Have you ever begged a BF/GF/Husband/Wife/Partner not to leave you? did it work?

I have begged. I even went as far as to sit in front of the door so he couldn't leave. It's not like he really could just leave though. He needs a divorce to be done with me! I haven't begged since I quit drinking though, quit the opposite. I tell him go, go on and leave! He doesn't. I don't want him to leave but I don't want him to stay if he is unhappy.

catcai,i am 32yrs old now,and in my opinion,when he is no longer in love with you,it is better let him go,begging is no use.especailly in love.it may have some pain when you make your decision,but i assure you your love with me will decline day by day,and there will be a day,you can face to him peacefully.

You have to work on self love and building your esteem because no man is worth holding on to that badly if they do not want to commit to your relationship. A relationship is a partnership of two people mutually agreeing to work on issues and not throw in the towel when the relationship hits a rough patch. When one partner no longer wants to try to repair the union there is nothing you can do but to let them go. You can express your desire to be with them and work things out but if they really want out, you just have to stand out of the way and know that you will find a better person for yourself who will love you and want to be with you. But, first you must start by loving yourself and realizing that no relationship is worth degrading yourself, your needs, expectations or values for. You deserve a healthy relationship that is all yours. And the sooner you realize that, the sooner you will be ready for relationships that resonate with your spirit. Please seek some therapy to figure out what brought you to that dark moment in your previous relationship so you never find yourself compromsing your integrity again. And always remember when you are chasing a relationship, make sure that you are being chased in return. All the best, Zuri http://askzuri.blogspot.com

I have done it, and I sure did feel lame. I begged my boyfriend of a year to stay with me when we got in a stupid fight about him drinking with his friends more than he spent time with me or something like that. We ended up staying together for another 2 years after that and still are friends now, 2 more years later.

I am the opposite actually. I tell them to get out, go and never come back. Even if deep inside I am dying and want to grab on and never let go, I refuse to let someone see that weakness in me. I have been accused of being cold & heartless. But to me, I prefer to cry alone than to belittle myself in front of the very person who is making me feel that way.

I have love someone so deeply and badly! (check on my photos,posted in there our recent photo) The situation I had with him was something that I can say that weeks before i can get over to it. What we had been through is something that serves as a test in our relationship that now, its outcome is very intact, infact we don't fight too much, just little misunderstanding. Here is the story.. 4 or 5 years ago when I met my recent boyfriend. Im in the senior year in high school while he is in the freshmen year. It doesnt matter anyway. Our age range does not go too far. Im 16 at that time and he is 15. In high school there are lots of organization that you are welcome to join in.. one of that is the SCOUTING, we are both in the same organization, not knowing that inside that organization our friendship will grow deeper and deeper. In addition, at that time, I have a boyfriend far from my place, met him in the internet thru chatting. He knows that, I told him that I have an existing boyfriend, whom I cannot assure that he treats me like I do. At first, I know he has already a GIRLFRIEND, who I haven't met, but I always saw them together after class. To make the story short, We been BESTFRIENDs, treat each other as bro-sister. After school, he calls me at home,chatting and sharing stories to me, he also confide to me in regards to his relationship to his gf. After I graduated high school, he continues it until he graduated. While I'm in the other colleges, I Knew it, in the first place that his gf will move to the province, and there she will continue her studies. her gf at that time calls me sis, coz she's younger and treated me as a friend. She gave me a letter telling me to take care of his boyfriend while she is away. Not realizing that I am the one who would fall onto his boyfriend. I did not took advantage to it. In the first glance you will not noticed that I like the guy,but deep inside there is something growing deeper. When the guy, talk to me heart-heart and told me his feelings, i felt so low that he will not choose me coz there was a time that he gets confused to his feelings. He wasn't so sure about what he feels about me, that was the moment he wanted to leave me, and I REALLY BEG for it. Not to let him go. I cried a lot and really cant help myself. I dont know what to do. I didnot let him pick between me and his gf coz i know that it wasn't me he'll pick and i don't have the right to let him choose. years gone by, evrything was put into place. Before we knew, his girlfriend has another boy in the province, and that was the right time that we officially acclaimed that we are boyfriend-girlfriend. 4 months from now, we are celebrating our 5 years..I did fight for him. what i have learn is that sometimes, when you do something unconciously, it is more helpful done doing something scripted.

i never have to done that actually... and i don't think i will ever do it... i believe that if a relationship doesn't work anymore and one of the party wants to end it, then it should be that way... there is no point in holding him/her back as the relationship would not be able to work anyway... but it is different with marriage... with marriage, we can't just leave our spouse that easily as we are bounded by a holy and sacred institution when we say our vows in front of the pastor and i believe whatever has been united by God cannot be separated by human as stated in the Bible...

i have experience being madly in love to a guy but i havent experience that i beg my boyfriend not to leave me because it is so shameful and if i do that i will fell low and so little. even if i am so madly in love with my boyfriend i will never go beg to my boyfriend not to leave me but if i am the one who is responsible for our quarrel then i will be the first move in order for us to be ok and solve the problem..

