The right things

we do make some mistakes sometimes. and some of them are quite obvious. but we are still willing to make that mistake cos u would appear smarter when u have done that . and it is also a good way to do everything right , a very difficult task though. there is no perfect man in this world. and we are unable to let alll the people around us do the right things. cos they are right. there must be something wrong. so we cannot prevent the the wrong things happening . they are doomed to happened. if there is nothing wrong with the wrong things. how could that be right things/?

yeah, i totally agree. it's like stealing versus working for your food. the first one is easier but it's wrong. it's wrong not because it's easy but because it's unfair for those who did the honest thing to do, unfair for those who worked for a living. so i guess what it comes down to is how our actions affect the others. small deeds may have really really grave consequences.

I think sometimes it's not only that doing the right thing is so hard but it's not a quickly fulfilling to do them but later you reap the benefits. For example, it's tough to be the good guy and let someone go ahead of you if you're not in a hurry yet when you do allow someone else to move ahead you later realize that this action could have been the one thing that helped make that person's day more tolerable. Finding money and getting the instant gratification of being suddenly slightly more rich feels great and instantly; while finding money, taking the time to turn it in so it's rightful owner can claim it gives you no immediate gratification until you think about the idea that this could be someone's last dollars or only income, etc. and you may have simply made their day as they get back something they probably didn't expect to ever get back. I think it's a matter of gratification and our society needing instant gratification. I try to remember what I would feel like if I were in the other person's shoes. That usually helps me make the right choice.

Hi Kithat1 that is a good one. Its so very hard to do the right thing these days. We know what the right thing is to do but alot of times when tend to just leave things they way they are. Yes your a right its so much easier to leave things as they are. But I have learned if we dont take care of these things in our life it will come up one day and bite us.

That is a very good question and a hard one to answer. "Strong" here is the key word. Most people are not mentally strong enough to go out and look for somebody else. It is very hard these days to find a good friend... and even harder to find the right partenaire. We put up with people because it is convenient for our purpose and easier than to go out and look for someone else. It is only when our situation become unbearable that we move out... as it is not convenient anymore. I also had some bad experiences with friends... and sometimes I think it is better not to have anyone at all than being with someone who makes your life a misery.

I can see alot of different answers to this one. As far as putting up with things we shuoldnt in relationships I think we do that because we hold onto a false hope that things will get better. I have heard plenty of people complain about the relationship they are in but when it comes down to it every individual has to decide when they have had their fill of it. Sometimes we do the wrong things just by being quiet and not saying anything for fear of upsetting anyone. The popular opinion has seldom been the right or the morally right opinion thru history. As for being strong enuff to do the right things I think you need to remain true to yourself to be happy in life.

To be honest with you I am a born again Christian and though it is probably easier for me to do the right things I still find it difficult. However, as I have asked Jesus into my life whenever I do something wrong I know that I have done something wrong and I don't want to do it because it would be disobedient to God who I love and He is my father. Just like when a child does something wrong to their earthly dad they get upset and their dad hurts. Well for me I know that if I did something wrong it would hurt God and I don't want to hurt God so I don't do it. I still get tempted though just that I feel very bad if I did do something I knew was wrong so I would rather not do it. Some people haven't got this they think they can do everything wrong and never have to answer to anyone for it. Jesus is my rock and my anchor in life. I still swear every so often then feel really bad afterwards so I ask God to forgive me. I know you probably didn't want to have a religious answer, but it is who I am happy to be like this. In todays society many people have gone away from Biblical teachings and they do their own thing which causes a lot of pain and suffering.

if you have a conscience, any at all, we know the right thing to do. It kind of eats at you if you don't. right/wrong is all about the morals that you have or were raised with. i do try and do the right things in my life, and i know i don't always choose the right thing. You have to rise above the situation and take the better path. Its not always easy-but if you don't, then you have no one to blame for the outcome-but yourself.

Doing the right thing is truly HARD. One has to be strong to always do the right thing, but again there is NO human being who can say that HE/SHE has always done what's right. I know i am a stong woman who has a strong character, yet i also make mistakes because even how strong i tried to be, i keep on falling or stumbling down, my weakness kept pulling me down. What i do, is strive the next time not to make the mistake. Especially if it has been a habit, the more it is hard to overcome.

Getting used to do something makes us so comfortable about things and about life and sometimes it becomes our attitude and character. For you not to regret in the end, have discipline in your life. Disclipine makes us do right things everytime we do something. the more we do it, the more comfortable it gets to do it until it becomes your lifestyle. Isn't it great to do right things at the right time?

bcoz we feel diffrent n adveture in wrong things

well i dont know how many right things i have done in my life buti am sure that i have done some

Just think about what you want most.

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Your right!!! If it was easy to do the right thing all the time we would do the right thing all the time. However that is usually not the case... The wrong thing seems to be the right thing to do and we are to lazy to work towards doing something good. I don't think there is anything that you can do to become strong enough to do the right thing... except to make up your mind and say I'm going to do the right thing... and stick to it.

well, it is so true... and the only reason that i can think about is because of our sinful nature... we tend to choose and do the wrong things because of our sinful nature... on top of that, they look more tempting and seem easier to be done rather than the right things... it takes a lot of courage and faith in God to be able to do the right things and making the right decisions...

thats what we called temptation...we know its not right but we easily tempted by doing the wrong things coz we thought that its more enjoyable and fun and not boring..

Oh I think that everyone is different and it may be that it is a lot easier to stay with that person than trying to leave them and a lot of people do not want to be by themselves, and start a fresh life. Also in regards to friends sometimes we do meet up with friends that we really should not associate or be friends with but when someone tells us this we try to find out for ourselves as some people are completely different with one person to the next.

People make choices based on one of two things. They either want to increase their pleasure or they want to avoid pain. Sometimes the think that gives them pleasure is not good for them or for others, but they choose to increase their pleasure and to decrease the pain of giving up what gives them pleasure. Often it is easier to do what is not good for you. For instance, it is much easier for me to eat what I want and gain weight than it is to eat just what is good for me and lose weight. Offer me chocolate ice cream and watch me choose the ice cream! People stay in painful relationships because they get something out of it or because they are afraid of leaving. Battered women more often than not return to their abusive husbands because they need the financial support, or the identity of being a "wife", or they find it easier to fear for their safety where they can see it coming than to live in fear that they will be found. There are all kinds of reasons. And not all of them make any sense. I believe that what makes us strong is facing our fears and doing what we believe is right in spite of our fear. You just get stronger by doing the right things, the hard things, and gaining confidence in yourself. We each have what it takes. It is just that sometimes we need the support of others to believe in ourselves.

As to the examples you gave, I think most people have poor self esteem and that's why they don't do the right thing for themselves. If everyone had enough confidence in themselves and felt good about themselves, they wouldn't allow others to treat them disrespectfully. Unfortunately, that's not the case. One thing that can help a person feel stronger is stop all the negative self talk and start using positive affirmations daily. Also, being grateful for what you have is another way to help feel better. Eventually, you will realize you deserve to be treated with respect.