In a delemna..... what to do

There's nothing wrong on working in a competitor company a job is a job and life together is private they dont mix itself. I also wouldnt like to work in the same place where any mamber of my family would be. If you have a chance of get a job, do it, its your personal life and your husband should be happy for you by knowing he has someone in the house that can be smart enough to work and provide some extra money in the house, for having a capable person beside him. If a job will make you happy, go for it and good luck.

No you have not done wrong and I think your Husband needs to respect you on that matter it never works when you work for the same Company, why would it make him the laughing Stock? As far as I can see it from this en, you did the right thing there and don't let him tell you otherwise You go for what you want to do and where you want to work Good luck on your new Job Sweet

Hi Sutan, I would say that this has nothing to do with your working for a competitor, but it is all about power and control. from appearances he has control right now because you are the good little woman staying at home looking after his children, How possessive can you get? My feelings are you are entitled to do what you desire, that being said,that is a very insightful statement because you are the one that has to live with the consequences of your actions. and I have no idea what your life is like, and it would be foolish on my part to suggest such a move, I believe that you probably will have to make some decisions in the near future, but if you can get to the root of your husbands insecurity's, ( otherwise why wouldn't he have asked you to join his company long befor this) and his trying to control you, Has he always been like this or is this entirely new,? As for his feelings he is just using those to try to control you, again with the insecurity, but they are his feelings and fears and he needs to deal with them. I would also tell him how his reaction to you working for his competition is affecting you, being angry insulted and frustrated is what I believe you said, this is not good to have these feeling about your spouse ever, I honestly believe there is a whole other story under the one he is giving you, and until you know for sure you will be fighting about something that is not even real. Sorry I have wandered a bit I hope you can understand what I was trying to say. Robin

First off, the only conflict with his job would be if HE was working at the competitor. Second, most company do not allow spouses to work together as it can cause lots of problems, especially if one spouse is in a position of power as your husband is. You have the right to work anywhere you want to work regardless of where your husband works. Why would his co-workers laugh at him? Does he tell them every little detail of his personal life? Also, why does he care so much about what they would think? It is in no way degrading to him for you to work at his competitor. If he has a problem with it, well that is his problem. You do not need his permission to work anywhere. If the right job for you comes along, regardless of where it might be, he should be happy and supportive of you. It sounds to me like he just doesn't want you to work. Maybe he is afraid that things will change too much if you go back to work. You have to do what you think is right in your heart. Besides, you were just applying for the job, it's not like you actually have been offered the job yet. He needs to just chill out and be a supportive husband and stop being a jerk about it.

Hi, sutan74. I think you should talk it first with your husband. But then, you should give way to your him. Wouldn't it be nice if both of you go home together and share same things with regards to friends and bosses? Your husband is your family. You married him. It's already a plus factor that both of you can work. I suggest that you try it out in 6 months to a year, maybe. Then if your husband finds it that your point of view is correct, with regards to your being uncomfortable, then I'm sure he'd let you try another one.