Breaking up

@noyida (795)
Singapore
March 27, 2007 2:29am CST
Can you start a relationship so easily after breaking up with someone whom you had courted for so long and hoping for that person to be your soulmate? What will you do? Do you coup up in your bedroom and started to blame yourself for the breakup?. Or you clean up all the memories of him/her and once over go out and look for someone new?. Do share, thank you.
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
17 Apr 07
Well for me when I have just came out of along and bad relationship the thing I do right away is try to find someone else to hangout with until the feelings have all passed. Its like the old saying go's: Out of sight, out of mind! I just move on as quick as I can so I dont get to that depression stage and wish we never broke up.
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@noyida (795)
• Singapore
17 Apr 07
You are one such a positive person. Very spontaneous and open minded. You really don't brooch with your feeling. But emotionally, if you really love that person, it cant be too easy to just behave like what you said. Thanks anyway.
@maucute (980)
• Philippines
31 Mar 07
I don't think but it would depend if my feelings for my previous bf is long gone.. But if that situation you mentioned I'm into then it would really be a long cry for me, I know it's hard accepting it because I'm already thinking that he is the one. I've experienced that one before but months before we broke up I took a quiz online on where I'm suitable to live but after reading the result, I suddenly felt that I could really see more of things out and suddenly realizes that probably he's also not the one.. That one action really opened up my eyes in seeing the big picture and on why I should just stay there with him not even making an effort on seeing me after thinking and hoping he could be the one.. In order to get over him I could really do those things but it would depend how long I could recover myself from it, I don't just blame myself on it but I know I'll be thinking hard on things that would help me realize the mistakes we've made..
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@noyida (795)
• Singapore
17 Apr 07
Are you okay now? Have you recovered from the break up syndrome? Hope everything is all right. Let bygones be bygones, learned from what ever the mistake and move on.
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
28 Mar 07
It took me a very long time to dare myself to get into another relationship. It's so hurting to be heart broken. I am not the type to let go very easily. I did coop myself up in my bedroom and didn't even felt like eating once. I even lost 6 kilos of my weight just trying to get it over. I felt like everything is collapsing around me. But come to think of it now, it was foolish of me to behave that way. Now, whenever things don't work out, I always psyche myself and say that, it's that person's lost!! I am a lot stronger emotionally now. Thanks to that previous ordeal!!
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@noyida (795)
• Singapore
17 Apr 07
What a way to diet hah! 6 kilos thru the ordeal of breaking up. I believe that you are a lot happier now right. To think back, its a blessing in disguise that break up. If not, wouldn't you meet your current beau?.
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
no i cant start a new relationship immediately after a break up, yes it will hurt me alot but i wont blame anybody. i will just try to accept the fact that we are not meant for each other.
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@noyida (795)
• Singapore
27 Mar 07
Thank for your response. It seems that you had experience that before. Ya, I find that it will be very hard to start new relationship immediately, as the saying goes, once bitten twice shy.
@simran1430 (1793)
• India
9 Apr 07
how can you get over the pain? How can you learn to live again? How can you start viewing your single status as a fresh and fun opportunity instead of a punishment? How can you stop feeling that you are unlovable and unwantable - and that fate has marked you out for a lifetime of solitude, misery and bad luck?Well, the first step towards a new positive future is to finally accept that your ex-partner has gone and will not be coming back. This means facing your grief and allowing yourself to cry for the loss of your hopes and dreams. I am afraid that this is a painful process whether you are a young man who has just lost the girl of his fantasies or a 50-year-old woman whose cruel, philandering husband of 30 years has finally walked out.The most important thing to remember at this point is that you will get over this. I know it does not seem like it right now, but you will, believe me.