I honestly don't remember if I did with my last boyfriend -- the one I loved the most out of all my past relationships. I think I did..I know I promised not to break down or tell him about my struggling with depression that night..but I think I've blocked it out. I also know I begged him to tell me why..but he refused. It was a cruel the way to left me I think. Especially directly after a night of me breaking down right in front of him and asking him to help me -- and him saying he didn't know how. "Look, I've been thinking and I can't see you anymore." *laughs* Even nearly a year later, in the few instances he's spoken to me, he never once mentions it..and he asks me why I'm upset. The jerk. It was only recently that I figured out the entire thing was to mess with my head -- he's a real mulitple personality..and the guy I loved disappeared..someone else replaced him. The same face, the same voice, a completely different person -- who enjoys making the wheels turn in my head. But now that I know, I've been able to stop playing his game heh. I don't think begging ever really works..maybe in some instances it does, but when you've somehow gotten a jerk..well. I'm sorry you had to go through that, though, Catcai.

I almost did this. I was almost about to say "please" and then I stopped myself because I could see he would leave me anyways, but my heart was so broken, I'm still really embarrassed about it. I even called him up 4 months later crying and telling him he broke my heart. I think lots of people go through things like this.

Yup I begged once.... and it worked.... It was June 24th 2003 when my class fellow was leaving the coaching center due to some mis understanding with me... I incested her for about 2 hours and it worked.... we are still friends.... and we both can't 4get that day...

Before I married my ex husband we had been going out for a few months when we talked about splitting up. I had been through a very tough emotional time and cried and begged him to change his mind, he felt bad and we stayed together - BIG mistake! We should never have stayed together in the first place much less get married. Sometimes we convince ourselves we love them but it is not really love it is dependance! I would suggest that even if he had agreed to stay with you honey it would never have worked! You are a strong, wonderful woman and you don't need a weak irresponsible man sweetheart!

I ahven't experience begging my boyfriend but I've experienced my boyfriend begging me to stay and give him another chance. I gave him another chance but I let him suffer and asked him to prove to me that giving him another chance was not a mistake. And so we're still together now. If I were you do not beg your partner to stay. Cause you know what if it's for the better. I mean it's not impossible that you find another one who's better. Be optimistic. But i know that feeling when you're really inlove but reaching to the point where you said he can have another girl while you are together, that's pretty stupid.

If someone you love suddenly left you, that means he's no longer interested in you. I would love to beg to make him stay, but deep inside I know he'll never comes back. So to save face, I will just let him go and show to him I'm okay without him. Begging is so demeaning to yourself and It would only make you regret you've done it when you get over him.

i have begged my bf....but he didnt care nd left me

Yes, shameless I have done this is one person I dated for over 3 years. It was awful, but back then I could not see living my life without him. I begged him to stay, he was wanting to leave me for someone else. I cried all night in his arms begging him to stay with me. Needless to say, he did not. The day he was marrying someone else (2 weeks later, yes I know) he came to my door and wanted me back. Studidly I took him back, it lasted a few more months with me being the other women, I hated myself for what I had become and I broke it never looking back. Now I look back and think how horrible I was to even take him back and how wonderful my life is without him. I should have done it sooner, but you live and learn.

Can't say that I have ever resorted to begging anyone to stay... which might be a reflection that pretty much ALL the breakups I've been through (including my divorce) were a MUTUAL decision, and not a one-sided one. My ex did ask me to stay a number of times, but I wouldn't have called it begging... and when we went through LOTS of therapy, she sortof admitted that she mostly wanted me to stay so she wouldn't have to "deal with" any of her OWN issues. I don't think it's a good idea to try to hold onto someone who clearly demonstrates that they DON'T want to be there, anymore.

i dont think i would beg anyone to stay with me if they wanted to go no matter how much i loved them its there choice at the end of the day.but i know of someone who went over the top and lied to her boyfriend and said she was pregnant when she wasnt he asked her to do a test so she got a pregnant woman to pee in a bottle for her and done the test then she told him she had a misscarage. how bad is that.

Hi!!!good day to you ever in my life ive never tried to be a martir because i baer in my mind that thier is a lot of guy that i will love most. it is not my attitude to stop the guy just not to live me.

SEveral Times. I tried begging, bargaining, and everything else with my husband, but it never worked. All it did was damage any chances we had of building a friendship afterwards. Now we can hardly have a civil conversation because both he and his girlfriend are afraid I am going to try and beg him to come home. Looking back I wish I could have just found a way to accept things, as we have two children together, and it is hard to make things good for the kids when we cant even talk.