Cannot Get Old Boyfriend Out of My Head--What could it mean?

@vokey9472 (1486)
United States
March 26, 2007 8:32am CST
I have a problem that is really starting to bother me. Lately, I cannot get an old boyfriend out of my head. I think about him, alot! I think about how he looked, how he dressed, what made him laugh. I can actually hear him in my head, the sound of his laughter and when he would say my name. I can even remember the smell of his cologne. I haven't seen this boy, well he is a man now, in 20 years. All of a sudden he is in my every thought. I am a married woman. I haven't thought about any of my old boyfriends like this before. All of a sudden I am thinking of this one guy like I did when we were dating all those years ago. My sister says that it could be an indicator that I am unhappy in my marriage and that my mind is taking me back to a happier time. If that is the case, why didn't it just take me back to when I was happy in my marriage. I will admit that my marriage is having problems, but who doesn't have problems once in a while? I am just really confused by the fact that I am thinking about this guy so much that I have started dreaming about him. Any ideas on what it could mean?
4 responses
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
26 Mar 07
Well this is probably due to that you are not over him yet, and maybe in your marriage at this time you are not happy that would also cause you to feel the way you do and to reminence about the love that you had.
• United States
26 Mar 07
I agree with your sister. Thinking about your ex alot indicates that you are not happy with your marriage and your mind is looking for comfort. It just so happens that your comfort point right now is your ex. Don't beat yourself up about it because sometimes we can't control our hidden desires or thoughts. Just don't act on them and you'll be fine.
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@eden32 (3973)
• United States
26 Mar 07
I'd agree with your sister. I think because your having problems in your marriage it's taking you back to an easier & more carefree relationship. That doesn't mean you have to let it though. Choose to think about when you were happy in your marriage. Ask yourself what is different now. And although I am sure there are ways your husband has changed too, don't focus on that. Focus on how you've changed because you are the only person you have control over. If you try recapturing the attitude you had then, perhaps your husband will change in response.
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28 Mar 07
Its means that fellow is a real partner of yours......because a pure love is endless