Which is Easier, Letting Go or Moving On?

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@ydnac22 (802)
Philippines
March 27, 2007 10:17am CST
Friends just thought to ask this. Which is easier to do? Letting go? or moving on? Please explain your choice. Thanks :)
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@joanna08 (394)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
for me you can't choose between LETTING GO and MOVING ON. When a boyfriends break-ups you before you LET GO, you should first start to MOVE ON, get on life without the person. MOVING ON is easy to the ear compared to LETTING GO, It's a process, LETTING GO isn't eay so you have to MOVE ON FIRST.
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@joanna08 (394)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
inshort, MOVING ON is much more easier to do... :))
@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
Thanks ms joan..yeah this two things goes together.YOu cannot go on without letting go or vice versa.Its true sometimes its easier to move on sometimes than letting go especially if your realtionship end up very worst.:)
@racheld (840)
• United States
27 Mar 07
I agree with some of the previous responses, you have to let go before you are able to move on. I do think that if you move on before you completely let go, it makes it a little easier. Unfortunately I did a lot of moving on before letting go. I would be in a relationship and in my heart I knew the relationship was pretty much over, but I didn't let go until I moved on. I didn't end my relationships until I knew there was someone else to take his place. I know that sounds horrible and I'm pretty sure it had something to do with my insecurities, but I'm proud to say its not like that anymore. I recently broke up with my man and there is no one waiting for me in the wing. I'm going to build up my self confidence and learn how to be on my own without a man. I've let go of the man I thought I loved and needed and I'm going to move on by myself and to no one else for awhile.
@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
wow!I was touched by your thought. :)I understand all what you said! Sometimes its very hard to let go specially if you havent find someone who will take his place in his heart.I have also felt that before.Im just happy to know that you have learned now to let go and just be with your own without having another man around. :) Thanks so much rachel :)
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
27 Mar 07
In my opnion it is not easy to do either. It depends on the situation. If it haas to do with dealing with a boyfriend/girlfriend then once you are over the initial shock of it happening you will be able to get over it and also move on. Again it depends on the situation.
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@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
yeah nice thought.It all depends on the situation.In my case based on my experience i found letting go harder to do than moving on. Thanks mag. :)
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
I guess letting go... sometimes when we're too hurt we find it easy to let go... since during that time anger and pain is in our heart... but the moment we realize the fact that he/she is no longer us... moving on is harder...the memories... the thought that we loose them forever...almost tear us apart. sometimes we ought to ask ourselves if we made the right decision... easier said than done.
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@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
wow i was impressed by your thought.Yes sometimes moving on is the hardest thing to do.Once we're in deap pain and our heart is full of anger as if we want to kill that person of course we will not think anymore if we need to let him go cause our anger alone is enough to push us to decide of letting go.:)but then if we realised that that person isnt yours anymore its very hard to move on. Very nice thought! Thanks a lot ms.lucky...
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Actually it depends on the situation. Letting go of what and moving on to what? If you are referring to your relationship that is turning sour, then let go of him or her. Maybe that person is happy if your will let him go. But it doesn't mean loosing him will be the end of your line. You've got to move on to find your equal happines or your new life. Who knows your happiness or your success is in in this next chapter, isn't it
@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
yeah im talking about a relationship that turns sour.I agree with you,its really important to let go and move on cause thats the only way we can help our hearts to mend and give chance to be happy again. Thanks madam.:)
• United States
27 Mar 07
Moving on and letting go- to me you can't do one without the other. If I would have to pick I would guess that letting go is the hardest thing to do because it's the first step that you have to take in order to be able to move on. You have to truly let go of someone or some situation that you are involved in before you can move on to the next step in your life. Take me for example I was in a long term relationship and it took me a long time to be able to let go of that relationshp once it was over. But I would still say that I am not to the place where I have moved on. I haven't started dating again because i'm not read to open myself up to that pain and potential heartbreak again. But letting go and accepting that it was over was definently the hardest part.
@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
very well said! :)That's exactly what i have in my mind. Letting go is the hardest thing to do cause it involves acceptance of the reality that you and your partner are not meant for each other.Its very hard to let go and end up those happy memories you had with that very special person in you.Moving on will follow after you have learned to let go.Its not also easy but this thinking that you have no more choice then you will just try to move though its a long process. Thanks a lot Amber.:)
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
27 Mar 07
arent they both one in the same. you cant move on til you let go.. either way, its the best thing to do to rid yourself of bad situations. the only thing to do as a matter of fact.
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@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
Yeah it goes with one other. You cant move on if you dont want to let or vice versa. Thanks a lot lpetgets. :)
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
27 Mar 07
hmm, I don't actually know what is easier, nut I think that it is very important to learn how to let go! because if you see that there is no other way you can be with the person anymore it is better to let him go, before it is too late. and too late it is when you spent too much time on him and in the end anyway deside to let him go.
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@ydnac22 (802)
• Philippines
27 Mar 07
yeah letting go is very important and thats the steeping stone on how to give chance for your heart to mend. Thanks sole :)