Why do so many people on mylot have pictures of their kids as their avatars?

@filmbuff (2909)
United States
March 26, 2007 1:56am CST
Someone please enlighten me. I understand that you love your children and all, but why use their picture to represent you? Do you worry for their safety making their face so public, on a forum such as mylot? I'm not trying to be mean, I'm just curious as why so many people do it.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I have a picture of myself and my kids. My kids are older though and go online themselves. But I watch them and the pictures they choose to put of themselves online. I think most people here do it "show off" their kids in a sense. Like you would if you were showing someone a scrapbook.
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
26 Mar 07
That makes sense I guess it just seems like those pictures would be better suited to be in their personal area. Yours is a bit different because you are in the picture as well, I just see so many baby or toddler pictures as icons and frankly it's a little creepy. I'm just trying to understand. BTW, I want to commend you on watching your kids on the internet, it seems like few parents in general help their children navigate the web safely.
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Thank you. I think if parents would watch a movie called Strange Land they would be a lot more aware of what their children are doing online
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@mfpsassy (2827)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I think they should use that movie as a learning tool for parents
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@egay679 (152)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
it is basically for the fact that when you are a mom, you tend to become proud of your children and one way of showing off your kid is through pictures. i do love showing off my daughter's pics but i only choose sites that are really legal to post.
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
26 Mar 07
Thanks for your response. What do you mean by sites that really legal to post? Also, does it concern you at all to have pictures on the internet that anyone can see?
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@20031969 (934)
• India
26 Mar 07
everybody has own likes or dislikes and everybody has the right to express their desire. very simple who those are married, loves their children from heart and soul. no doubt so i do not have any objection to see child's picture at least being a father of 6 years old baby girl. thanks.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I couldn't agree with you more, everybody does have the right to express themselves and if they choose to use their children as avatars then more power to them. I just find it a odd, and I'm now beginning to wonder if I'm the only one who feels that way. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not against it exactly, it just feels weird and I want to know what their reasoning is. Thanks for your input.
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• United States
27 Mar 07
Well I think people are just so proud of there kids that they like to show them off. Its not like people know who you are.I my self put up cartoons. I don't care for anybody that doesn't know me, know what i look like. Do you really care what people look like. Do you pay attention. I really don't. I perfer cartoon pics myself. I love making online friends but don't really care what they look like.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I'm with you I don't really care what the person I'm talking to looks like, but it is nice sometimes to associate a face with a name and thoughts for that matter. In general I'm not too worried about posting a picture of myself but I am a full grown adult male, not someone who be targeted as much as say a single female or a child. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
@hcromer (2711)
• United States
27 Mar 07
It's pretty common to have a picture of yourself up as an avatar on websites, but sometimes people are too embarrassed or (like me) get tired of looking at their own face while they are on the site.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
28 Mar 07
That is a very excellent point. I can see how people would rather spend all day looking at pictures of their children as opposed to looking at pictures of themself. Thanks for pointing that out.
@Stephanie5 (2947)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I do it to show my beautiful babies off!!! I never thought of it in a bad way or think that something bad could happen to them from it. Thanks for bringing it up! I'll have to think about it...I mean, how could someone use it against you? Do you think that they would target your children out to sexually or physically harm them? Is that how you mean it? Or for someone to just steal them? You bring up a good point!
@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
28 Mar 07
To me is seems that no matter how safe you may be on mylot, you or your children could be tracked. I don't want to give anyone any ideas so I'm not going to list any methods. Sufice it to say that by nothing illegal, one could easily track a lot of users down just by the info they present on the internet and that I guess is where my concern lies. Thanks for you input.
