset and fighting with him so he thought well if I make her worry she will no longer be mad but happy to see I am alright. Wrong after we see they are alive we want to kill them. Your hubby is not treating you the way you should be treated. On your birthday he should do everything in his power to make you happy. It is the one day that is yours and yours alone. I am sorry it had to turn out this way for you. I wish you the best of luck in working this out with him but what ever you do, do not let him think it was okay!!!!! Happy Birthday

There is absolutely no reason he couldn't have called you and let you know what was going on. He knew you would be worried at the amount of time he was gone. That is called plain and simple courtsey and it being your birthday made it worse. He should explain to you where he was for that amount of time. He is the one who owes you a apology. You were worried and it is understandable that you called to see if he was alright.

Well if it was me I probably would not say sorry. what are you sorry for being worried about him? Some times men just do not think. Ask him if it was the other way around how he would feel see what his answer is. I am sure it will pass I have experienced this before with my husband, may next time he will think about how this might effect you. Good luck I am sure all will be well, all you were doing was caring about him.

both of you are upset, who should apologise first? i dun think it will cost u a lot to say sorry to him for having this big argument. he'll probably appreciate that you initiate with the sorry thingy. if he's got a soft spot, he might just return you with an apology as well and be nice to you. On the other hand, u may no get it anyway. I would suggest that you let him know that have been worried the whole time he was gone...tot that something bad happened to him and all. but dun nag or scold him at this point. Show that you are sorry abt it and try to resolve the matter, not ignite another bomb. Its just a guy thing to run away from problems. they need space. Its better for them to get away for a breather than face u and continue the argument in the same house. Chill...everything will be fine. Just another couple's argument. happens to everyone at one time or other.

Yes it is very true that eventhough we are in a fight with our husband we are worried of what had happened to him. In your case, he did not call and gone for so long, we are worried because there are lots of questions in our mind. Where he is now? Where did he go? What happens to him, or is he going back home? We did not have serious fights with my husband, we sometimes argue but not fights. My husband is my buddy, we share lots of funs together. He's so cool, but if there are times we argue, it takes a couple of hours..but if it happens, maybe it will not be worst as he will go somewhere and be away from home for so long.

Don't wait him to say sorry. first you take initiative and say sorry and see the result. every thing will be normal