Long Distance Relationships!

Canada
March 26, 2007 8:41pm CST
I have a boyfriend that live in New Hampshire, USA I live in Ontario, Canada. He lives 290 some miles away from me. Would you be able to have a long distance relaitonship? Have you ever tried it? If so how did it work out for you?
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• Philippines
27 Mar 07
I do have a boyfriend who lives in South Wales and im here in the Philippines. We've been going on for 6 months now and i can say that we're getting along fine and each day has been a bright day for me even if we're far from each other. We had some disagreement sometimes but it's really the communication that is very inportant and i mean QUALITY communication. We talk almost everyday and tell each other how our day went. I think being honest is very impt, i always tell him what's going on w/ my life and the situation im in and if there will be some probs regarding to time and failing to be there the sama way i had, i always tell him in advance. I think it's the sincerity of both sides really. No matter how we try, just like in any business. If one party fails to consider the other and fails to comply w/ his obligations then it will fall.
• United States
27 Mar 07
I had a long-distance relationship w/someone in New York (I'm in Arizona). It did not work out well at all.
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@mamasan34 (6520)
• United States
31 Mar 07
I have had a long distance relationship with my fiance. We started dating while he was stationed in Mississipi, then was deployed to Afghanistan, then was stationed at Fort Bragg. We did fine, we spoke often on the phone, emailed, sent pictures to each other, visited when we could. It all depends on how secure you are and how trustworthy you are of your bf/gf.
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• Canada
6 Apr 07
I just want to thank your fiance for risking his life in Afghanistan for my continued freedom. It must be very hard to have a loved one in the military because not only are you separated BUT they are in a state of danger.... The worry must be great.
@Penfencer (297)
• United States
27 Mar 07
My girlfriend lives about 300 miles away too, and we've been happily dating for some time now. It's a little lonesome sometimes, but we try to get together every few weekends. It's a b!tch of car mileage and gas, though. Still, if you're willing to put an effort into it, it works out just as well as most other relationships.
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• Canada
27 Mar 07
Yes, the gas is absolutely nasty especially when in my area it costs right now 94 cents a litre and there are about 3.78 litres per gallon, you do the math and then say OUCH lol....
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• Canada
13 Apr 07
I'm in a long distance relationship. I'm in Guelph Ontario Canada, and my boyfriend is in Sedona Arizona. It's tough, but we love eachother, and we are making it work. If you love the person enough, distance can be worked with. Sure we miss eachother like crazy, but because we love eachother, it's worth the wait.
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• United States
27 Mar 07
I couldn't handle a long distance relationship. I might be able to last a few months, but I don't think I could handle a year or more away from eachother. That's gotta be hard. I don't know if I could be strong enough to put up with not being able to see eachother every once in awhile.
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• United States
31 Mar 07
I have seen one case where the guy & girl met online, & nowadays, they got married, & are still going strong. They had met in early 2002. Things did get a bit strained because the guy wanted to get back with his ex-wife, but that did not work out. Then when they got back together, they met, & then she packed up & moved in with him, & then married him. In my case, around that same time, things did not really work out because I was just not ready. Then near the end of 2005, I was talking with a lady & had started getting ready to pack. She was coming into my area the week before Christmas 2006, & she was going to call me when she was settled in her hotel. I never got that phone call, nor did I get any responses to her messages reminding her that I was waiting for her phone call. (She had my phone numbers, but I did not have hers.) Well, I now tell people, "He ran out on me, but the worst thing was, she took my best broom."
• Canada
2 Apr 07
I am sorry that your situation didn't work out but at least you have a postive spin on the situation.
• United States
6 Apr 07
Correction: (I'm a guy) "SHE ran out on me ..." I also usually add, "Oh, I REALLY miss that broom."
• Germany
31 Mar 07
A relationship is about the plans you have together for the future. So when you have those, and you have been together personally often or long enough to know that you want to live together after some time, then why should a long-distance relationship not work? But it would probably fail when you plan it for undefined time, or want to see, if it works in long distance, so you could see if it would near also. There is no point in planning a long-distance relationship, if not the aim is getting together as soon as possible.
• Philippines
1 Apr 07
you are definitely right. thanks :)
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@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
15 Jul 08
Long-Distance Relationships.. I have stopped believing in them somewhat until and unless they turn out into real life relationships as soon as possible.. I had been in one relationship which ended up after 3 years but we could not see each other even once in 3 years.. I met a girl online, about 5 years back. We had a nice chat and we continued to chat on alternate days for about one month. By that time she had given me her phone number so we started talking on phone. We exchanged our pics and did like each other. I even proposed her after 2 months or so and she accepted my proposal after another month. We went away nicely. But unfortunately couldn't meet each other ever. We loved each other(as i hope) and everytime i could think of meeting her(we lived in different cities) some or the other thing happened which won't allow us to meet. Situations were turning against us.Then after 2 years or so, some incident happened with her due to which our relation started declining. She was not allowed to talk to boys. And i kept on asking her for time so that i can come over to her place to see her. But unfortunately we ended up and i still don't know the reason..WHY?. I still try to contact her, but she doesn't picks up the call because she can't talk to me in the presence of her family. I ask her to give me a miss call whenever its possible to talk, but hardly she does that. So as far as i m concerned, i used to believe in long-distance relationships, but i am afraid to take any chances now. I have seen a 4 year relationship ending up in 4 months just because they got separted after 4 years. So you really can't belive.. Whats gonna happen?
@digerati (286)
• Philippines
8 Jul 08
hi punky, As much as i've wanted to, i do not like long distance relationship, for it is harder to keep. i haven't tried so i have no personal experience of it. but what i can suggest is to trust more... faith, digerati
• United States
25 Apr 08
Hi I read your discussion and thought I would share with you something,, My boyfriend (fiance) live in RI, and I love in Texas,, We are very much in love and I cant wait to spend the rest of my life with him.. If you love each other from the heart it will work, just be there for each other and visit each other as much as you can.. I am planning to move to RI, cause he cares for his father who is ill, He is the best thing that has happened to me and I don't plan on loosing that. I wont lie to you and tell you its easy cause it's not...You have to really be strong for each other and it will work out in the long run. dont give up .. if you really love him, it will work. Best of luck to ya
@Darkwing (21586)
27 Apr 07
Yes, I had a long-distance relationship and it worked out very well for quite a long time, but it isn't easy when they're so far away really. One or the other of you has to find time to travel, but I'm not knocking it. Would you consider becoming a U.S. citizen, or he a Canadian citizen? I wish you luck in your relationship and Brightest Blessings to you, my friend.
@cancatis (406)
• Brazil
27 Apr 07
Hey Punky, responding to one of your discussions. Remember me from the rock n roll discussion? =P Well, I'm on a similar situation here. But I guess I'm in a worse situation. =X My girlfriend is living 1250 miles away right now. =| Tough to handle at some times and since she's quite young, it's sometimes difficult with her parents. We're not sure but sometime in the middle of the year, she's heading back home and will be "only" 300 miles away like you are from your bf. It's a tough task sometimes but she's definitely worth it. =]
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I did. I had to pay 11,000 pesos for a 3-month long distance phone bills.
@hydz16 (12)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
my first boyfriend and i had a long distance relationship after our year anniversary after that when i went to other place to work since then mis understanding, confrontations came up until such time that i ended i relationship. I broke up with him for some reasons that causes long distance relationship.
@Shieldon (68)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
I thinkits really hard for it workout, its really different if you're with the one that you love.