Handsome Man meets Loser

Philippines
March 26, 2007 7:28am CST
I met a handsome thirtyish man on the elevator a couple of days ago. It was kind of funny because we were only two and he started asking me personal questions right when I stepped into the lift. He tried to get my number, but all he's got was my name. As always I felt insecure and awkward around men, so you can imagine how my heart racing and my tongue snatched by a cat. I thought he was only trying to make me feel alright because I was obviously on edge around him. Now I'm going to see him again, should I play hard to get or will I just ignore him? I mean he's giving me funny looks, like he's trying to tell me something.
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25 responses
• United States
26 Mar 07
If you are truely interested in this man, than let him know that you are interested in him, but don't make it seem like you are easy, but don't play to hard to get either. Sometimes a woman who seems to make herself "unavailable" a lot will turn a man off from her. Get to know this man if you wish, you may be pleasantly surprised by him.
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@dexterous21 (1180)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
There are guys like that but always be cautious. Be careful in giving your personal details to them because they are strangers. You might not know their intention. Just don't be rude to him so that you will not provoke him to do bad to you. Try to be friendly but extra careful because you don't know him.
@denden (803)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
i think you just ignore him. you must make sure first that he has a good intention to you before having a steps or whatever. dont play with him because if you will play ith him i think you will lose because we all know boys are boys..better ignore him
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• United States
27 Mar 07
Be Careful...and remember that Ted Bundy was a good looking man too..lol
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• United States
27 Mar 07
Stay away from this man. He sounds like the loser. A man of class does not act like this. You have no idea what he has on his mind. Although, I can tell you this. I do not think he is saying to himself, I hope she wants to have tea and scones with me. You can do better.
@kancil (43)
• Malaysia
27 Mar 07
Be friendly but extra carefull too... be yourself and trust your instinct. No number please until u really sure and...its ok to know him as normal friend 1st.... then c how its goes...:)
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@Kaeli72 (1230)
• United States
27 Mar 07
OMG! I would be in your position as well. Whenever I had men talk to me or even look in my general direction, I got tounge tied and I stumble on my words. I also wouldn't even look at him. Now...as to what to play...don't play any games. Men really don't like it and I would think that you weren't serious. If you had said "Should I be cautious", then I'd say "YES!!!" You should be! especially if you have children. You know about the birds and the bees...don't do it. Don't give him any reasons to see more of you than you'd want the old man down the street or your own family to see. If he's looking for a "quick and easy", then he should keep on looking. If those looks are bothering you, simply ask him, "What's on your mind?" That will open up to alot of things. :D Keep us posted of what happens...I love that 'newness' in a relationship or potential one.
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@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Well I kinda understand, I am kinda jittery around good looking men too.. ahah.. Well you're the only one who can read what he's trying to tell you, is he being natural? Or kinda obnoxious? I think you should just try to be spontaneous, just enjoy the conversation, afterall what's not to enjoy right? haha... And then try to get a feel of what he wants from you, is he really interested or is he playing you, get the vibes then act upon it. Funny looks? What do you mean by that?
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@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
26 Mar 07
well i understand what you feel ..your shyness towards man or guy..however just be cool and feel beautiful during the next meeting..isnt it wonderful someone is paying attention to you..why not give it a try..be friendly of course but very cautious at the same time..you still dont know him...
26 Mar 07
Do be careful you dont really know this man.. He might be good looking and all the rest, but the good looking ones arent always the best. If you insist on meeting this guy! Try take someone along with you! Then if he tries anything towards that you dont want, then you have someone as a w witness! If he is genuine he wont mind you taking a friend with you. I did that when I met Graham for the first time and he was fine with it! No we are the best of friends Lynn-Marie
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@salsen (108)
• Turkey
26 Mar 07
Give him a chance you wont lose anything but perhaps gain a man who loves you. And about being careful you don't have to make a great effort, women are usually very careful about men.
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@Rexy_leigh (1189)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
You don't have to play hard to get whatsoever... you can just act naturally, listen to your gut feeling..BUT be extra careful as you don't know this man pretty well yet. You can just be friends with him but don't forget to put a little gap between you guys as he's still considered a stranger. And don't easily give your personal info as you don't know yet what's he's actually up to. Have fun but be cautious. :P
• United States
26 Mar 07
i would not meet him unless i knew him. and plus funny faces mean he wants his pants down with you panties down too. understodd
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
26 Mar 07
jackie just act yourself..and what will happen is what is supposed to be happening..leave the games for future stages:) hear what he has to say and answer like you really feel answering. you will be surprised it can have a good result.
@cdparazo (5768)
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
If you are also interested in him, then go for it girl! Though it's natural to feel tongue tied but you should better be prepared to say something the next time you meet him. Believe in yourself that you are a blessing in itself for anyone who gets to meet you. I am sure that you are a beautiful and wonderful woman that any man would be lucky to be with. If he is giving you the looks then I think he is also interested in you since he tried once to get your number. Who knows, he could be the man for you.
• United States
26 Mar 07
If you think like a loser, you will convince yourself to be a loser. Relax and be yourself and just let things happen. Don't ignore him or play hard to get, just be friendly. Being sociable is not a crime. Good luck to you and hope it turns out well.
• United States
30 Mar 07
Thanks for the best response vote and again best of luck to you.
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
27 Mar 07
Jackie just be you and nothing else he has to accept you as you are. If not then he is not worth it. So be your Lovely self and just do not be to keen, be yourself and you can't go wrong Girl Good luck to you
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• Pakistan
27 Mar 07
He loves u. You should examine him first and then you shoul enlist him in your friends. If he fails you could ignore him.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
27 Mar 07
This man seems to intent on wanting to know our personal information. Be very careful. Just be very nice and polite to him in the elevator if you see him there again. Obviously this man is interested in you, it just concerns me that he sw you one time in the elevator and wanted to know all these personal things during that one encounter. So proceed carefully, there are too many wacky men out there and from my experience, most of them look like they could be your neighbor and could be very dangerous. Of course I could be wrong, this guy just could be very passionate. Just take your time and stay within your comfort level, if he is interested he will keep up, if not, he will leave you alone. One way or another you will learn if he has patience! LOL
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• India
27 Mar 07
if u like tat person then go ahead... else leav it.........
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