Who starts the fight?

hmm hard question really, I think its a chain reaction or something like that, usually women tend to do a lot of calculations and speculations in their minds, maybe I'm wrong but it isn't true that when he doen't call or when you see something "strange" you start to think the worse like "OMG he got bored of me!" or things like that? even when you afterwards realize that this "strange" things may be also explained by perfectly normal problems like having forgotten something (we men do this most of the time :$), I think this speculation make you act in strange, really really weird ways and this is very confusing especially if you have no clue of WHY did you start acting like this. Think this way, if you make a mistake, it's not on purpose isn't it? so here when we do things that "turn on your alets" it's not because we wanted to, just like we didn't realize the consequences of it, and then when things tend to become weird we begin to feel anry, not because of real anger its just a normal reaction to desesperation (it's very exhausting having your lady in a crisis and not knowing how the hell to help her, more so if you're SUPPOSED to help her no matter what). I think it's something like this, from this point of view it's us men who start the fight but because we're being confronted with problems we don't know how to solve. :P

in my own experience its the girls who always starts the fight, a guy might start it but trust me when a man knows hes wrong he'll immediately say sorry, but often times even when the guy has already said his apologies the girls still doesn't accept and carried away or gets out of hand.

From my past relationship, I admit that I am the one who causes to stir things up. Because I was a little bit careless back then, I was not contented on simple things. I always look for other things, especially those of which are impossible to happen. But I've learned my lesson now, as I know how to take care and handle relationships smoothly. And I wish, that this time it would last..

i think it is the girls. guys may do things that is offensive to the girls and it is the girls that confronts the situation and do her thing

girls because most girls talk the mostmess

I think the one who is immature and insecure will always start the fight either the person is a he or a she. And what's important is that, the arguing party were to realize what they've done, sit down together and talk. And able to reconcile.