• United States
30 Mar 07
I am a little late joining this conversation filmbuff, forgive me. Over the weekend my 5th grandchild was born. A boy :)) so I am just finally getting caught up with everyone here. This is a perfect place to interject my new family member :))) I have left my views on this topic in comments.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Mar 07
I thought about putting my son as my avatar, because he's so cute and I love to show him off. =p However, it wouldn't really represent me. Part of talking online for me is having time that is mine, that I can use talking to other people. So representing myself through my son's face just doesn't really make a lot of sense to me. I like my current avatar because I don't really want to use my picture, but the character in my picture is someone I relate to.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
28 Mar 07
That's one of the points I was trying to make, I'm glad you picked up on that. The avatar is supposed to represent who *you* are, to the rest of the mylot community. It reminds me of some strange throw back to the 1950's where women are defined by their homes and children and not by who they are and what they do. I have to admit when I see a member name like Joebloe3500672 (made up... I hope) with a picture of a 2 year old girl it kinda make me go, "Ummm, ah okay....
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Mar 07
Um, yeah, I could see how that would seem pretty strange. I suppose it makes me think of that type of thinking too, defining yourself by your home and family. Not that I don't love my husband and son, but is certainly more to me than the fact that I am mother and wife. I'm also a human being, with thoughts, aspirations, and ideas of my own.
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@not4me (1713)
• United States
30 Mar 07
Great answer lecanis - I feel the same way.
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@not4me (1713)
• United States
30 Mar 07
I think you hit it on the nose. Many users are stay at home moms and I know this won't be a popular statement but I think many moms lose their own identity when they have children and it's all they can think about and it does in fact represent all that they are. For me this is no different than talking about your kids in your user name or E-mail address. For example, my best friend and I of 20 years stopped keeping in touch because after we had kids, she became a stereotypical suffocating soccer mom and I stayed true to who I was. All she could do was talk about her kids and there was so much more to me even though I love my children very much. My children don't define who I am and I don't get along with women who dote on their kids obsessively. I just don't get that mentality. I have more talents that are much more interesting IMHO than proof of successful procreation ROFL. Also, while I do have a few pics of my girls up on my MySpace page for my friends to see, I would never have one of their pictures as one of my main avatars simply because of the amount of pedophiles out there. I wouldn't want some creep drooling over a picture of one of my girls. So long story short, I'm with you on this one.
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@not4me (1713)
• United States
30 Mar 07
P.S. I think my kids are cute, what parent doesn't, but I'm not a typical kid person and I almost never think other's kids are cute. My ego isn't so big and my parental hormones don't cloud my brain to the point that I would automatically assume everyone else would appreciate my kids' cuteness. I'm a realist. If you think your kid is the cutest thing in the world, the hard fact is most people could care less or wind up wondering, "Wow - who hit that baby with an ugly stick?" Okay that was a little mean but you get my point. The only time I judge people by their avatars is when they use their kid to represent themselves. I can't help it - I'm automatically annoyed and tend to avoid checking out their posts on purpose because I'm looking for people with varied interests right off the bat.
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• United States
30 Mar 07
That is exactly it, we as mothers lose ourselves to our children. I have had to dig myself out of that hole on quite a few occasions. I forget there is so much more that defines me as a woman, and a human being other than being a mother. I talk about my kids a lot with other mylotters because that is where I can relate to them. But what I really crave and need is that deep thought provoking conversation with adults. Ask me to show you a picture of my children and grand babies and I will pour you a cup of coffee and drag out a ton of scrap books. Ask me what my thoughts are on politics and I am eternally grateful. :))
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@deesamps (653)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I don't know why people would use their kids pictures for their avatars. I personally wouldn't. Not since seeing the whole deal on cafemom about myspace baby picture stealers. These people would go into someone's profile that was set on public. And copy and steal those people's pictures and then they would set up a fake profile with them. They would play like they were orphans and their friends would play adopt them. They would make little baby s3x stories up and sometimes even "kill" them off; sickos! So, that is why I would never use my children's pictures as my avatar even though I do love them and think they are the cuteset kids in the world.
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@filmbuff (2909)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I wasn't aware of that happening on myspace, thank you very much for making that info available to everyone here on mylot. That is just dispicable. I wouldn't post my childrens pictures either. Thanks again for adding to this discussion.