When two of your friends break up, what do you do?
By Penfencer
@Penfencer (297)
United States
March 27, 2007 6:48pm CST
Say two of your friends have been dating for some time, and rather out of the blue, go through a nasty break up and don't want anything to do with each other. What do you do? Do you try to stay out of it as much as possible? Do you pick one side to support?
I've always done my best to stay impartial to it, but I know some people like to back whoever they think is the "victim" in the situation. What about you?
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5 responses
@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
28 Mar 07
it's difficult to take sides. it's also difficult to be impartial to it especially when 2 of your close friends are involved.
i tried staying out of it for a while, but they kept on involving me. -lol-
i would listen to both of then one after the other until my ears split.
i didn't take either side, although one of them is really at fault. i didn't tell either of them who is the victim in the situation coz i think they both are in some way. it was unfortunate that their relationship had to end so soon.
i encouraged them to talk about it. it wasn't resolve actually. 1 year 4 months after their break-up, and not talking to each other... the 3 of us met. this time around (ohhh this is complicated), i'm the girlfriend and my bestfriend is the ex. we figured, it's high time things were resolved. and it did. at the time, both of them were into another relationship already and was able to move on.
@Penfencer (297)
• United States
28 Mar 07
I know the feeling. Even when I try to be impartial, they end up dragging me into it, most of the time. I'm glad most of my friends these days are either single or practically married. Yay for stability.
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
27 Mar 07
I really hate when that happens because I don't know what to do. Sometimes I'v tried staying friends with both, and other times I'v picked sides but not conncsiouly just over time it seemed I hung out more with one than the other.
@Penfencer (297)
• United States
27 Mar 07
That's happened a few times as well, though usually not because of any favoritism on my part, I think. It's definitely an awkward situation though.
@crackhead (1826)
• India
28 Mar 07
It's really a difficult situation, both are our best pals and we dont like to see them departing on some kind of blue. Well i will try to assess the situation and get in deep , find out what happend and will try to resolve it , if i cannot then i will stay passive. I dont take sides unless i come to a conclusion that one is badly hurt cause of the other. I really dont like taking sides though.
Good discussion penfencer.
@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
27 Mar 07
I would stay as far from this as I can. Remain impartial if they are both your friend. In most cases you will lose one friend because it will be hard to get together with groups of people because of course those 2 pepople will not want to be together. Also, one of the people involved could accuse you of taking sides and not like you anymore. All I have ever said to my friends is that I liked them both and that I didn't want to get involved.
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